I am sure this has been discussed many, many times, but I am going to start a new thread as this is driving me up the wall!
Why, why, why, why, why does every random Tom, Dick and Harry (or actually every Thomasina, Richenda and Harriet - it is always old women!) feel that it is acceptable to accost me and tell me their views on how I carry my son?!
I use a woven wrap or a homemade mei tai and I generally do a back carry. I am sick to death of explaining that no, he won't fall out or suffocate and yes, he is actually fine, and no, I wouldn't prefer to use a pram. I am sick of watching out of the corner of my eye as the original offender mouths things about me to any other old lady who will listen and pulls exaggerated faces to show her displeasure. I am sick of finding some random woman on the bus trying to adjust my sling "in case he falls out". I am sick of it, all of it! I have always been polite up to now but I am about to crack. Some suggestions from my OH and some of our friends about suitable responses to the cries of "he is going to fall out" have been:
"Oh my God, he is! Don't just stand there - do something!"
" Yeah, the last one did"
"Well if he does then at least you can say I told you so - unhappy baby but happy old lady"
"baby? what baby? Are you mad?"
Any other light-hearted ideas? I really don't want to lose my temper and start being rude - I am always respectful to old people, but it is happening up to 3 or 4 times a day, and bearing in mind I work full time so that is squeezed into about an hour split between morning and evening, it is pretty incessant!
What really annoys me is that they don't seem to feel it appropriate to accost ladies from African countries who use traditional wraps (although I would love to see one of them try it with the Ghanian lady I chat to on the bus - I think she would actually throw them off the bus!) - is it only white babies who might fall out of slings?!
Why, why, why, why, why does every random Tom, Dick and Harry (or actually every Thomasina, Richenda and Harriet - it is always old women!) feel that it is acceptable to accost me and tell me their views on how I carry my son?!
I use a woven wrap or a homemade mei tai and I generally do a back carry. I am sick to death of explaining that no, he won't fall out or suffocate and yes, he is actually fine, and no, I wouldn't prefer to use a pram. I am sick of watching out of the corner of my eye as the original offender mouths things about me to any other old lady who will listen and pulls exaggerated faces to show her displeasure. I am sick of finding some random woman on the bus trying to adjust my sling "in case he falls out". I am sick of it, all of it! I have always been polite up to now but I am about to crack. Some suggestions from my OH and some of our friends about suitable responses to the cries of "he is going to fall out" have been:
"Oh my God, he is! Don't just stand there - do something!"
" Yeah, the last one did"
"Well if he does then at least you can say I told you so - unhappy baby but happy old lady"
"baby? what baby? Are you mad?"
Any other light-hearted ideas? I really don't want to lose my temper and start being rude - I am always respectful to old people, but it is happening up to 3 or 4 times a day, and bearing in mind I work full time so that is squeezed into about an hour split between morning and evening, it is pretty incessant!
What really annoys me is that they don't seem to feel it appropriate to accost ladies from African countries who use traditional wraps (although I would love to see one of them try it with the Ghanian lady I chat to on the bus - I think she would actually throw them off the bus!) - is it only white babies who might fall out of slings?!