Saying hi and introducing myself

[jaala]

Hi, Just thought I would say hi and see if theres room in here for me.
Me any my ex broke up 3 months ago now, but Im just being able to talk more and act like a human being again. I have a 10 month old son and i'm 6.5 months pregnant now.
The first was planned the second was our bonus baby.
FOB was a friend in highschool and we got reaccquainted but he just is nothing like I thought and especially after finding out about baby #2 became more and more frequently enraged at me to the point of telling me he was going to kill me and raising his hands to me. He was also terribly insulting to me, and just the other week when he was watching LO (they were napping together) LO woke up and I was in the laundry room .. when I came back my phone was smashed and baby was alone and crying fearfully in his play pen.. so i know there is no going back. Now I don't even want him in my apartment to visiit.. and I havent allowed him to take LO by himself yet bc of the rage I've seen come off him, so Im sure contact is going to be absolute minimal now.
So thats my story and hope I can join this section! tty ladies soon.
J

 

[lal]

Welcome J! I've only been on here shortly, but this is such a great group, it has been such a help to me - you will certainly fit right in I am sure! So sorry about your ex, good news is, there's lots of us and I think everyone on here seems fantastic - none of us should have any trouble finding wonderful partners someday, if we choose to, and in the meantime this group is so supportive. Best wishes for the hard part (the beginning) - and glad to have you here!

 

[LittleMadam]

Welcome Jaala!

Sounds like you got out before he did you or the LOs serious harm so well done. Takes courage to leave an abusive relationship. Be sure to call the police if he starts making threats or is abusive during visits if only just to record his behavior.

Hope things work out!

 

[whoops]

Welcome!

Well done on getting out of that relationship. It sounds like you'll be much better off!

 

[jaala]

Thanks ladies. I've been really wishy washy up until the last incident.. bc he says he will change and hes so sorry and stuff.. but its not genuine. I can't believe how much the female heart is willing to forgive! But Im out for good.. there is no trust left and I have to put the kiddies first.. id never forgive myself if they were the ones at the recieving end of his anger.
Im thankful for good friends and family.. and my own apartment . It got so bad that I moved out late at night as he works the night shift at his employment. It was the best choice.

 

[Mincholada]

so sorry to hear, but glad you and your lil one made it out safely!!! welcome to this lovely bunch of single mums making it through the good & bad times.

my FOB has a real anger problem as well ever since i broke up with him over finding out at 16 wks that he had been lying and cheating since the beginning of our relationship and that his financial situation was so bad that i had to realize that i would be better of without him. he's been verbally abusive since and got me so upset several times that i was crying for hours and just couldn't stop and got contractions etc... luckily he's not done any physical harm to me, which might be due to me being 2 inches taller than him, but if he had ever raised his hand against me, i don't know if he'd still be on this planet...

i haven't heard from him in 6 weeks and don't want him around my baby until he visits some anger management classes and gets his act together, which i doubt he will. he has yet to put a penny down for the baby and since this address is still listed as his "home", but he's living who knows where, i see all the bank letters for him coming in and since the envelopes are pretty see-trough, i know that he's in major overdraft on his accounts, so he might just choose not to be involved with the baby after all.... we'll see!

i'm just glad i don't have him around and although it's tough, it's manageable!

you'll be just fine just you and your babies!!!!!! at least you have family and friends around. i'm all on my own across the ocean (me here in south florida, family & friends in germany), so that's a little scarier!

 

[teal]

Hello and welcome
Really sounds like you're better off xx

 

[jen1604]

Welcome honey

 

[Neferet]

Welcome! sounds like you're definitely better off not being in that relationship.