Scared history is repeating itself

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Hi everyone, sorry if I waffle on here but here's my background.

After three years of trying I had a chemical pregnancy back in 2009 followed by another pregnancy the month after. That time it stuck and I know have a beautiful son who was more than worth the wait. I had some spotting when I was pregnant with him but it was always a dark brown and never very much and there was never any pain, I was given a scan at just over six weeks and another at 10 weeks as well as the usual scans and all was fine.

Then after a couple of months of trying this year I got pregnant again. I suffered a bit of spotting and some cramping at 6 weeks but told couldn't have scan till 7wks - when I went they could see the sac but no fetal pole so had to wait a week for another and they did blood work. HGC was so high they should have seen something and so thought it might be ectopic, cue hospital visits every few days. My 2nd HCG reading had gone up but it hadn't doubled as it should and then next scan showed a slight increase in size and it looked like it might be developing into twins but still no baby to be seen. At 10 weeks it had actually shrunk and it was termed a missed miscarriage and I then had to take tablets to bring it on (worst moment of my life!).

That was back in Aug and I'm now 6wks 4days again. This pregnancy feels exactly the same as the one I lost. My symptoms are really strong and I have bloated up like a balloon and already can't do up my trousers but I am also spotting again almost every day since 5 weeks and experiencing mild cramps and lower back ache.

I am really panicking. I know that strong symptom are meant to be a good sign but I hardly had any when I was pregnant with my DS and the only time I've experienced them this strong was with the miscarriage so I am finding it really hard to stay positive.

I have been told I can't get a scan before 7 weeks and that I will need to ring them again at the end of the week and say I am bleeding again before they will arrange it. My DH doesn't want me to as he found the in and out of hospital part the hardest last time, he would rather just wait and hope for the best but I'm undecided. I really want a scan to try and put my mind at rest but at the same time I really don't want to go through all the doubt after the scans last like last time.

Sorry this post has been so long, I think I just needed to vent.

Has anyone else felt like they were having the same signs as a previous miscarriage but gone on to have healthy baby?
 
Oh I'm sorry for you losses hunni :hugs:
I have no experience to add but thinking of you. Whatever you decide to do its going to be hard - whether waiting and "hoping for the best" or having those extra scans. Myself, I'd be going for scans but thats just because I have no patience and waiting and hoping are not things I'm very good at
FXed everythings fine - I'm sure it will be :hugs:
 
I had a mc in July at 6 weeks. Was spotting and went to casualty who then sent me to EPU for a scan, where they could not see anything. Later that day I bled heavily. I am now pregnant again and have contacted EPU today and going for a scan next Monday. I still remember the horror of lying on that bed and nothing on that screen and still having to go back every two days to get bloods tested etc. I have been ttc for a long time(more years than I can remember) and was on wait list for ivf. Me and hubby have no kids and I am 38 so I really feel that time is running out for me. But personally if something is wrong I want to know sooner rather than later. Good luck with what ever you decide and hope everything goes well with your pregnancy
 
After my first daughter I had a misscarriage at 10 weeks - bleeding and backpain. Than I didn´t get pregnant, I thought we would just have this one child - I was ok with it, because she is a great kid! I set up a shop and startedto work again, we were happy with our life.

Then, after six years I got pregnant again - we were sooo surprised! But then I had the same symptoms as with my misscarriage. We went to the doctor, he did a scan - and saw two beating hearts! I had to stop working and spend almost two months in bed, but it was so worth it! My twins are four today and very healthy kids.

Although it is true that you have to be more careful if you have lost a child, it is also true that each pregnancy is different!

So take it easy, get some rest and all the best to you!
 
With my mc I have weak symptoms but no spotting or pain till I started to actually mc ( I identified it with cb conception indicator as at 7 weeks the indicator was back at 1-2 weeks again - so I knew I was mc before it happened ).

This pg I had stronger symtoms and also slight cramping as if af was coming on - but so far so good :cloud9:

each pg is different - take heart that just as certain symptoms relate back to your mc it doesn't necessarily mean that this is the same this pg.

Hope your little bean is safe and sound in there

hx
 
Thanks everyone for sharing your stories, hopefully we will all be luckier from now on.

I talked it over with my husband last night and we have both agreed that we don't want to wait any longer. I called the midwife this morning and they have booked me in for a scan on Thursday morning when I will be exactly 7 weeks. Fingers crossed all will be well and I can stop worrying and just enjoy being pregnant again.

I will keep you all updated. xx
 
Best of luck llama :hugs: I'm sure all will be well.

I just had an early scan due to spotting and a mc back in September. I was convinced this pregnancy was going the same way, as my mc started with spotting and absolutely no pain (this one had been the same)

This morning I have been lucky enough to see my little bean tucked up all cosy with it's little heart flickering away :cloud9: You will too.

Take care and let us know how you go :hugs: x
 

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