Scared & in denial :(

[Hangin_On_AGS]

I'm also 22 and expecting my very unexpected Princess. I'm glad your dad came around. when you have a supportive family I think it makes it much easier to get through it. My parents have been very awesome, including letting OH move in when his parents kicked him out. Good luck at your appointment on the 9th! If you need a bump buddy or just ever wanna talk let me know!

 

[MamaButler]

Okay so to start off I am 22 years old, I know thats not a teen..but I saw my post to be most fitting to this board. I took my second test today and it showed a faint positive line...I am assuming that is accurate by the directions on the test..it said any second line was a positive. I havent had a period since mid August...it took me this long to actually admit to myself I am probably pregnant. I am still living at home with my parents, and terrified to tell my dad. He has told me before I better not get preg. I feel like I have been in denial because I havent told anyone except my mother and boyfriend...my mom thinks I'm too young, and my boyfriend wants me to see a doctor to make sure everything is ok. He is less scared than I am! I have been ignoring the fact that I am probably pregnant..and today got the confirmation. The shock is beginning to fade...but I am devastated...I don't know what to do...I can't continue living at home and have a baby...don't feel ready at all..just want to keep it a secret from myself and the world. Its so depressing. Really need some advice on what to do from here...I'm so scared I'm too young for this and I wont be able to support the baby, or be a good mom...I just want to keep hiding it from everyone/myself

Hi there,

I am not a pregnant teen- but am the daughter of a pregnant teen My mom and dad had me when they were 16 years old. They were wonderful parents. They did get married, but got divorced shortly after. They didn't have a ton of money and I can't say that they always made the most perfect decisions- but they loved me and that was always the most important thing. It sounds so cliche, but honestly, as long as you love your little miracle everything will be ok. My parents were proof of that. I had my first child at the age of 29, so I was anything but a teen parent- I have followed my parents example though and sincerely believe that providing safety and love are all that matters.

If you can look into AP or Natural Parenting- my mom didn't have a name for it, but it was the style she tended towards and I can't speak highly enough of how secure it made me feel. Keep in mind that we lived with my grandparents growing up, most of the time in a partially finished basement. We DID NOT have extra money.

Don't be too hard on yourself- my Grandmother always says, a baby is always a blessing and I believe it! Your lo will be the most amazing miracle you could ever have! Don't let your parents scare you away from enjoying it! Also, I don't know where you live- but my mom did go on Welfare for a short period of time and took advantage of the Aspire program so that she could go to college and get a degree. She has been a respiratory therapist for over 20 years now. Anyway- hope this helps!

Hugs!

Eliza