scared of dying

[funkyfish586]

I know this is probably stupid but is anyone else scared of dying during childbirth. I keep hearing horror stories & im all of a sudden v v scared. This is my second and the 1st birth was v stressful. Am i being stupid?

 

[NG09]

No I don't think you are being stupid at all. I am scared aswell!! Everyone tells me not to b daft but it is really difficult when it's something you are truly worried about!! I have a severe phobia of death as it is so this doesn't help!!! You can rest assured you're not on your own!!! xx

 

[aiimee12345]

im worried too.. about everything really the pain.. the doctors doing something wrong... bleeding!! everything jus hope i wont feel like this forever!!
x

 

[MissO]

omg me too, was only discussing it wiv OH this morning. glad im nt the only one. think its a natural response to a big event. its very very rare so im tryin not to let it take over my head.

xx

 

[BrookieG]

maybe im really naive and stupid...but is death a big risk during childbirth?? x

 

[baileykenz]

me the same even talked about will e.t.c as i was so scared on second..this time i not as bad as just worrying about my babe due to downs risk..
it is very normal though
emma

 

[sophxx]

i had my baby on sunday and i was so scared i was going to die the midwifes were fab though they said that it just hardky ever happens how many people do you know who its happened to? and how many people have babys!

theres loads they can do to help if your bleeding to much theyll give you a drip to make your womb contract and you stop bleeding! dont worry about it (easier said than done i know) but it will only make things worse in the long run! x

 

[SKATERBUN]

No Im not, Im more concerned about anything happening to my baby and partner!
Im hoping Im going to be calm and brave on the day as this will help reduce the pain as Im a naturally anxious person. But pain is in the mind so meditation can help with dealing with stress and anxiety so Im going to give this a go.

 

[Nimyra]

Its hard to deal with fears, even if they are mostly irrational. I'd suggest giving yourself a daily affirmation - that you are fine and well and will live a long and happy life - something like that. The repetition can really help combat persistent fears or messages you are telling yourself. Since you know you will probably be scared when your delivery day comes, you could also work on writing a great birthplan, or finding extra emotional support like a doula for the day of.

 

[Noirin]

defo not being stupid hun this is my biggest fear but just think soo many other women have kids and be fine and u had a child already n are still here to tell the story thats the only things that calms me down...its my 1st like but i just think every1 else gets threw it so why not me !! xx

 

[lauraperrysan]

i think the risk is quite low, esp in a country where medical care is very good compparing to 3rd world countries where women have their babies in mud huts with no midwife or hosital for miles. we'll all be in the right place, in hospital and i am quite sure we will all be fine. of course ur not wrong to worry but the risk really is very small xxx

 

[LilBean2010]

I too share this same fear. I didn't worry about it at all with my son but this time, I worry about something happening to me or the baby. I am going to be a scheduled c-section, so I worry about a blood clot or some post surgical complication.

I take some solice in the fact that complications are rare...I think we should all take comfort in the qualified midwives and MDs we see... It's just easier said than done!

 

[JASMAK]

I admit, I am scared too. I don't know why..I know giving birth is very safe...even a section is very safe. But, I have two kids at home too...I can't help but think how their lives would be destroyed. Maybe this is all my thinking of "too good to be true" mentality that I have since day one of this pregnancy? I am going to talk about it with my OB so hopefully he can ease my fears. Thanks for this thread....I am sorry you all are fearing this too, but at least I know I am not alone.