Second MMC - twins, how do I cope?
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Twin loss confirmed. I am bereft.
Got to make the difficult decision between tablets to bring on m/c or an another erpc.
I am so sorry New. I know that having to make such decisions right now is agony. Sending my prayers with you during your time of loss.
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That's just awful - so sorry 
Just do what you feel is best for you - there's no easy option but if you go for the one that you feel most comfortable with you'll hopefully cope a bit better. Personally I couldn't wait out a natural MC unless my body got on with things quite quickly. That happened to me this time and I was pleased I didn't have to have the tablets again but I couldn't have waited weeks like some people do. The body is an amazing thing and sometimes when it knows it's time to let go it will start things off on it's own. Just take care of yourself.
Just do what you feel is best for you - there's no easy option but if you go for the one that you feel most comfortable with you'll hopefully cope a bit better. Personally I couldn't wait out a natural MC unless my body got on with things quite quickly. That happened to me this time and I was pleased I didn't have to have the tablets again but I couldn't have waited weeks like some people do. The body is an amazing thing and sometimes when it knows it's time to let go it will start things off on it's own. Just take care of yourself.
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Bleeding has slowed and cramping has gone now 
Went to docs yesterday, she said to wait til the end of the week and if it hasn't happened naturally to go in for the erpc. She said she previously worked in Gynaecology and Obstetrics and the risk for Ashermans is very very small so she recommends that rather than the medical management which could end in an erpc anyway.
She thinks I need 3 months to get my head in order before we start TTCing again (probably cos I blubbed through the entire visit) but I think I want to start again sooner than that as I don't want it to take another 10-12 months to conceive.
She did try and reassure me by saying that I'm not considered any higher risk for miscarriage than I was when I'd just had the one m/c and she said that I'm fit and healthy so there is no reason why I can't have a successful pregnancy.
She also said that she's older than me and only just had a baby so I'm not past it either.
She was so lovely and so sorry when I told her it was twins.
I came out feeling positive, hope it lasts.
Been in to town with my mum and dad today, first time I've really been anywhere in over 2 weeks. Bought myself a new winter jumper, cheered me up a little. Was only out for just under 3 hours but wow, nice to get out even if my mum did treat me like an invalid
Went to docs yesterday, she said to wait til the end of the week and if it hasn't happened naturally to go in for the erpc. She said she previously worked in Gynaecology and Obstetrics and the risk for Ashermans is very very small so she recommends that rather than the medical management which could end in an erpc anyway.
She thinks I need 3 months to get my head in order before we start TTCing again (probably cos I blubbed through the entire visit) but I think I want to start again sooner than that as I don't want it to take another 10-12 months to conceive.
She did try and reassure me by saying that I'm not considered any higher risk for miscarriage than I was when I'd just had the one m/c and she said that I'm fit and healthy so there is no reason why I can't have a successful pregnancy.
She also said that she's older than me and only just had a baby so I'm not past it either.
She was so lovely and so sorry when I told her it was twins.
I came out feeling positive, hope it lasts.
Been in to town with my mum and dad today, first time I've really been anywhere in over 2 weeks. Bought myself a new winter jumper, cheered me up a little. Was only out for just under 3 hours but wow, nice to get out even if my mum did treat me like an invalid
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I have had 3 medical managements and found I coped well. My trust doesn't offer D&C/ERPC. My first hurt a lot (12 weeks) second (twins 18 weeks) was painful but I coped and third (10 weeks) was very easy to cope with. I had no complications or issues with the medical management. On the third one the nurses practically had to strap me to the bed to stop me from leaving after it was all over (they were adamant I had to stay for the minimum 6 hours). I just wanted to go home and relax!
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ERPC is booked for Wednesday, this is the earliest they could fit me in. Wish it was on Monday as I want it all over with now.
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I'm so sorry hun
I lost twins in February and they would have been born now
Miss_Bump - sorry for your losses hun, its doubly hard isn't it
