I feel terrible even putting this in writing. I am 38 and pregnant with my first. I am unmarried, but have been with the father for three years with future plans. This is a planned pregnancy. He has always wanted children and I have gone back and forth. I decided now was the time, I'm not getting any younger, we are in love, and he will make a wonderful father. I am 8 weeks along, seeing the doctor for the first visit this week. I was excited at first but lately have been feeling very anxious and nervous and generally second guessing my decision. I am afraid I will be a terrible mother, won't have mothering instincts, will be selfish, and very worst case scenario will resent the child for the life changes.