September Snugglers 2016

[MeganS0326]

Xan - I hope you are cool soon. That's great that it was cheaper than originally quoted. My DH is kinda silly with the AC stuff. He built a bar in our garage and installed a second AC unit out there. If ours in the house goes out I can just retreat to the garage So happy your hubby found out about the raise today. What good timing!!

 

[campn]

Hopie- Oh I can imagine! I've no idea why anyone would get married in the summer! Almost anywhere you are in North America it'll be hot! Hotter for us preggos! So sorry you're still sick hun, that blows I'm sure. Good luck on your scan next week, so exciting!

Meg- Beauriful bedding, so pretty! Also thank you for reminding me about the tea, I wasn't sure when I need to start drinking this. I really do hope I go earlier this time as 40+1 with DS was awful! I know it could have been worse!

Xan- We just found out DH got a promotion to a senior level and raise today too! Congrats to us mama! July is looking good so far! Looks like those kids are good luck.

We installed the fan and curtains I'll have to post a picture soon, but I went with grey curtains as I didn't want the room to be too pink so thought it'd be nice to break it with an accent color. Just need to hang some book shelves/frames and we are done with the nursery.

 

[xanzaba]

Yay- campn. It's really good timing with all of the upcoming expenses. We've put quite a bit of work into the house and feel like we've used up any buffer we had. So this will definitely help.

Baby has been having hiccups like crazy, also moving around quite a bit. I've read that the hiccups are a good sign that he's practicing breathing, so I'm happy even if it does make it hard to fall asleep sometimes with that little tickle.

 

[Hope16]

Rant!

My husband and I are torn between two names, Julian or Landon.

I love Julian! however, my sister in law who I'm not too fond of keeps referring to him as "Juls" and it is driving me crazy!

First, if I wanted him to be called Juls I would name him just that. I don't want him referred to as Juls so early in life. Maybe when he is older, his friends can nickname him...but I don't want him being stigmatized before he is even born!

It's pushing me towards Landon, or any other name for that matter!

My husband thinks it's bothering me more so because I don't like her lol which might have something to do with it. He said if I really hate Juls as a nickname I am better off not even choosing the name.

How do I handle this??

 

[MummaMoo]

So...... Today, I had my breakdown. On the way to work. I'd already decided that next week I was going to take a couple of sick days, but just driving to work it hit me that I didn't even want to go back after those couple of days, so planned to go and see the HR administrator to see what could be done. Tears flowed and they've barely stopped all day. As soon as I got in the office that was it, told them the sooner I finish, the better - I just can't do it anymore, and I don't think I want to. So the bosses have sorted it. Today has been my last day at work. They even told me I can go whenever I want today, but stuck it out to the bitter end (not that I did anything, no-one would let me lift a finger). I've been an emotional wreck all day, which is very much me. My boss knows that once the tears start flowing, I've reached my breaking point, and once i'm there, there's no going back.
I just got sick of feeling tired, hot, not being physically able to do everything I'm meant to, not being able to fit in uniform, my work shoes being tight..... EVERYTHING.
So now I have tears of relief, and also frustration that I didn't make it as far as I wanted to. A physical job in the summer at nearly 35 weeks pregnant, it turns out, is a big ask.

My work maternity trousers are already in the bin

 

[campn]

Xan- I completely understand! We've barely made it pay check to pay check especially with my doctor making me pay her upfront and not going through my insurance at all so everything we've paid so far is out of pocket. They just milked and drained our bank account. If it wasn't for my parents and inlaws helping us buy the big items we'd probably have nothing now.

Hope- I'd go with the name YOU like! Screw her. Next time cringe when she says that and say oh please don't call him this I hate it, I think once you tell her that she shouldn't mention it again, but please don't give up on the name you like for her or for anyone else! If someone starts calling Juliette, Julie I'd also tell them off cause I hate Julie. I'd rather they call her Jules, or Juliette and I'll make sure they know it.

Mumma- Big big hug to you! You've made it so so far being pregnant in the summer and with being so far into your pregnancy and still tending to your daughter I say you've stuck it out more than I would have. Heck I don't even work and I cry and complain about everything now. I can sense you're going to be more relieved and happier now and you can enjoy this time before baby comfortably at home! (Semi comfy, third trimester still sucks!)

 

[x-ginge-x]

My father in law is called Julian, and yep jools is his nickname, don't like him, he's an idiot tbf so my opinion is Landon haha

Pleased with myself I bought my oldest a snuggle blanket and it cost £22 I've had ago at making one and quite impressed with result!

turned out pretty well

 

[Sweety21]

Hope,if you don't like being nick named your baby as juls, I would better pick Landon. Because, no matter what some people will definitely try and call bbay juls. I get hating sil for nicknaming baby so soon. My SILdid same but, my dh was the one who spoke and stopped it going any further. Lol.

Mumma, sorry you felt like that and glad it's over now. I know where are you coming from. Had similar situation with dd. Enjoy your break!

 

[MummaMoo]

Thanks Campn and Sweety, I think I've been ignoring what my body has been trying to tell me for weeks, which is classic me, until I reach my breaking point. I always told my bosses that when I want help, I'll ask for it, knowing full well I'm too stubborn to admit I need help! I'm my worst own enemy - but yes, I'm feeling relieved already, and planning some social visits to occupy our time

Hope, just tell SIL straight. Don't let her put you off the name completely.

Whoever posted the bedding (sorry forgotten who already!) - it's lovely! Very stylish!

 

[xanzaba]

Hope- I agree, you can't choose nicknames, so maybe your SIL did you a favor in a twisted way. I've already started talking to my belly as Lee or Lee-Lee, and it's driving my mom crazy. I don't actually mind if she's a bit put off by it as she has been a little pushy herself. I've realized my dad pronounces it more like "Lee-yam" which I don't really care for, but he gets so excited and is so cute.

Mumma- I'm sorry your frustrated, but Monday you'll be happy to not have to go back, you'll forget all of your worries.

I've started making lists of all of the things I have to do before baby's born. Some are essential (take car to carwash and install car seat) and some are more on the vain side (get haircut before baby arrives). For work, it's hard because there is no way I can finish everything, I hope there are things I can do even after baby arrives. So I'm trying to get all of the thinking things done now while I'm relatively not sleep deprived. One thing I realized is very important is hurricane preparation! I could barely stand not having air conditioning for 2 hours yesterday and camped out in the pool again. I can't imagine trying to survive for a few days without it, or electricity, or clean water. Fortunately we could always go down to my parents, who live 1 hour away if need be.

 

[campn]

Xan- I should make a list too! Mainly though I'd like to get a mani and pedi and get a gel manicure so it lasts so the first week or so I don't completely feel like someone else! I remember my first shower after having my son, it felt like a billion dollars! Until I heard the baby crying and my milk let down in the shower!

 

[aidensxmomma]

Rant!

My husband and I are torn between two names, Julian or Landon.

I love Julian! however, my sister in law who I'm not too fond of keeps referring to him as "Juls" and it is driving me crazy!

First, if I wanted him to be called Juls I would name him just that. I don't want him referred to as Juls so early in life. Maybe when he is older, his friends can nickname him...but I don't want him being stigmatized before he is even born!

It's pushing me towards Landon, or any other name for that matter!

My husband thinks it's bothering me more so because I don't like her lol which might have something to do with it. He said if I really hate Juls as a nickname I am better off not even choosing the name.

How do I handle this??

I have run into this situation a couple times. The first time was with DD1. The name I had originally chosen for her was Jennady. My mom's best friend (who I'm not particularly fond of) starting calling her Jenny, which completely put me off the name. I couldn't stand the nickname and changed her name altogether. I ended up naming her Madalynn with Mady as a nickname. In retrospect, I couldn't have dealt with the name/nickname that I'd originally chosen. And since it seemed like the most common way to shorten the name, I figured it wouldn't be worth fighting it.

For this LO, the boy's name OH and I originally picked out was Phillip. However, I cringe every time I hear the nickname, Phil. I decided it wasn't worth trying to fight it and we changed our boy's name to Everett. My mom has started calling him Vett *cringe* My mom tends to make up weird nicknames for all of her grandkids, though, and I can at least deal with Vett as opposed to Phil. Plus, I don't think it'll be very common for Everett's name to be shortened, so I'm not worried about everyone picking up on it and using it.

So basically, it's a matter of whether or not you can handle it if LO is called by a nickname you can't stand. If you can make SIL stop calling him Juls, then stick with the name you love. If you can't and think that others are going to start calling him that as well, maybe go with a different name.

I hope that made sense.

 

[Hope16]

I appreciate all the feedback. I envy people who just "know" from the beginning what their LO will be named and have no doubts. I worry so much over giving him a name people will ruin with silly nicknames or whom may poke fun, I just can't seem to commit to a name!

 

[MummaMoo]

We get people calling Sophie "Soph" all the time. At first we didn't like it at all, and would correct people, but now even I do it!

 

[MeganS0326]

I'm not to keen on nicknames. I think that's why I gravitate to short simple names. Boys names are way harder to chose IMO. I would say to tell SIL to not call him Jules but unfortunately she won't be the only one to do it so it might be best to scrap the name if it bothers you too much.

 

[campn]

Hope- Whatever name you come up with, people will find or make up their own nickname. They'll find a way, people are this gifted! So might as well go with a name you like, and if you hear a nickname you're not loving just tell them.

 

[Sweety21]

Hope, we are the ones who have not even think about name till baby arrives. I agree that no matter what people do find nick names. My dd is called Mohini still few people call her Moni or dolly etc.

Mumma, it's really good thing to listen to your body. And you did right thing listening to it. Sometimes we try tobe strong but, in real it's better to ask for help.

Afm, going for Appointment. will update GTT results!

 

[Uni tsi]

Ladies I've been away because family was visiting. Everytime I tried to get on to catch up my mom would come in the room and try to read over my shoulder. I love her so much, but it's nice to finally have some "me" time again. Amazing how much has went on with everyone in the last ten days. I had a great time catching up on all the posts. There's so much I want to respond to, but for now I'll just say three things:

Moo, that's so funny about the raspberries! I really appreciated that story. Glad to hear as well that work was so fabulous with working it all out so that you could take leave early. It's so hard just to walk around, I can't imagine doing what you did every day.

Mari, I'm sorry to hear they scared you like that. Just a few more days now, and hopefully you'll have nothing but good news. I'm glad you're feeling more positive, and I agree with everyone that it's probably just because he's so big they can't see everything.

AFM- I saw my dietian yesterday and I felt like she was so judgemental! She kept saying how I shouldn't be eating cakes and pies and ice cream which things I never even eat! She just made it seem that just because my couldnt couldn't handle 100 grams of sugar that I must be pigging out everyday. Grrr. Also she was like don't eat fatty food like bacon, or sausage or eggs, or things with sodium, or things with nitrates or things with artificial sweeteners. Like okay so limit carbs and sugar and cut all this out, what is left for me to eat!? Chalk?

I've started testing my blood sugar and have gotten really good and low numbers so I'm not going to bother too much with her restrictions. I got 79 after eating dinner yesterday.

I also met my doctor after her and she was pretty awesome about it all, she scheduled me for a 36 week growth scan to see how big baby is, but so far I'm measuring right on track.

Campn, I got so upset at the stigma of how I was treated by some of the diabetes care team (who really should know better) that I never went back to see them again. I had one woman tell me "just stop drinking soda." Well, that would be great advice if I actually drank soda. Another one acted like I was out of my mind to drink whole milk. She said "No one but baby cows should drink whole milk." Well, actually whole milk from pasture raised cows is way healthier than skim milk from factory farmed cows, it has more omega 3s and all sorts of other benefits. It was annoying to know more about nutrition than she did. Luckily, my diabetes coach that keeps track of my finger sticks and meds is really great. She always says, "there's a limit on what we can do. It's really all up to the placenta." She's simultaneously empowering but doesn't make me feel like it's my fault. I hope you luck out too and find someone on your diabetes care team that can actually be caring. I'm really impressed with your after dinner numbers. That's amazing! wtg! It really shows that what you're doing is working.

As for everyone else, sorry for the ups and downs, but glad to read it's mostly all positive goings on for everyone. It was weird being away for so long; I thought about you ladies almost everyday, wondering how you were. Glad to be back

 

[MummaMoo]

Great to have you back Uni

 

[Sweety21]

No GD! I passed and so relived. But, still have low hb and results are bad. So, they are putting me on iron meds. Here in Japan you don't get iron and other multivitamin unless absolutely necessary.

Welcome back Uni.