September Snugglers 2016

[xanzaba]

Oh, Amantila What a huge burden to put on you right now, first what he did and then laying it on you. We're here if you need to discuss anything. Marriage and husband issues are definitely part and parcel of pregnancy.

 

[MummaMoo]

Amantilia That's just terrible. I could say exactly what I think and what I would do, but it's not my place so will just say we're here for you. The e thing I will say I'd that if he's admitted it, then maybe it shows that he's full of regret, and so things can be salvaged.

 

[lesondemavie]

Aman - How awful! I'm so sorry this is happening . My heart aches for you. There are really no words of comfort. It's horrible and that is all. Try just taking it one day at a time? You don't have to make an everlasting decision now. Wake up, trust your heart, and decide what you need for just today. Take whatever space and time you need. Sending so much love and strength your way

 

[campn]

Aman- I'm so sorry hun! You're practically still newly weds too so I'm sure that hurts more. People make mistakes and being drunk isn't an excuse but he should probably stop drinking and maybe you both can see a counselor?

You and baby come first before anyone or anything so remember that, take care of yourself first, that's the priority now. Thinking of you and your bean!

 

[Just1more2]

Welcome new ladies! I will add you to page 1.

Amantila- there is nothing anyone can say right now that well make you stop hurting. A horrible thing has happened. I do agree with the previous posts that of he admitted it he may be hoping to work through this with you. Counseling would be well worth it if you can make it happen. I am so sorry that you are going through this at a time that should be full of joy between the two of you.

 

[mrs unicorn]

Hey ladies, how was your weekend? We went out to celebrate my FILs birthday, said I was doing dry January but not sure how long we'll manage to fool everyone. And we also bought a new car! Safe to say I'm exhausted, just had a 2 hour nap!

Suspectpink snap on the due date!

Aman I really feel for you honey. What an awful thing to put you through, and at this time too. Like, someone else said I wouldn't want to advise you as we are all different. All I would say is take it one day at a time and do what is best for you first. Xx

 

[mari35racz36]

My husband travels sometimes for work and he told me last night that he cheated on me last week after getting really drunk because he was stressed. I'm so heartbroken right now I don't even know what to do or what to say or if I can or want to stay with him. I fell in love with him so many years ago because I trusted him. I don't know if I'll ever be able to again. We've only been married for five months.

I'm sorry to post something so personal. I just have nobody to talk to and my heart is broken and I don't know what to do.

Omg, I am so sorry you have to go through this right now. We are all here for you

 

[InVivoVeritas]

Amantila, you poor thing! Early pregnancy is hard enough without having this to deal with too.

Now is the time to put yourself and your baby first. Your decision will come to you in the fullness of time, when the worst of the shock and pain has worn off. In the meantime be good to yourself.

 

[mari35racz36]

Hi ladies, I haven't posted in a couple days. Been feeling really sick and so fatigued. I feel like a zombie right now. I hope it pass soon. I will catch up on all the post soon

Hopie- glad you went to the hospital. Sounds like it was much need. Keep us posted!

 

[LoraLoo]

Mrs unicorn- cold and snowy and slightly sickly but good!

Are you planning on announcing at 12 weeks? You'd only really have feb to get through if so 😃

 

[xanzaba]

Looks like I've picked up a cold and am craving chicken soup all the time. On the plus side, no nausea and no extreme hunger. I'll take it!

 

[psychochick]

Let me attempt to catch up with everybody.

leson: Lovely test! I have a clearblue digital but it's one of those that does not say the # of weeks. Oh well I've just been using FRER to track progression and so far so good. Also I wake up absurdly early these days too! I go to sleep early because I'd feel tired soon after dinner and then wake up before DH and feel really hungry.

emma: I'm in the same shoes as you. At first I was just ecstatic to see two lines but slowly over the days everything else is slowly kicking in. Feels like I felt super lucky at first like I'd just won the lottery, but then now I'm realizing what this really means.

xanzaba: your food cravings sound great! I'd like to eat some crispy veggies and chicken soups.

invivo: I'm only 4 weeks and I'm also having a hard time when I'm hungry. Not yet nauseous but I can't stop thinking about eating pretty much anything. I usually have great impulse control but it's becoming hard.

loraloo: great test!

aman: Really sorry to hear about your DH. I strongly recommend counselor for either just yourself or both of you. And feel free to tell us how you feel here. I have helped friends through difficult situations such as this and it's definitely a really long process. I myself have been through some really tough times romantically not really due to cheating but also repeated loss of trust and it's not easy to recover. I can't imagine dealing with it while pregnant either.

I really don't know if this will help, but it helped my friend who was struggling to understand infidelity: https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_pe...alk_for_anyone_who_has_ever_loved?language=en it may be too soon to watch it but when you're ready, it may help with the confusion and hurt brought upon by infidelity.

 

[amantila]

Thank you all for your support and kind words. I'm so grateful to have you all to lean on. It has been a difficult day.

Husband is distraught and wants to go to AA and counseling. He never drank while we dated or were engaged. Right before we got married he took a new job and got promoted within 3 months and it has taken a huge toll on his emotional well being because it is a high stress job. He began looking to unhealthy means to deal with stress and began drinking more and more over the past few months. Didn't know how bad things had gotten.

Just so upset that this happened. How can you go from being so joyful and excited about the future to whatever it is that I'm feeling now?

To top it off, MS (or stress/being upset) has had me sick and throwing up a bunch today. First time I've thrown up so far in this pregnancy. Glad I have tomorrow off of work.

 

[mrsmax]

:wave: hi ladies just caught up with everyone but too shattered to reply today as just had DDs 3rd bday party and I'm nauseous and exhausted

Just want to quick congratulations to those who progressed with CB - it feels great when they giveca result you want. I guess that's why we all do them even though they are scary...

Aman I love the advice the ladies have already given you, but juyst want to agree that the honesty straight away is a silver lining in a very black cloud x

 

[x__amour]

So sorry, amantila.

Hope everyone is doing well and feeling as well as can be.

 

[mrs unicorn]

Mrs unicorn- cold and snowy and slightly sickly but good!

Are you planning on announcing at 12 weeks? You'd only really have feb to get through if so 😃

Ah yes, cold and snowy too loraloo! I'm just across from you, on the other coast / Newcastle area. Yes, we're planning on telling everyone after the dating scan, I want to be able to show them the picture. So yes, hopefully we'll manage to keep it secret!

 

[MummaMoo]

Amantilia, hopefully he might be able to take a step back from his higher position to take the pressure off?
Stay strong

 

[Michellebelle]

Amantila, sorry that you're going through this. Relax and take your time deciding what to do. It's great he was honest right away, but still not fun to have to deal with this.

Over here, haven't felt great this weekend. Spent a lot of time laying around and haven't gotten out of PJs today. Feeling tired, cramps here and there, and touches of nausea, especially when my stomach is more empty. Not looking forward to work tomorrow, but hoping for some reassurance at my scan.

 

[hopie2015]

Hi all- have to catch up on posts -- our board moves fast! I want to thank you all so much for the positive thoughts and all the well wishes. You all are soo sweet!
After 6 hours at ER they did an ultrasound. We thought it was going same way at first since there was long silence. So then I asked- can you see anything? She said yes-- measuring at 6 wks 4 days, right on time! Then I asked if there was a heartbeat and she said yes- a good rate!! We were SHOCKED. Dr. then told me no twins and not a molar- both I was paranoid of b/c ER told me my hcg was a crazy high 95,000 at only 6 weeks. That is off the charts!! And why I'm feeling so sick.
IV's helped and unfortunately had to have iv of nausea drug and I need to continue on it. I didn't want to use drugs ever during pregnancy but really have no choice if this is hg.

I've been in bed all day and still sick after taking the pill but it does take the constant vomiting away.
I believe this extreme ms is VERY rare, so dont want to scare anybody.

So I am very early and at my age m/c rate is very high. But for now all is okay and no matter what happens, I am so glad OH and I had the amazingly happy ultrasound experience after bad ultrasounds in the past.
Thank you again. Hope to feel better and can catch up on posts tmrw.

 

[Michellebelle]

Hopie, glad everything went so well. I hope you'll get the relief you need soon! And so exciting to hear the heartbeat. That must be a huge comfort.