Leson- We tried for a while without anything happening (turns out I was severely vitamin D deficient) so I know how it feels. I think it's a good idea to let her know in advance so she can prepare. If you say something like you know she's been trying for a while so you respect her feelings and wanted to tell her in private, I think she would appreciate the thought. I would avoid anything too cute as the conversation might get pretty serious.
As for telling people. We are being super cautious about this one after two later miscarriages (18 and 14 weeks). I've told my parents because they area in town and they are both doctors. As for everyone else, my sister included, I am waiting to hear about the genetic screening because we'll feel more confident. The second had a trisomy and with the first I had bleeding since week 5 due to a clot bigger than the baby. No bleeding and no evidence for a clot so far.
Honestly, I dread telling my sister because she makes everything about her. I stopped talking to her for a few months after the first miscarriage because she would call me bawling on the phone, even as I was trying to put my life back together.
My husband has a huge family, and they are a completely different story. They are super sweet, and I feel very close to them. But we don't want to tell them and then have them feel sad and worried about us if something goes wrong. So I guess we're just waiting until the first trimester screening is done. Probably will facetime them so we can tell them "face-to-face" since they live in Europe.
I also have some very close friends that I can't wait to tell. Seems like the stork comes in waves-I know one is pregnant, but I'm not supposed to know. A couple I know are pregnant now, and knew early on about my last pregnancies. And one I know wants to be, but has some complicated personal life issues she needs to work out.
As for telling people. We are being super cautious about this one after two later miscarriages (18 and 14 weeks). I've told my parents because they area in town and they are both doctors. As for everyone else, my sister included, I am waiting to hear about the genetic screening because we'll feel more confident. The second had a trisomy and with the first I had bleeding since week 5 due to a clot bigger than the baby. No bleeding and no evidence for a clot so far.
Honestly, I dread telling my sister because she makes everything about her. I stopped talking to her for a few months after the first miscarriage because she would call me bawling on the phone, even as I was trying to put my life back together.
My husband has a huge family, and they are a completely different story. They are super sweet, and I feel very close to them. But we don't want to tell them and then have them feel sad and worried about us if something goes wrong. So I guess we're just waiting until the first trimester screening is done. Probably will facetime them so we can tell them "face-to-face" since they live in Europe.
I also have some very close friends that I can't wait to tell. Seems like the stork comes in waves-I know one is pregnant, but I'm not supposed to know. A couple I know are pregnant now, and knew early on about my last pregnancies. And one I know wants to be, but has some complicated personal life issues she needs to work out.
Hope your rainbow baby is right around the corner.
best of luck mama
. I hope you won't mind me using your story to inspire her and give her hope.
. I was so happy for her bc we think she had been trying for a year or more, but the sadness for me took over at first. Little did I know I had conceived just a few days before and my little sprout was on its way to my uterus for implantation. I was glad she told DH when I wasn't around, but it also hurt my feelings a bit that she didn't want to tell me herself. I'm definitely considering that as I think about how to tell my brother's wife. I'm really close with my brother and I'm closer to his wife than I am to DH's sister. They married 
this past October and she went off bcp right away, but it took her a while to start Oing again. We started a few months before them, but as I experienced it's hard no matter what.
. If she started this week, and my scan is in 2 weeks then It should be right around then when we share the news. I can't really know without directly asking her. I mean we're close, but not THAT close 
I saw on the news about the snow storm in U.S. Crazy how much snow you guys got! We have barely go any snow this year. Usually we get tons by now.
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