September Snugglers 2016

[Alea]

I forgot to address the NT testing in my catch up post.

We did have the screening at our 12 week scan and like many others said, it wouldn't change anything but we personally decided that if there is something going on with our baby, then we would want to know so we can make informed choices and make sure we know as much as possible about what we may or may had to face, though thankfully all appears well at this stage.

LoraLoo, what a lovely friend you have! I've never had reflexology but let us know how you get on with it.

ciz, good luck for tomorrow. I can't wait to hear all about it.

Wow, there's loads of us for team ! I love it. I understand why people want to find out but there's nothing quite like that surprise. I was under anaethestic when Moo was born and so waking up was overwhelming anyway, and to find out I had a daughter was wonderful. At this point I'm guessing we're having another girl just because this pregnancy is very similar to mine with Moo, but of course that doesn't mean anything. We have names picked out so I am wondering if I am carrying a little L or a little F!

 

[campn]

Alea- I don't know how you ladies do it! I even want to get an early private scan at 16 weeks to find out! I just really like the preparing part, like going shopping for the cute outfits and beddings and painting the nursery and all that!

 

[Mummy1506]

if all is well we will be getting a private gender scan at 16 weeks also. We are so inpaintient I don't think we could wait until 40 weeks.

 

[LoraLoo]

Ciz good luck for today's scan!

As for gut feeling about the sex- ive a really strong boy feeling for me. We will see, but I'm usually right!

How is everyone else today?

 

[mrs unicorn]

Ciz - good luck with the scan!

Loraloo - yep I'm in a really bad mood this week. For no reason. Just feel really low. Think it's the tiredness, that seems to be worse this week. Nausea is about the same, mainly all day but I didn't have any yesterday. Shame I sulked most of the day though!

We are staying team yellow too! We've always said that we wouldn't find out once we have kids. I seem to be drawn to baby boy clothes, but when I imagine what life will be like with a little one it's always a girl. So I have no idea. I'm pretty sure when we tell everyone that my mum will 'know'. She knew with both me and my brother.

 

[mrs unicorn]

So it's my dad's birthday tomorrow and we do go over to visit some years but not all - it's quite a drive away. So we thought as we are planning on going over at Easter to tell them the good news we won't go over for his birthday. Anyway bizarrely his girlfriend text me to ask us if we would come over for his birthday! She has never done that before. I had to say yes at the time. But was planning on saying I was ill so we won't go over. Sounds awful but it is a trek and they would know straight away because of not smoking/drinking and feeling sick. So I text her this morning to say I'd been ill in the night and am still ill this morning so we won't be going over. She text back saying 'guessing it's not morning sickness if you were ill in the night then?!' WTF!! I guess I shouldn't be so surprised. We are married, settled, and in our 30s (just) I'm just surprised at how forward people are!

 

[xanzaba]

Mrs. Unicorn, that's so frustrating! Why can't people just wait for you to tell them?

We will find gender out as soon as possible, with the cell free test. But I just *know* it's a boy. I figure that until I can feel the baby move, I need something to hang on to and to know about the baby. We won't tell everyone yet, sort of keep it our little secret.

As for emotions, I am all over the place. I feel myself being very close to the students I work with, which is not abnormal for me, but it's to a different degree. DH picked me up yesterday and brought the dog. One of my students met the dog and couldn't stop petting her, and it brought tears to my eyes. I have felt very alone and a little depressed, but recently I have started telling a few people and that has helped enormously.

Plus I have been worry a lot about my dad, who has had a few cancer surgeries. On top of not wanting to lose the baby, I have this fear/guilt that if something went wrong it would really take a toll on my dad. We are very close, and I want him to meet the baby more than just about anything. I don't think I've ever really expressed those feelings directly before, and it's so bittersweet to say them and let the tears flow.

 

[mrs unicorn]

Oh xan that brought tears to my eyes I think the first tri is an emotional rollercoaster. So sorry to hear about your dads health scares. Have you told him yet? If not, I am sure he will be over the moon! It might help to give him a boost knowing that there is a little one that will need to me him.
My MIL has ms and she is very very ill with it. She will be 60 this year (which if you read the studies is quite rare with the aggressive form of MS she has) she also has a few problems with mental illness occasionally, which unfortunately results in her tearing strips off DH. It can be very tough sometimes but I cannot wait to tell her - DH is an only child - I just know it is going to give her such a boost.

 

[xanzaba]

Unicorn- sorry to hear about MIL, MS is tough and can affect patients cognitively and emotionally. But yes, having some good news will help her focus on the good.

We have told my parents because they live close by and we stayed with them over the holidays (not drinking would have been a giveaway). Also, they are doctors so they are aware of the risks. After the ultrasound, before I even spoke to the doctor, I texted them that the ultrasound looked good, and there we were texting back and forth like teenagers. It's as good for me as for him

 

[xanzaba]

Oh, and I guess it is (sort of) officially true- Kate Middleton is 12 weeks pregnant- with twins! So welcome Dutchess as a snugggler!

 

[ciz]

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Hey ladies. Scan went well. Baby is doing great 10weeks 1 day so due date is 15th not 14th =)

 

[Alea]

ciz, what a great scan picture!

 

[Just1more2]

Good morning ladies!!
Congrats on the great scans Ciz and others!!

I will update the first page with gender preferences (team yellows!) but if at any point anything changes, by all means, let me know! I also want to add Kate Middleton as an honorary member.

Sooooooo I told work today. Everyone is so excited! It is like a weight off. I have started getting round ligament pain, which I am taking to mean that baby is growing!

On the emotional side, I have actually been better this week than I have in a while. Many fewer mood swings, and a bit less weepy. I do have this silly anxiety that I am going to ruin my son (and new baby) because I yell when he is misbehaving and I send him to his room and he cries. It is silly, I know every parent does it. I know he needs to have consequences. But I always worry that I am being too harsh...

I am so happy that everyone seems to be doing well and babies are growing and healthy so far!!!

 

[LoraLoo]

Awe Ciz- lovely! Was that your dating scan?

Ive just got mine through post- 17th March, I'll be 13+4 😣 it seems forever away, especially with the confusion over the twin. I just really want to know what's going on in there.

 

[Alea]

Just1more2, yay for telling people! I bet it was great to be surrounded with all of that excitement. I can't relate to the anxiety you're having with discipline as Moo is too young, so I hope someone else can give you some kind words, but just remember you're doing a good job. As you said, he needs to learn that there are consequences to his actions. What are you currently doing in terms of discipine?

LoraLoo, I'm pleased you've got your date but I understand your frustation as that does seem so far away Is there any chance of them bringing it forward, especially in view of the possible twins and you're previous pregnancy history?

 

[LoraLoo]

I don't think they will, but will ask mw when I see her In a couple of weeks. It's just so confusing to see 2 heartbeats, and then only one and being told we'd lost one, to then being told that the twin may have just been 'missed' in the second scan. She said even though the baby can be reabsorbed back into the body, it wouldn't be as quick as that (first scan was on the monday and the second on the friday) It plays with your mind.

Just- so lovely to be able to share your news and excitement! 😊

 

[Alea]

I don't think they will, but will ask mw when I see her In a couple of weeks. It's just so confusing to see 2 heartbeats, and then only one and being told we'd lost one, to then being told that the tein may have just been 'missed' in the second scan. It plays with your mind.

Just- so lovely to be able to share your news and excitement! 😊

I can't even imagine Sending lots of love

 

[mrs unicorn]

lovely scan ciz!

Aw loraloo thats sounds rubbish. You'd think they would put you in for an early scan with it possibly being twins. I would ask the mw like you say, it could be that they were just following procedure rather than looking at your individual case?

I called my mw this afternoon - I had a bit of lt brown cm this morning, I think it's gone now. No cramping or anything but it scared me, still feeling like I could cry at any moment. She was great, said it sounds normal but if it gets worse (red spotting or cramping) over the weekend to go to A&E, if it's still brown on Monday then they will send me for an early scan. I haven't even had my booking in appt yet! Time seems to drag during the first trimester! Just want that 12 week scan so bad.

 

[ciz]

Awe Ciz- lovely! Was that your dating scan?

Ive just got mine through post- 17th March, I'll be 13+4 😣 it seems forever away, especially with the confusion over the twin. I just really want to know what's going on in there.

Yeah lovely. My MW went by my last period but she never asked me how long they are roughly so they assumed I was 12 but I knew it was more 10/11 weeks.

With my DD I was 13 wks gone before I got a scan.xx

 

[Mummy1506]

Great scan ciz.

I think it's still media speculation regarding Kate Middleton. Nothing has really been officially reported here!!

I'm very local to Kate's home village so it's usually pretty big news here.

I haven't had anymore bleeding & only about 2 brown spots in over 24 hours now so feeling a little more hopeful things are still ok.