Seriously clingy baby!!! HELP!

[Ema]

Ok ive not been on alot past few days as jacob has just done a 180 degrees flip personality wise

about 4 weeks ago he started getting stranger anexity and a bit of seperation. he was normally so laid back and didnt care who he went to. but then didnt like going to anyone new.

NOW he is a complete nightmare!! he just will no let me put him down, at all!! he screams in the car till i pick him up. in the pram. I cant even put him down to go the toilet without him screaming blue murder

Sometimes i just have to leave him to cry because i HAVE to get things done. like bottles etc or in the car. but its really getting bad if he is jusy whinging i just let him get on with it but then them whinges turns into screams etc

what do i do??

also he is getting so fustrated he cant move! he pulls himself up on the cot and screams until i take his hands and let him walk, then i sit him down he screams until i let him walk again he just wants to stand constantly but only if im attached. he has a walker etc and can move it and used to love it but wont go in it now as its not me

i really dont know what to do??? help???

xxxx

 

[AC81]

hopefully its just a phase and will pass soon!

 

[nessajane]

Hopefully itll be just a phase hes going through but maybe let him CIO for a bit and see if that does work? xx

 

[mommyof3co]

Sounds very normal...my 2nd son was like that from birth until about 7mo non stop and then occassionally for a few more months. But around that age they start to realize they are actually alone, that you are off doing something without them and that they don't know other people...so they usually get really clingy. I'm not for CIO so what I personally would do is get a sling or carrier of some sort (I have a babyhawk and LOVE it, you can put them on your back and get things done ) but that way you can get something done. I bet once he is able to crawl and get around it will be better, but then he'll be all under your feet lol. Maybe see if you can sit withhim and get him interested in some toys and then kind of sneak off while he's playing for a few min to wash some dishes or whatever. I hope it passes quickly!

 

[babe2ooo]

sounds like a phase 2 me they all go through it, i guess u just need to ride it out,

 

[Vickie]

Hannah went through this phase but she got out of the having to hold her all the time fairly quickly (she still won't go to strangers and most times if others are around she clings to me) but when it's just us around the house she's not so bad. Honestly I HAD to leave her to whine at times to get things done. And if she was just whining (not full out crying) I'd tell her you're okay and finish what I was doing before going to her

 

[princess_bump]

firstly big big big sweetie, i too think it's probably a phase but that doesn't help for now i would try given him a comforter that smells of you, even if its just a muslin that you've wore you on your person for a few hours, other than that i don't think a little bit of cio out hurts personally, sometimes it has to be done, big big hope it passes soon x x x

 

[Chel]

Its a really normal developmental stage! He's getting older! Which is great!

Seperation anxiety comes in around 4-9 months, depending on the bub, pretty much what I think is going on, its like prior to now he's not entirely noticed that there is a world outside of mummy, and now that he has, its all a bit too big and scary and he just wants you to hold and carry and comfort him.

Its a phase and it'll pass.... but I've got a couple of tips I picked up and were told when I was working in a nursery... if they help at all! This is just what I think I would do in the same situation!

Keep doing what you'd normally do in a day - do the dishes, do the washing, do the cooking and avoid having him on your hip more than you normally would, because he'll learn the world is a safe place if youre fine, he's fine - its nicer for him if he can see you, so he doesn't get really scared - and talk to him, tell him its okay, if your cleaning or something, even though he's crying, talk to him in a bright voice, just telling him what your doing - because eventually, if you're fine, he's fine. If your not afraid, there is nothing to be afraid of... right?

AND if you have to leave the room, babies dont understand that things are still there if they're out of sight, which includes you, so avoid leaving a room unless he sees you leave, because otherwise it'll seem like yu disapeared! And that could freak him out! ALSO it can take time for him to learn you'll come back, peak-a-boo is actually a really good developemental game for that age where they start to get seperation anxiey, because even though it seems silly, they laugh because they think you've actually vanished and reappeared! Magic! Try it at the doorway, so he gets used to the idea that you walk out of the door, and come back, so it'll be a happy association.

AND

IT gets better!

I've seen it HEAPS!

The next thing that happens after this is when he realises the big wide world outside of mummy is actually a pretty neat thing and he could well come out the otherside of this more talkative, more brave, more confident, louder and friendlier!

 

[keelykat]

i'm having this problem too, crying it out hasn't worked (hes now just got a sore throat because he just went hysterical screaming for me).

i so hope this passes! i can't do anything!!!!!!

keely.

 

[baby D]

Chel - that is a fabulous post! Very informative and helpful to us all xx

 

[Weeplin]

Chel - that is a fabulous post! Very informative and helpful to us all xx

Totally agree!!

 

[taperjeangirl]

He will come out of this phase i promise! Daisy was the exact same but is getting better everyday, I freaked myself out cos I read online it lasted til they were 2!!
Thankfully that didnt happen!