Emmy0320
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Let me start by saying that I've always wanted to adopt. From the beginning (a bit shallow I will admit, but for a child take if for what it's worth) I insisted upon having dolls and barbies of a different ethnicity... why? because they were adopted! I fell in love with the idea as a child after learning that a friend of mine was adopted from Korea, go figure, I never put it together that she looked nothing like her parents, haha.
Now to bring us to reality. During a pelvic exam at 19 (I'm now 27) I was told my uterus was tipped forward, no biggie, my doc said "you should still be able to have a baby one day." I took that a sign. My husband even spoke about beginning the adoption process during our honeymoon this past December.
Two weeks later we found out I was pregnant and were ecstatic, surprised, but thrilled. I thought I would have a difficult time getting pregnant after all. Fast forward to Feb. when I had a miscarriage and we were devastated. Decided to try as soon as possible and got my next bfp in May... super excited as lightening doesn't strike twice right? Well it did. I had my second miscarriage in June. It seems to be a staying pregnant issue, not a getting pregnant issue.
We're hoping and waiting for some testing to see what's going on and are going to give it one more try and then seriously peruse adoption. I just feel that's what's right for us, after all, not too many people are open too it from such a young age right? I'm scared beyond belief though, esp. by the costs involved. I'm a teacher so I know firsthand that the child doesn't have to be biologically "yours" to love him/her unconditionally.
Just hoping we can welcome a baby into our lives one way or another within the next few years. Any experience and/or thoughts are welcome.
We're thinking we may have to go the local adoption (through job and family services, we are in the US) route because of finances.
Thank you for reading... I know it was a long post and best of luck to everyone in a similar boat!
Now to bring us to reality. During a pelvic exam at 19 (I'm now 27) I was told my uterus was tipped forward, no biggie, my doc said "you should still be able to have a baby one day." I took that a sign. My husband even spoke about beginning the adoption process during our honeymoon this past December.
Two weeks later we found out I was pregnant and were ecstatic, surprised, but thrilled. I thought I would have a difficult time getting pregnant after all. Fast forward to Feb. when I had a miscarriage and we were devastated. Decided to try as soon as possible and got my next bfp in May... super excited as lightening doesn't strike twice right? Well it did. I had my second miscarriage in June. It seems to be a staying pregnant issue, not a getting pregnant issue.
We're hoping and waiting for some testing to see what's going on and are going to give it one more try and then seriously peruse adoption. I just feel that's what's right for us, after all, not too many people are open too it from such a young age right? I'm scared beyond belief though, esp. by the costs involved. I'm a teacher so I know firsthand that the child doesn't have to be biologically "yours" to love him/her unconditionally.
Just hoping we can welcome a baby into our lives one way or another within the next few years. Any experience and/or thoughts are welcome.
We're thinking we may have to go the local adoption (through job and family services, we are in the US) route because of finances.
Thank you for reading... I know it was a long post and best of luck to everyone in a similar boat!