seriously. do guys notice other women more when you're pregnant?

[Destiny08]

...or do they just talk about it more? or is it just MY OH? or is it just me noticing it more?

 

[lauandbump]

Oh bless you hun. Its probably your hormones making you think that he is looking at other women. Since i'm getting massive i am finding myself looking at women dressed in the summery outfits and its making me feel so self conscious as i feel like a whale right now. Have a chat with him about it sweetie, i bet you'll find he will reassure you and make you feel loads better xxx

 

[YoungMummy08]

i would say its your hormones he prob aint, i get like this. i spot girls and watch to see if he watches them he never does but my mind makes me think he is. big hugs

 

[Destiny08]

i'm talking to him about it now its just that well..in the last week or so, he's said 1 model is "hot" to his friends, and then today he said an actress is "stunning" and he asked another friend about some girl they used to talk to cos he "saw someone who reminded him of her, and he wanted to get in contact with her again" and he's been changing his passwords (even though we used to share all our passwords cos they'd make us feel so much more secure in our relationship...just having them.)

i just yea he never used to say those things about other women. he used to say them about me. and lately he's called me "attractive" and "beautiful" and "cute". but not sexy or hot or stunning or anything like that...
i just feel like if he's noticing actresses and models etc more...whats to say he's not noticing other women in the area (Im overseas ) more too...

 

[SparkleBug]

To be fair I wudnt just say its hormones because i think it's a combo of us feeling insecure about our bodily changes, and quite often because our sexlives change quite a bit, it def not an excuse but I think guys tend to look more when they're horny etc. I noticed it for 1st time a few weeks ago in a pizza hut of all places. I can assure you I made it clear I noticed it. What made it worse is that this gorgeous wench eyed him back the whole meal as fatty preggo here stuffed her face with pizza. Thanks hubby! Men don't even realise so don't get too worried, just check him on it if it upsets you xxxxx

 

[Destiny08]

so that didn't work. I talked to him about it, and I even said at least 3 times that I know its me, and the hormones and my insecurity in how i look, but that it was getting to me...

and got a whole long sarcastic lecture about how i have no right to be 'checking up on him' or any right at all to be insecure and that because I'm insecure I'm pushing him away...and its not fair on him...

so i got mad. and went to bed. and he hasnt spoken to me since then.
*rolls eyes* men can be so insensitive..

 

[My4thmiracle]

it is your right to be checking up on him, if he is acting all suspicious over changing passwords. You need to nip that in the bud now.

As for looking at models and actresses, i wouldnt worry, thats him just wishful thinking.

 

[Destiny08]

it didnt affect me so much that he was looking at them, just that he was talking about how gorgeous they were more than he used to, especially when I'm feeling so down about myself
and i dont even think i was checking up on him! (except when i tried to log into his email and found out he'd changed it.) but everything else was on his facebook wall where i could see it...i dont see that as checking up on him...

sigh. he's gonna be off with me for a few days now. today he'll give me the silent treatment until i apologise. then he'll be off for another day or 2 until he "forgives me".

 

[My4thmiracle]

dont apologise, you havent done nothing wrong. its him the one being insensitive, your carrying his baby, why should he think its ok to ramble on about how stunning other women are. he should stop and think what hes saying before he opens his mouth.

defo get to the bottom of why he is changing his passwords tho

good luck x

 

[Destiny08]

thanks for all the advice/support

 

[Jaz_]

I noticed this last nite i was walking/waddling back to the car with a massive chinese in hand for t, an noticed as it was sat nite 4 girls across the street each wearing shorter belts than the next!!! i was pretty embarrassed cos i jus look so fat an pregnant an noticed OH looking at them, doesnt bother me really cos i look so different now cos im 32 weeks pregnant i kinda expect him to look at other women OBVIOUSLY not go near them but looking is fine in my opinion i do it all the time too lol but your partner is still telling you your beautiful an cute, i cant remember last time my oh said that! lol after i commented on him lookin at the other girls in a joky way he jus said well your still my bitch! lol jus jokin bout thats bout the height of my compliments lol!!!

 

[Mummytofour]

Men just don't think the same way as we do, fact!
Mine is usually so sweet but this morning I cuddled up to him and suggested we have a little fun on a Sunday morning, his reply was, yeah coz there is so much more of you to cuddle at the moment!!!!

I know he didn't mean anything bad by it, but because if hormones and the fact that I do look like a whale, I have secretly been in tears all morning. He keeps asking what's wrong and I know I should just tell him that I don't like being reminded I'm fat, but I'm a stubborn cow who will just make him suffer for a while! LOL!!!

If he dares to look at another female atm, then god help him!!! LOL!!!

 

[SparkleBug]

Whatever you do, do NOT apologise. See people who think they can huff until you apologise? The best way to handle people like that is ignore them and huff right back, he will not like that one bit and he won't like u not pandering to him so don't give in. Sounds immature but I'm telling you, bloody well ignore him and you'll get the upper hand. What an insensitive prat! You have every right to check up on him and the only reason he's gotten uppity with you about it is because he knows he's wrong and he's knows he's doing it. Men!! They are all so easy to read! Don't let him make u think its u being insecure, no matter how much of a contributory factor that is, men love saying that! I got told I was insecure in my last relationship about a female friendship my ex had and told I was paranoid etc, until the end I found out they'd been screwing all along. So don't let any man tell you that you're insecure because it's their get-out clause to be a complete and utter dick! Xxxx

 

[Mummytofour]

Haha! Sparkle...I SO need the like button for your post!!! Fab!

 

[PAgal]

I have noticed my OH has made a couple comments about other women, just jokingly, that totally weren't disrespectful to me or anything, but he never used to say stuff like that before. Don't get me wrong, he has been great and doesn't make me feel like a fattie these days, I just think our men are naturally a little hard up right now, you could say. They probably just miss the hot sex we had before all this baby business! I'm sure he will be back to his normal self in no time, so as long as you are talking to him about it that's great.

 

[RaspberryK]

He knows he's guilty otherwise he wouldn't be reacting like that!

x

 

[Kittifer]

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[smithgirl]

Huffing and puffing and silent treatment until you apologize and he forgives you? Total manipulation. I'd let him huff and puff for days without a single apology. Just sit back and watch, it could be pretty amusing. Seriously though, you shouldn't let him treat you like that!

I do notice my husband trying to NOT look more now. I'm pretty pasty pale and pregnant right now, and I have noticed that when some of the tan, fit girls walk by his eyes hit the ground as he tries not to check them out. Of course that makes me feel insecure, but he's done nothing wrong! There was even a fabulously fit chick in a store we were in on vacation, and she went into the dressing room to change and didn't even close the door! Everything was on display, I know hubby took a quick glance, but I couldn't blame him! I mean, I looked too! But I looked out of jealousy-I wanted to punch her toned little tummy!

 

[kiasuten]

the way i see it, because i'm pregnant, I'M noticing other women more (because of how terrible i feel i look) so it only makes sense for me to think OH is noticing them more, too.

you're not alone just talk to him, he will probably reassure you that he finds you beautiful and other women aren't really a concern of his.

 

[Destiny08]

well he started talking to me again but he was being a child. going "well i've removed all these female celebrities from my likes on FB. and i expect you to do the same with the male celebrities on yours. cos apparently thats the kind of couple we are."
so i just sighed and went "fine." lol

after a couple of hours of telling me i shouldnt be insecure now we were together for almost 5 years and having a child together, and that it was immature of me etc, he finally went "i can understand that you're going through a lot. and that its difficult for you, i get that. it just really upset me cos i'm trying so hard for you and Cara" (which he is) so we talked it out and everything's ok now

he was just being a man lol. silly men.