seriously need to vent

[sarah_george]

Hi girls, I really need to vent because if i dont i feel like i'm gonna go mad! its been 3 days now since I miscarried and I am all over the place, I have just got back from the school run and i swear I look a state, I'm tired and i look like death warmed up, its soo hard trying to act normal when i feel so emotional i feel like i'm gonna burst, I can be ok for a while and then i feel totally grief stricken, my dh keeps asking me if i have got the ump with him but i just dont want him to think i am going on and on about it so i am trying not to mention it, it happened sunday and he had monday off with me, I should go back to work today but again i'm finding it really hard to try and act normal, god I need to pull myself together, i'm walking round my house aimlessly and the jobs are piling up and i dont know where to start, ive got 2 kids already to look after so i cant afford to feel like this for too much longer, dont know how to sign off this post so I will just say thanks for letting me vent a little x x x

 

[GemGems]

I'm sorry about your loss. you're obviously still grieving and you need to give yourself time to deal with this. people deal with loss in different ways and you obviously need time to relax and deal with your emotions. dont hold back what you're feeling, you need to let it all out otherwise you will constantly be dealing with supressed anger and grief. If you cant talk to your OH then maybe you can go and see your GP.

I hope everything goes well for you in the future. I know that losing a child is one of the most heartwrenching feelings in the world and frustratingly it is totally out of our hands.

 

[Mamafy]

give yourself time, and talk to someone who you feel would understand, I know what you're going through.

I used to hate waking up because it just hit you like a train and coping with little ones is hard but they will bring you through, they will be your light at the end of this dark tunnel that you are in.

Grief takes time and there are many stages to go through but take it one step at a time, one day at a time; one hour, one minute if necessary.

It does get easier, your heart heals.

If you feel you cant cope perhaps councelling would be the way forward.

I'm very sorry for your loss.

 

[Vickie]

What you are going through must be incredibly hard

 

[coccyx]

Think you are being hard on yourself. You need time emotionally and physically to recover. Tell your oh how you are feeling. Not saying men always understand but may make you feel better . Lots of ladies on here who have experienced miscarriages, so feel free to chat to us.

 

[cupcake]

im so sorry for your loss, the only advice i can think of is allow yourself to feel. you wont be fooling anyone esp your kids if you try and hide it they are darn good at sensing feelings. also tell your husband how u feel, maybe he can help you out more and just be aware that you are not yourself yet. Wish I had more comforting words and I hope that you start feeling a bit better soon.

 

[doctordeesmrs]

I'm hear for you if you need to talk.

 

[honeybunch2k7]

I'm sorry for your loss. It's been several months for me, but one of the hardest parts of it all is trying to act normal. If I had lost an older child, no one would expect me to get over it and act as though nothing happened.

Everyone is here to support you.

If you really need time off of work, would you consider taking out a teeny tiny tiny loan like say enough to last you for a week or two? Having two children already sounds like a full time job.

 

[pink_musician]

So sorry to hear about your loss, take as much time as you need and dont try to take on everything at once thinking you have to because you will only make yourself worse in the long run.

Take Care of yourself xx

 

[sarah_george]

Hi all, just wanted to say thanks for your support through this difficult time, i didnt respond to any posts although i read them daily and they have been a massive help, it has now been 7 days and I am feeling nearly back to myself, wanted to update my post for the people that read these threads and dont post so they know there is light at the end of the tunnel, its an awful thing to go through but what doesnt break you makes you stronger! if i'm lucky enough to catch again i certainly wont take the next one for granted! thanks everyone x x

 

[Wobbles]

I'm glad to see your feeling a lil better

You should never feel your going on about it - your DH should be there even to listen, hold & hug you! Sometimes you don't need words. I'm a believer bottled in is worse - cry when you need to.

You never forget but it does get better

x

 

[Mamafy]

take care..xx