Sex after a D and C?

[hollowmac]

Hey all. I am new to this site and before i ask my question, I just want to say that I am really sorry for all that everyone is going thru. I just lost my little baby on August 2nd 2013 and had a D and C. I have a follow up with my Dr on Thursday coming up and I will follow her advice on whatever she tells me about the okay to have sex and everything. But my question is....when we get the okay to be intimate again, will the first time hurt or be uncomfortable after going thru a procedure like a D and C? Any advice or input will be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

 

[Mellymel]

Sorry for your loss.

I had a d&c 4 weeks ago and understand that you should wait until the bleeding has completely stopped because you have an increased chance of infection otherwise.

It was not uncomfortable at all for me.

 

[hollowmac]

Sorry for your loss.

I had a d&c 4 weeks ago and understand that you should wait until the bleeding has completely stopped because you have an increased chance of infection otherwise.

It was not uncomfortable at all for me.

I have stopped bleeding but I am just worried that it will hurt or be uncomfortable. Thank u for your input. It helps to talk to others who have been where i am. It is so sad and hard to actually talk out loud about all of this so this site is really helpful and everyone seems so sweet and caring. I hate hearing about all the sweet babies lost but know I don't feel so alone. We have 3 wonderful children (girl 19, boy 8 and boy 7) and we wanted one more (before I got too old. LOL) and I lost my baby at 10.5 weeks. I have never had this procedure and was worried about being intimate again.

 

[Mellymel]

I'm still learning too as this was my first pregnancy, mc & d&c. Feel free to message me any time.

Honestly it is just like any other intimate moment. Being 38 with no children yet I completely understand how you feel!!

Wishing you lots of luck and hugs to you.

 

[dairymomma]

I was told 2 weeks of complete pelvic rest (no sex) after my D&C in early July to prevent infection but I was still spotting lightly when we first resumed being intimate afterwards. It wasn't uncomfortable and I didn't hurt at all but I was quite nervous about it so we just took it slow. DH was quite understanding and kept checking with me to make sure I wasn't hurting or anything. I also made sure we had some *ahem* lube on hand just in case but we didn't end up needing it. Just follow what your body tells you and if something is uncomfortable, then stop and try something else. Hope this helps.

 

[hollowmac]

Thank you ladies for your advice. My DH is very understanding but I am a little nervous about the first time. to everyone.

 

[FeLynn]

I was told different with each of mine. Remember its different for everyone and the last thing you want to get is an infection they hurt so bad its not even funny!