Sex isnt the same after baby .....anyone else?

[nicksi27]

Am i the only person who feels that dtd feels different after having their baby/babies? I always read stories about how some women feel 'tighter' than ever after birth and im so jealous. I had episiotomy and emergency foreceps and literally couldnt feel my pelvic floor for ages. I do have it back now but sex just doesnt feel the same because im basically looser down there and im so mortified in case my OH is thinking the same during sex (although hes never mentioned anything) I can tell that it feels different for him now though and its not just me. Ive tried pelvic floor exercises but i forget to do them all the time. Ive actually mentioned this to my GP who just told me that basically my vaginal wall had gone 'a bit saggy' but thats just what happens after child birth and that it will never be the same again

 

[Smiler82]

Tighter?! Really?! I've never heard that, lucky so and so's!!

I had a third degree tear and for me sex is always uncomfortable for the first few minutes, they said since scar tissue doesn't stretch that's just how it is. It gets better after a while but it's definitely not the same. DH swears I feel exactly the same as before, but it doesn't feel the same for me. I still enjoy it, but I can't feel him as well as I did before, so it's not as much fun pre-baby. I did make an effort to do pelvic floor exercises after giving birth as I had an embarrassing moment on the post natal ward where I couldn't get to the loo in time So that gave me the motivation to do my exercises! I don't do them much any more I must admit. I don't know if there's much else to be done, other than the pelvic floors your doc doesn't sound very helpful, could you see a different one?