knobby
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So for my whole fertile window this cycle my husband has been having a hard time finishing. It takes him a long time and he has to stop and start over. This is despite my efforts of being as sexy and loving as possible. I have always made it about us and having fun and not just ttc. The problem is all in his head and I don't know what else I can do to help him.
I would have plenty of EWCM (tons.. Thanks to evening primrose oil) and arousal fluid to start with. By about 15-20 minutes into it the EWCM would get dried up and wasted and my body just stops making arousal fluid after that long. I had to use sperm friendly lube when he dried the real stuff up, but by the end, when he finally finished, the lube would also be dried up. On top of that the long sex sessions made me kinda raw - probably further messing up my vaginal ph.
Each time it took about an HOUR for him to finally finish.
I can't help but feel crushed and really sad. I don't feel good about this cycle at all. We had sex everyday during my fertile window, but didn't have one single good day. I don't know how I can conceive if looongggg sex turns my vagina into a dry and hostile environment for sperm. This is definitely not helping our chances.
We tried letting him get close to finishing by himself and then him trying to finish in me but that didn't work - he wouldn't finish as fast as he thought he would and would take forever still. Trying to add more sperm friendly lube at the last second also didn't work - he would go soft.
I just don't know what to do. This hasn't been a very big problem until this cycle. I feel so helpless. My husband knows it is all in head but he says he can't help it.
Does anyone have any advice? Is anyone else dealing with this problem?
UPDATE: As I had feared, I did not conceive this cycle.
I would have plenty of EWCM (tons.. Thanks to evening primrose oil) and arousal fluid to start with. By about 15-20 minutes into it the EWCM would get dried up and wasted and my body just stops making arousal fluid after that long. I had to use sperm friendly lube when he dried the real stuff up, but by the end, when he finally finished, the lube would also be dried up. On top of that the long sex sessions made me kinda raw - probably further messing up my vaginal ph.
Each time it took about an HOUR for him to finally finish.
I can't help but feel crushed and really sad. I don't feel good about this cycle at all. We had sex everyday during my fertile window, but didn't have one single good day. I don't know how I can conceive if looongggg sex turns my vagina into a dry and hostile environment for sperm. This is definitely not helping our chances.
We tried letting him get close to finishing by himself and then him trying to finish in me but that didn't work - he wouldn't finish as fast as he thought he would and would take forever still. Trying to add more sperm friendly lube at the last second also didn't work - he would go soft.
I just don't know what to do. This hasn't been a very big problem until this cycle. I feel so helpless. My husband knows it is all in head but he says he can't help it.
Does anyone have any advice? Is anyone else dealing with this problem?
UPDATE: As I had feared, I did not conceive this cycle.