Shocked and upset

[cerilou]

Hi

I got my on 14th July and was overjoyed. Started spotting on Wednesday and thought nothing of it. Was advised by a friend to get it checked out so went to the dr yesterday. He referred me to the EPU and I had an ultrasound and internal scan this morning. They couldn't find anything. I've since started bleeding and cramping so I know I'm losing.

They made me feel as if I'd imagined the whole pregnancy. They've asked me to wait 2 weeks and to take another pregnancy test. I was so shocked, I didn't really ask too many questions but the dr did tell me that there's no reason for it and there's nothing stopping me from having a future healthy pregnancy.

Would like to hear from anyone else who has had this. Just feeling numb about it all.

x

 

[wantababybump]

So sorry about your loss I have miscarried twice...once December '07 and just recently June '08. It's definitely hard. If you want to chat PM me.

 

[jonnanne3]

I am sorry for your loss. I have 2 miscarriages myself. One in March 08 and then one on July 5th. They were both very early. My doctor suggested that I may have a progesterone deficency and for me to take progesterone with my next pregnancy. I wish you well and I am sorry for your loss.

 

[Nicnac]

Sorry to hear of your loss Cerilou.

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[Barneyboo]

Sorry for your loss I have just had my 2nd miscarriage this week, take care of yourself x x x x

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

did the doctor tell u if there was any sign of pregnancy in there because it might have been a chemical pregnancy. my 3rd pregnancy was a chemical.

 

[superp123]

I just had my second mc in June, my new doc was very supportive and understanding... But the doc I had with my first mc was very dismissive like yours was. I just wanted to send you a hug and reassure you that your baby, no matter how small, wasn't immagined. The docs seem to make the assumption that you can just carry on w/o looking back, and sometimes almost expect it. When, in truth you'll be forever changed by this loss. I just hope that you'll allow yourself to grieve, even though your doc has managed to make you feel like you aren't allowed. Mc is such a terrible thing to go through, and just know that we're here if you need a chat or just want to have a fit. Sending lots of your way.
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[Sinead]

I know exactly how you feel - I miscarried about 3 days after getting my BFP and was asked 3 times if I was sure I got a positive. I was treated as though I had never been pregnant, because of this I now start to doubt myself even though I have only just thrown the tests away which dried out showing the positives even more clearly than when I did them.

 

[buffycat]

i'm so sorry about your loss, and that you were treated so insensitively......

here to talk if you need though...

luv & hugs

 

[Rumpskin]

I am so very sorry darling for your loss.

I m/c 6 months ago and was told to wait a week or so to take another pregnancy test to check that the hormone level had dropped. It is just routine.

I am sorry about the way that they treated you too.

Take care sweets x

 

[Blob]

Awww hun i'm so sorry thats awful

 

[cerilou]

did the doctor tell u if there was any sign of pregnancy in there because it might have been a chemical pregnancy. my 3rd pregnancy was a chemical.

What is a chemical pregnancy? The sonographer said she couldn't find any sign of pregnancy. She showed me the screen and all I could see was my empty womb. I took about 6 pregnancy tests and they were all positive.
x

 

[Snowball]

I'm so sorry hun If you ever need to talk I'm always around

 

[shalagirl]

I am very sorry to hear about ur loss Cerilou. If u were late and had 6 BFP's u were preg, yes it was very early but it was still a loss. I was one week late did two tests and the next day started to bleed having a loss at 5+5 weeks. A scan won't show anything until 6 or 7 weeks but don't let the docs and hospital feel like you imagined u were preg - U were and thats that. U could ask for ur hcg levels to be measured in two blood tests - it would be quicker than waiting two weeks. From reading on this forum early losses are more common than you think and one thing ur doc is right about is there is no explanation and it hopefully will never happen to you again. I would agree with the advice other ladies have given you - be kind to urself and allow urself time to grieve for what might have been. Take care of urself.

 

[cerilou]

Thanks. It means a lot to be able to chat with you ladies. I feel so isolated which is silly because this happens a lot. I really feel as if I am in limbo land. Part of me wants to grieve and another part of me thinks as I was only 6 weeks pregnant, I will get over it quickly. It's the most bizarre feeling being pregnant one minute and not pregnant the next.

Thank you for your support. I really appreciate it.

 

[shalagirl]

It's the most bizarre feeling being pregnant one minute and not pregnant the next.

I totally agree Cerilou - I did my tests (one digi and one first response so not the old cheapies that might be wrong). Told my DH that afternoon and we were happy and in a state of shock. We went out for the evening and in my head I was thinking to myself all sorts of stuff - we'll have to paint the spare room, I really should eat more healthy now, just as well I didn't buy that bra I seen at the weekend it won't fit in a few months etc then the next morning I start to spot and that was it. My world and flipped back and forth in 24 hours.

It's two weeks on now and I still feel down at times but I try to be pos+ my egg and DH sperm managed to meet so they can do it again. U will feel in limbo for a while, thats normal I guess but hopefully in a short space of time ur time will come again and it'l be a sticker. All the best.

 

[millymolly]

So sorry to hear of your loss....

Unfortunately. mc are quite common therefore some docs are impersonal because they come across it frequently but this doesn't help those of us who have experienced a mc, no matter how early on in the pregnancy. Most of us bond with our LO as soon as we get that

It is hard to appreciate just how devastating a mc can be unless you have sadly, been through a mc yourself. mc can feel like a bereavement and we need time and support to grieve. Unfortunately, some people seem to think you can get over it quickly as if you have lost a tooth!.........

'DITTO'....I can totally empathise with how you are feeling as I have had 2 mc and I felt so lonely until I came across BnB!

 

[shmoo75]

I found out I was pregnant on 06/05 then I started bleeding on the evening of 27/05 and it was confirmed at my EPU that there was nothing there and I had had a complete m/c. There are no words to describe how I felt I had lost my baby and what words are there to describe that? To people who have never ever had a m/c they can't seem to understand that to us losing our baby at 5wks, 6wks or what ever stage of our pregnancy doesn't count as it was only the size of pea and how can you miss that as you hadn't felt it kick!!!!! The thing is this happend to our bodies we felt the effects of the hormones eventhough it was so early. We have every right to grieve and cry and rant and rave as this was our baby that we have lost. I am sending loads of to you and to let you know you are so not alone.

 

[cerilou]

Thanks for your advice girls. I honestly don't know what I would do without you.

Feeling a tiny bit more positive. Spending the day with my dd and taking a few days off work so I can be mummy.

I guess I have more questions now that I did yesterday - probably cos I am thinking more clearly. At the hospital, they didn't mention the word 'miscarriage' once and they gave me no advice as to what I can expect. I am not bleeding as such - only when I wipe. Feeling really tired and a bit crampy but nothing major.

If I was 6 weeks when I m/c, could anyone tell me what I can expect to happen?

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

chemical pregnancy is when the egg gets fertalised but doesnt attached and a late period takes it away.
i did 5 tests all +
then 2 days after i bled it was -
its very common.