Should I do it?

[Desi's_lost]

Well, I am completely at my wits end with fob and his family. It seems as though he is now courting a new girl who surprise surprise lives 30 miles away...those are the only girls he seems to know how to date..And I just...really want to get back at them! I'm thinking of contacting a few local news papers and seeing if they are interested in the story seeing his family owns a well known and respected grocery store in my town. I figure seeing they are SO concerned about themselves and have no concern about the baby, maybe this would be a way that I could teach them they ought to take responsibility for their messes, or else it might bite you in the ass.
What do you guys think, is it completely childish and ridiculous?

 

[QuintinsMommy]

i REALLY don't want you to be upset, but I think it is childish and ridiculous.

 

[Eskimobabys]

i cant say bc i dont know the back story

 

[LovingYou]

i really don't think thats the mature way to handle it.

 

[Bride2Be]

I don't think it's the right response, but I'm sorry you're going through so much

 

[Eskimobabys]

i know it sucks he has a new GF but you cant let that get you down you have a beautiful baby and if him and his family doesn't want to be a part of that then there lost! either have him sign his rights away or get that money that you ARE OWED!

 

[Desi's_lost]

The back story is RIDICULOUS!
and i'm not upset. I really didnt want it to come to that but its just like...they need some lesson taught!
They SAID that his car was gone and they money would go to the baby. That hasnt happened. Instead he has put hundreds of dollars into preformance parts into it.
They MADE him stop talking to me so that they could brain wash him some more and allowed him to cut the hell out of his arms to the point where people who saw it were disgusted.
They are now letting go about with some new girl
he has his car back
they tried to get me arrested for rape
they harassed the shit out of my family
they insisted I sit down and talk with them but never returned the operunity.
the REFUSE to allow me to talk to him, even regarding the baby.
and this is just an over view.

When is it my turn to pay them back for all they have put me through?

 

[Eskimobabys]

they sound horrible hun i wouldnt want them in my babies lives! just know that KRAMA is a FAT Bitch they'll get whats coming to them!

 

[Bride2Be]

I think you said your FOB was 18 so please correct me if I'm wrong.

If he is 18 then he needs to tell them that he is a legal adult and can talk to who ever he wants ESPECIALLY if it's about his baby.

 

[Desi's_lost]

He will be in two days, but I highly doubt he will do anything now. We haven't had any contact in months and it seems like he's pretty done with me and in his own stupid way, i dont think he ever cared about the baby anyway.
thanks everyone.

 

[mum#1]

Your calling him childish and saying what the whole family is doing is chilish, which i completely 100% agree with!

but if you go to the papers and stuff your doing and acting exactly the same way. just making the situation 10000 x worse.

just can him from yours and LO's life and leave it at that.

 

[Desi's_lost]

I'd like to think of them as soulless...and clinically insane ( lot of reasons for it )
I see your point, they just SO deserve it. Like to see them open a second store once people see them for what they are.

 

[aob1013]

Don't want to be harsh, but that really is very immature x

 

[Desi's_lost]

Just as part of my thinking process, why is it immature? shady business practice I see, low blow, but im not sure i see the immature. If i was to make things up, i could understand, but they've done a good enough job of making themselves look like crap. I dont need to add anything. i kinda see it as justice.

 

[Pixxie]

I understand your hurt and pissed off, anyone would be, but that isnt the right way to deal with it. In the long run, you will make it worse for yourself. Unfortunately there isnt much you can do, he may decide he wants to talk to you once his parents cant do anything but then again he might not. Hopefully he will realise he is being stupid and man up to this situation! Sorry hun but I think you should just stop trying with him, he obviously doesnt care as much as you otherwise he would have told his parents to get f***ed, for your baby's sake you should try and forget about him xxx

 

[daniellelk]

I agree with other's that it's childish, sound's like your jealous he is seeing another lass!

as for what you say his parents are doing, NO ONE can make someone do/not do something.
My OH used to try blame his brake up with his ex and the stuff she did (like stopping him having contact with his daughter, and going to the police and claiming he raped her) on a friend of her's making her do it, but like I said to him, how can some one have MADE her do that stuff!
I don't see how someone can be made to do something unless they had a gun or something at their head!

Fair enough it's not as easy for you to move on with your life, like your EX can, but you need to accept that he's moved on.
IF you went to the paper's, what's to say his family wont sue you for slander or something? Then it's more stress on you, that you don't need right now.

 

[Sophiiie]

I don't think that's the best way to go about it, but I'm sorry for how you're feeling. In terms of getting revenge, when you've got your LO in your arms, it's going to end up eating away at them that they aren't part of their grandchilds life. As for the FOB, it might not bother him for a while, but it will eventually x

 

[aob1013]

Immature because that's what kids do in a playground, try and get back at each other.

A mature person, just wouldn't do it and would just let it go.

 

[Jadelm]

I don't think you should do it hun, but I don't think you're being totally immature (just a little ), you're angry and upset at the situation and I totally get why. The ammount of childish and immature and spiteful things I've dreamt of inflicting on FOB.. but the point it I would never do it because then that makes you just as bad as them and you don't wanna be that kinda person, especially because you're the one holding the baby so you need to be the one taking the high road for LOs sake as well as your own.

My advice to you hun (and I know it's easier than it sounds) is to try and let go completely. It's not him/his family it's hurting you getting wound up it's YOU and your baby will be feeling the stress too. You need to move on, put it all out of your mind completely and just see it as just you and bubs and I promise you once you start making yourself it'll jut come as second nature and you'll forget FOB was ever part of your life! Like someone else said either get him to sign over his rights or get the money you are owed, legally those are your rights as a mother so they can't do eff all about it.

And as for FOB, if he doesn't want to be part of LOs life then as sad as it is there isn't a single thing you can do about it. The amount of times I've cried just because I feel so utterly heartbroken for Evie that her daddy just doesn't seem to care about her but who is that helping? No one, especially not her! So you just gotta make yourself the BEST mum and dad you can be so you can rest assured within yourself that she's not missing out on any love or anything.

Sorry that was a bit long, just I've seen lots of your FOB posts and never get around to replying so thought I'd give you my 2 cents. He's not worth it hun and you'll be fine without him, like I said you just need to let go for your own sake or it will make you bitter x

 

[Lydiarose]

No its absolutly ridiculous.