Should I do it?

[aob1013]

Honestly, i really don't think she's done anything wrong?

If my fiance left me while still pregnant/Leni was here, and he got involved with another girl, i wouldn't care - it wouldn't make her a whore!?

 

[JessdueJan]

I agree, some innocent girl getting involved with him does not make her a whore!!!

My best friend got involved with a guy and then found out he was going through shit with a pregnant ex...she stuck by him but it doesn't make her a whore!

This girl is presumably only getting his side of the story?? you don't know what he's saying the situation is so grow up, stop the name calling and move on...

 

[samface182]

Like I said, i've decided I dont care anymore. Her disgusting choice will bite her. Its one thing if the baby was already born and everything was was settled. But no, things are still upside down. If she's stupid like me, she'll soon be tearing her heart out trying to fix him, and it'll never happen. And i'll laugh last.

The only reason I want them anymore is for money. My baby girl deserves her share from them.

she has done nothing wrong

sounds to me, like your just jealous of her

 

[Ablaski17]

You said your disgusted that she thinks ita ok for her to get involved with him ? Well your wrong there are a BUNCH of guys out there that have pregnant ex girls or even wives and say F you and go off with other woman sobyour tellin me there all disgusting? It's not there faults they fell for a man who has a pregnant woman on the side. I think it's disgusting you care this much about his new girl apparently you have nonidea what goes on in his life or what he spends his money on since you don't talk to him so why don't you stop jumping to conclusions , for all you know n he is saving every damn dime he has and mabey he will come around when tbe baby comes , honestly he seems like he made it pretty clear that he dosent want to have contact with you but you seem to just either call him or facebook him just leave the damn kid alone an mabey he will come around and atop judging people you don't know. Rant over .

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

Desi your attitude towards her is terrible. Dhe has done nothing but fall in love with a single boy. Why does that make her a whore? You sound very bitter. I know it must hurt but you're about to become a mother. Rise above it
xx

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

Desi didnt you say a few days ago you had been to a boys house you liked?

Sorry im just abit confused?

Difference is I didn't walk out on him. If it was up to me we would be together for the sake of the baby. And yes, I like Mikey, but I'm not involved with him.

Even though you would do that through good intentions. It is not the right thing to do. You should never stay with someone for the sake of teh children. Because in the end teh children are the ones that end up getting hurt. As neither one if the parents want to be in the realtionship and there would be constant arguments etc
xx

 

[mum#1]

Desi i honestly think you dont even know what you want. You were so set out on bringing him and he's family down, yet you just said you would get back with him for the sake of the baby?
if he's been that much of a bad person, why would you want him in your life, and especially LO's?
he's moved on, you realllly need to do the same.

 

[daniellelk]

Are you kidding? Yea, he's going to college SO HE CAN WORK IN THE STORE HE ALREADY WORKS IN...All indications say he doesnt give a shit about her, so i'd really really like to know how you got that he was going to get a good job to take care of her.

Actually his 'new partner' is doing something wrong to me and my daughter. now he just has something new to spend money on and waste more time not working. I would be working if they would give me my job back, even though i hate them. what kind of a skeevy whore gets involved with an immature, abusive (today) 18 year old who has a daughter on the way?! Now that is trailer trash.

You explain this to me than, he has a facebook, I've sent him a few messages about the baby over the last few months. He TELLS them about the messages. If he cared about my baby like he promised me he did, I can go get the texts still, then you tell me why he ignores them and tells his parents. If he wanted to, he could get information. He does not want it. He deserves no credit for anything he has done.

And yes she is. Who goes 'Oh lets see, you decided to start a family with a girl, promised her the world, got her pregnant and then walked away. Clearly you are in a great place to start a new relationship.'
NO! That does not make sense.

I have nothing to say really. I'm quite disgusted that people think its okay to get involved with someone who is in the middle of all this bullsh.t.

Now I usually keep my mouth shut and stay out of disagreement's but..
I think I acctually find that abit insulting! My current partner, split up with his ex while she was pregnant!! Yet I still chose to get involved with him, ok we didn't get together until she had the baby....well pretty much the day after she had the child. you could say he wasn't in the right place to start a new relationship.
So is that to say im a "skeevy whore"? Just because 2year's ago I met some one who had a pregnant ex!
2year's later....been living together for a year, and in 6week's time expect our own little baby!

Do you even know this lass?! To be able to slag her off on a forum, where she can't defend her self? That is out off order, and clearly you are jealous that your EX as moved on.
You need to just leave it, let him know you have had the LO when she come's along, then look into getting maintenance of him. You never know he may decide he want's to be involved, he might not have fully got his head around the whole thing and just letting his parent's control the situation because of that reason.

Sorry if no one agree's but I find those comments you made insulting and unfair.

 

[Jadelm]

I find the comments insulting too for many reasons that I'm not even gonna go into. I've changed my entire opinion on this thread.. x

 

[Lydiarose]

Like ive said to you before desi why on earth cant you just concentrate on your child?

You are making so much drama and stress out of this,
i understand its hard but your not the only one who has relationship problems.

I for example have had many issues with my Oh the last few months as has Jadelm but i dont see either of us causing such a commotion when you might find other peoples problems are alot worse than yours . . .

Your being absolutly immature and need to grow up IMO.

 

[Desi's_lost]

The funny thing is I was over this a long time ago.
I am the one making the drama when everyone feels the need to say the same thing over and over, yes, real productive. gee i dont think your point has been made yet, how about everyone say it again.
its pretty amusing actually.

 

[MikaylasMummy]

hmmm this thread has turned out rather nastily..hopefully you just needed a rant hun and you wouldnt actually get around to trying to ruin his family.if they are horrible people as you say i would not want them in mine or my babies life at all.they are missing out on your wonderful baby and it just means you dont have to share her with anyone else!they will regret it immensly when she is older and they have missed her life but she will not know what she is missing out on if they are not coming in and out of her life like it seems they would if you forced them to be.
i understand how hurt you must be that he has left and gone off with some other girl..in my head if this happened to me i would be very upset and resentful as well. he is getting on with his life and the baby you made together has been left with you.i hope you find peace soon and are able to move on from him and realise your life will be a lot better and you will find someone who wants to treat you and your baby how you deserve to be treated.goodluck.x

 

[daniellelk]

The funny thing is I was over this a long time ago.
I am the one making the drama when everyone feels the need to say the same thing over and over, yes, real productive. gee i dont think your point has been made yet, how about everyone say it again.
its pretty amusing actually.

Sorry but you seem to say that alot in disagreement's. You have a right to rant, but there isn't a need to name call when it could offend people on the site.

Im not replying in this thread any more because it is pointless.

 

[mum#1]

im pretty sure you posted the thread to get everyones comments and thoughts.
so you got them. you cant get shitty and tell everyone off because it wasnt the response you wanted.

 

[Lydiarose]

Desi you dont make any sense at all you controdict yourself all the time

 

[lily123]

 

[lucy_x]

The back story is RIDICULOUS!
and i'm not upset. I really didnt want it to come to that but its just like...they need some lesson taught!
They SAID that his car was gone and they money would go to the baby. That hasnt happened. Instead he has put hundreds of dollars into preformance parts into it.
They MADE him stop talking to me so that they could brain wash him some more and allowed him to cut the hell out of his arms to the point where people who saw it were disgusted.
They are now letting go about with some new girl
he has his car back
they tried to get me arrested for rape
they harassed the shit out of my family
they insisted I sit down and talk with them but never returned the operunity.
the REFUSE to allow me to talk to him, even regarding the baby.
and this is just an over view.

When is it my turn to pay them back for all they have put me through?

Who the hell are "they"? Surley he is his own person?... your making it sound like hes an innocent party :S.... iv been there with people like that... and it aint worth lowering yourself to their level. Act like you dont care, you got the better end of the deal anyway. you got the baby. he owes you nothing, they owe you nothing. Ignore them, it hurts them alot more than doing something about it, trust me

 

[ashleyandkids]

i actaully have to agree with Desi's_lost here. I mean, how is FOB supposed to see his responsiblities that he is ignoring, if he has another "quick fix" gf. For her going with him, he will think for the rest of his life that he can just do what ever he wants, without any responsiblities. As for the gf, she is probably trying to tell him to forget about it, and focus on here and now. Alot of you say that she has done nothing wrong, how would you know that, do you guys personally know her? She probably is bashing Desi's_lost and calling her horrible names behind her back. You have to see from both perspectives. With her knowing whats going on, and still being with FOB, thats really low, she is probably encouraging him not to take responsibilty for his kid

 

[laura.x.x]

i actaully have to agree with Desi's_lost here. I mean, how is FOB supposed to see his responsiblities that he is ignoring, if he has another "quick fix" gf. For her going with him, he will think for the rest of his life that he can just do what ever he wants, without any responsiblities. As for the gf, she is probably trying to tell him to forget about it, and focus on here and now. Alot of you say that she has done nothing wrong, how would you know that, do you guys personally know her? She probably is bashing Desi's_lost and calling her horrible names behind her back. You have to see from both perspectives. With her knowing whats going on, and still being with FOB, thats really low, she is probably encouraging him not to take responsibilty for his kid

And how do you know that exactly?

 

[aob1013]

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