Feeling like the worlds shittest mum after losing my patience with my three year old when he's not well.
Last Friday he came down with one of his worst colds ever, cue horrible sleepless nights and whingey days despite me dosing him up. I've been letting him watch the iPad when I normally don't because I know he feels like shit but he's honestly being so so wearing. DH is helping but he's not here during the day.
I didn't send him to nursery on Monday because I felt he might still be infectious, but on Tuesday I absolutely insisted he went back - reason being that he just had half term off and only started there six weeks ago and it was very traumatic and tearful. He'd just settled in and I was terrified we'd be back to square one if he had any more time off. So he went Tuesday and Wednesday and has been okayish about it, but just so so difficult while at home. Especially at nights obviously, we all know poorly nights are the worst. He's a lot less congested than he was and he's stopped having a temperature, but he just has this residual cough that is almost incessant in the evenings and wakes him (and me) up several times a night.
DH has to get up early for work so he's been sleeping in LO's bed and me and LO have taken the double bed, and honestly about an hour ago (at 4am) I just snapped. LO fell asleep ridiculously early despite me trying desperately to keep him awake a while longer knowing it'd mess with his sleeping pattern. He woke up at 4:15am crying "blaze telly" I ignored him he just got louder and louder until I moaned "no" and then he SCREAMED a very tantrumy scream. I just shot bolt upright in bed and "smacked" (I use two straight fingers on his bum so I know it doesn't hurt but it lets him know he's crossed a line) him. I shouted "I SAID NO" and then started sobbing. DH came in and calmed him down and put him back to sleep, sending me here (LO's bed). This isn't even the first time I've lost my patience with him since Friday.
I feel like absolute shit right now, this is not how mothers are supposed to behave with their poorly babies, and I honestly feel that I should stop TTC right now because I feel I'm not a natural mother and how would I cope when this happened to one or both of him and another baby, once I had two? I don't even think I should be trying for another one when I can't deal with less than a week of poorliness from this one. just so so so sad and feel shit right now.
Last Friday he came down with one of his worst colds ever, cue horrible sleepless nights and whingey days despite me dosing him up. I've been letting him watch the iPad when I normally don't because I know he feels like shit but he's honestly being so so wearing. DH is helping but he's not here during the day.
I didn't send him to nursery on Monday because I felt he might still be infectious, but on Tuesday I absolutely insisted he went back - reason being that he just had half term off and only started there six weeks ago and it was very traumatic and tearful. He'd just settled in and I was terrified we'd be back to square one if he had any more time off. So he went Tuesday and Wednesday and has been okayish about it, but just so so difficult while at home. Especially at nights obviously, we all know poorly nights are the worst. He's a lot less congested than he was and he's stopped having a temperature, but he just has this residual cough that is almost incessant in the evenings and wakes him (and me) up several times a night.
DH has to get up early for work so he's been sleeping in LO's bed and me and LO have taken the double bed, and honestly about an hour ago (at 4am) I just snapped. LO fell asleep ridiculously early despite me trying desperately to keep him awake a while longer knowing it'd mess with his sleeping pattern. He woke up at 4:15am crying "blaze telly" I ignored him he just got louder and louder until I moaned "no" and then he SCREAMED a very tantrumy scream. I just shot bolt upright in bed and "smacked" (I use two straight fingers on his bum so I know it doesn't hurt but it lets him know he's crossed a line) him. I shouted "I SAID NO" and then started sobbing. DH came in and calmed him down and put him back to sleep, sending me here (LO's bed). This isn't even the first time I've lost my patience with him since Friday.
I feel like absolute shit right now, this is not how mothers are supposed to behave with their poorly babies, and I honestly feel that I should stop TTC right now because I feel I'm not a natural mother and how would I cope when this happened to one or both of him and another baby, once I had two? I don't even think I should be trying for another one when I can't deal with less than a week of poorliness from this one. just so so so sad and feel shit right now.