Should I panic yet?

[truly_blessed]

Ok I turned 40 in Dec and OH is 26. We had an MMC in late Nov 09 and found out at 12 week scan and had D&C 4 days later, prior to that we had been NTNP for about 14 months.

I had a few problems with cramps and bleeding after the D&C for about 6 weeks but finally passed everything in mid Jan and started using CB Fertility Monitor in Feb. We waited a couple of months then, due to me starting a new job and maternity benefits but started TTC in earnest in mid April.

We're just starting cycle 5 and my monitor shows OV happening every month, varies between CD14 and CD17 and my cycles have been 30, 30, 31, 32 days for the last 4 cycles.

Should I worry yet? Time is obviously not on my side and I know the statistics say it takes the average healthy woman 6 months to conceive but I'm getting ever so slightly impatient now. Last cycle we really tried and I'm confident we did as much as we could, bedroom aerobics wise but still AF caught up with me, albeit a day later than usual.

Am I just being impatient? This would be #1 and I am a young 40, wii fit even calculated my wii fit age as 31 on Saturday night

I just see so many people here with all sorts of other issues they are battling against and think I should just think myself lucky I managed to conceive last year then remember MMC can happen to anyone at any age..... and then I start to worry again.

 

[FutureMommie]

I'm 37 and after we tried on our own for 6 months we were referred to and RE. I would say that you aren't being impatient and that you might want to see and RE and have all the necessary test done just to make sure everything is ok. Good Luck and remember 40 is fabulous!

 

[truly_blessed]

Thanks for the reply, it is fabulous and it could be even more so. What's an RE, is that like a fertility specialist. I know once I hit 40 I can't get help from the National Health Service for free in the UK but I think I may be able to get the blood tests done. I do work for the NHS as well so might be able to self refer without having to go through the doctor. I'd need to ask the questions.

I know that when were NTNP, I had no idea when I OVed and didn't even think about it so I'm not so much worried that it took 14 months then as we probably missed all the fertile days in any case. I suppose realistically I should try 2 more cycles, so that would be 6 months and then start to get some test done, I just hate blood tests though, almost fainted when I had to have my one and only lot done when I was pregnant.

Thanks for the advice.

 

[FutureMommie]

Yes and RE is a fertility specialist. Maybe you should try OPK's (ovulation predictor kits) to see exacly when you are ovulating. Most Dr's recommendend that you have sex every other day during your cycle to cover all you basis. The opk's will at least let you know when you ovulate.

 

[truly_blessed]

thanks for confirming that. I have a clearblue fertility monitor that I have been using since February (just used it to track my cycle in Feb and Mar) and it has shown ovulation between CD14 and Cd17 every month, one month it went straight to Peak from Low so it looks like I am ovulating but I have bought some OPKs as well in an attempt to pinpoint it better. I use the monitor in the mornings so I'll use the OPKs mid-late afternoon.

 

[Lucy1973]

Hi, sorry to hear of your loss. There is an extra added stress to TTC at our age...I am 37. I thought you would definitely get NHS help if you are over 35 and it's taking a while to conceive? It sounds like a good plan to try two more cycles, and then see Doc if necessary. Good luck anyway


And don't panic...you have a good few years yet. xx

 

[Nise]

Awe Truly-blessed, I can empathise with how you feel - I found out about my mc at the 12 week scan too, it truly sucks.

Just wanted to let you know that you can be referred to a fertility specialist and get all the tests for both you and your partner done on the NHS - won't you won't be able to have done on the NHS is IVF - though I think they may have recently changed or be changing it soon to the age of 40 - providing you don't have any children. Wanted to wish you luck with this cycle and hope it's not long before you are announcing your BFP.

 

[truly_blessed]

thanks Lucy and Nise, wise advice as always. I go from not really even thinking about it too much to stressing out. I think it's in the middle of the 2 WW, you just get so hopeful and then it's shattered, just like that. Then of course, if I'm a day over I panic thinking OMG what if this is it lol, you just can't win sometimes.

I thought I might be able to get some help on the NHS but wasn't sure what so thanks for that Nise, it's good to know. I hadn't heard about the age changing either so that's really good news too.

I'm away this month from CD21 to what would be CD32 in the caravan and won't be taking any tests with me so it's probably a good thing. If I get back on the Sunday and there's no sign of AF, I'll test later that day.

 

[truly_blessed]

Hmmm 2012 before Nice finalise the new guidelines for IVF. Why does it take almost 2 years?

https://www.bionews.org.uk/page_65435.asp

 

[serendippy]

yeh they are talking to raising the IVF limit to 44 but in 2012 ill be too old lol. As Nise says u can have all the tests etc for free on the NHS but u have to pay for any IVF procedures. With my clinic u have to be at an age limit of 39 and starting treatment to ahve it free.

I work for the NHS but i had to be referred by my GP, not sure if the department u work in makes a difference or anything but worth a try.

Good luck hunny xxxxx

 

[Cui]

I go from not really even thinking about it too much to stressing out. I think it's in the middle of the 2 WW, you just get so hopeful and then it's shattered, just like that. Then of course, if I'm a day over I panic thinking OMG what if this is it lol, you just can't win sometimes.

I agree with the suggestion of seeing a specialist.
I'm all over the place in the middle of the 2WW. I get all gloomy thinking I missed it and then five minutes later I start thinking we could still have a chance. Something about day seven makes me crazy.

 

[Nise]

Hmmm 2012 before Nice finalise the new guidelines for IVF. Why does it take almost 2 years?

https://www.bionews.org.uk/page_65435.asp

Oh that's shit, my source (obviously not very reliable) led me to believe it was imminent - Thought 2 years is probably about as imminent as the NHS gets!

 

[Omi]

Like the NHS comment, lol!