jadesh101
Keira&Seren
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The Mag Read
A quarter of woman would rather have their Mum's by their side than their partner during birth*
So, an invaluable support or a squeamish mess- is your man the right person to support you.
One lady said yes! You babies Dads has got to be the best person to hold your hand in the delivery room, how could you deny him the life changing opportunity to watch his child come into the world, he was your best support during the pregnancy and knows what you need.
Another lady said no! it's a sign of our enlightened times that fathers are allowed into the delivery rooms.. Now we are in danger of turning what has become a choice into yet another obligatory box on the 'good parent' checklist! There's no doubt those first few minutes are invaluable in promoting parental bonding, But what if the father can't be there, or a woman chooses someone else to support her. Is her birth second-rate.
No it wouldn't be second-rate, a woman should go with what will make her comfortable. My partner didn't make it to the first birth, emergency c-section but my mum was there and she was my rock, my second birth was a VBAC and I loved it! My Mum, partner and sister were in the room, my mum again was my rock, but my partner being there supporting me also helped me push baby out when she was stuck! And those first few minutes of us cuddling with baby can never be replace!
Why on earth are mothers feeling judged about how and when and who with that they give birth, it's disgusting, it's not what people think, and if it is first or second rate to who you choose to be there! It is the day you bring your beautiful baby into the world with someone you love dearly beside you, doesn't matter if it is your partner, father of baby (if not together) mum, sister, friend or doula! as long as mummy and baby are safe warm and happy!
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A quarter of woman would rather have their Mum's by their side than their partner during birth*
So, an invaluable support or a squeamish mess- is your man the right person to support you.
One lady said yes! You babies Dads has got to be the best person to hold your hand in the delivery room, how could you deny him the life changing opportunity to watch his child come into the world, he was your best support during the pregnancy and knows what you need.
Another lady said no! it's a sign of our enlightened times that fathers are allowed into the delivery rooms.. Now we are in danger of turning what has become a choice into yet another obligatory box on the 'good parent' checklist! There's no doubt those first few minutes are invaluable in promoting parental bonding, But what if the father can't be there, or a woman chooses someone else to support her. Is her birth second-rate.
No it wouldn't be second-rate, a woman should go with what will make her comfortable. My partner didn't make it to the first birth, emergency c-section but my mum was there and she was my rock, my second birth was a VBAC and I loved it! My Mum, partner and sister were in the room, my mum again was my rock, but my partner being there supporting me also helped me push baby out when she was stuck! And those first few minutes of us cuddling with baby can never be replace!
Why on earth are mothers feeling judged about how and when and who with that they give birth, it's disgusting, it's not what people think, and if it is first or second rate to who you choose to be there! It is the day you bring your beautiful baby into the world with someone you love dearly beside you, doesn't matter if it is your partner, father of baby (if not together) mum, sister, friend or doula! as long as mummy and baby are safe warm and happy!
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