Sick of sex?

[kiki04]

I am so sick of timed sex. Tmrw is cd12 so I HAVE to start bd every second day. No spontaneous fun sex... just, hey Im ovulating... lets do this lol not seriously like that but we both know better. And I am over it.

 

[tommyg]

TBH I am the same. I am seriously considering investing in the kamasutra to make it a bit more fun as it has become very boring and almost a chore.

 

[heres_hoping]

Yep, same here.

 

[Bride2b]

Same here.....yawn!!!

 

[mysugarpie]

I get so tired of trying to 'get in the mood' at the right time, dh I think especially has trouble with this. I have stopped telling him about the timing so much, trying to make it look a little more spontaneous, hehe

 

[Jillie89]

Ditto - even hubby is over it. Emotionally it is just exhausting more than anything though.

 

[kiki04]

I stopped telling dh timing months ago because he was starting to suffer from performance anxiety I guess and the pressure really softened him Then we would fight because I would accuse him of not being attracted to me and I would feel low and then wonder why are we ttc if you cant even get hard for me blah blah blah.... makes it even more frusterating.... so he doesnt know.... but yet 'he knows' cuz he isnt stupid... (even though somedays I may say otherwise )

 

[tamithomas]

I can understand what you guys mean by tired of timed sex. The key that's worked for us and has kept us sane during those times is to forget that it's timed sex. Sure I tell him it's time but at the same time when you're actually doing it remind yourself to have fun..explore each other. Foreplay, toys ect. Experiment It may be timed but doesn't mean it has to feel like it. Hope that helps. Sending you all major your way!

 

[tessjs]

I breathe a sigh of relied after fertile time you can hear the collective sigh of relief, it makes me unhappy...i can't understand why its like this ..whoever created us made it very difficult ..we should be fertile all the time... its just makes it so hard that one only time of the month...my next fertile time looks ruined by a visitor and i would of already seen a FS and I have a feeling they will say just frankly we no hope of conceiving naturally... anyway.i think i will be freed ...LOL

 

[jcr1988]

I'm with you all and so is my DH!! neither one of us want it very often anymore! DH even said that i don't want him, just his sperm!! i felt horrible!! I'm sort of at a loss of what to do to keep it a fun thing when it's become a chore for us both.

 

[Sexki11en]

Oh my god YES! So sick of sex. 43 months of timed sex has taken all the fun out of it and now thats the only time we bother!

 

[Ariannda]

Im gonna say both yes and at the same time no

My DH is a pretty sensitive guy, and he knows when im ovulating even when im not sure i am. He says theres a shift, a tiny change in my voice, i snuggle up to him more when im asleep, i have a slightly different look and smell

Also i desperately, deeply desire him and want him every time i see him. This is new for me, i was previously married for almost 10 years and i can remember wanting him once in a blue moon and feeling like i was just being used by him for his own needs. We were very young and sometimes things just work that way, so i love the fact i WANT this man, and i can't get enough of him

He knows we're timing, i OPK and what not, and he doesn't mind, he enjoys getting to do me whenever i wink and nod. I take muxinex when he leaves work and when he gets home we DTD.

But... sometimes i just think to myself "why why WHY" ya know ?

I think this is the problem, when sex becomes more like a chore it's just not fun, and when it's not fun it just sucks. And honestly we all know that sex should be a part of a loving and healthy relationship, and then to proceduralize it ... *sigh* time to make sex fun again !

 

[Molae06]

This is us too!! But it's more dh than I, as I still want sex at other times in my cycle, but at those times dh most of the time rolls his eyes or something along those lines and tells me whats the point I'm not even ovulating right now. I get peeved and tell him the point is he is my husband and I love him and want to be close to him. It's like geeze, what a turn on. Sadly it didn't used to be like this, I rememeber the days when we were NTNP and he was ALWAYS in the mood, stupid infertility has ruined it for us!

 

[Ariannda]

This is us too!! But it's more dh than I, as I still want sex at other times in my cycle, but at those times dh most of the time rolls his eyes or something along those lines and tells me whats the point I'm not even ovulating right now. I get peeved and tell him the point is he is my husband and I love him and want to be close to him. It's like geeze, what a turn on. Sadly it didn't used to be like this, I rememeber the days when we were NTNP and he was ALWAYS in the mood, stupid infertility has ruined it for us!

Yeah i get that sometimes too. I suppose luckily for me my DH is using the fact he's gone the past 10 years with very little sex to his advantage... I just sigh and roll my eyes

 

[Baby of mine]

I agree. Seems more like a job that needs to get done. Frustrating. Been trying for sooo long.