Single Parents - What happens with your LO?

[Laura--x]

On christmas? This is for the people who are split with FOB but they still see LO..

Do you split christmas day so you both have LO half a day each? Or do you do 2 seperate 'christmas days' ( eg, you have lo christmas day, then FOB has lo boxing day ).

 

[Tegans Mama]

I'm not a single parent but when I was younger we would stay with Mum Xmas day, and dad Boxing Day. I honestly didn't like it though. Never did like my dad much lol

 

[Georgie90]

not a single parent but my mum and dad are divorced...

we do alternate years...

Last year was Christmas Day with Dad
Boxing Day with Mum

This Year is Christmas Day with Mum
Boxing day with Dad.

Hate it though...miss being all together at christmas x

 

[Kimboowee]

When I was younger my parents did the same as above. Obv as its her first xmas you'll both wanna see her.

How about inviting him over xmas morning to watch her open her presents and see her for abit then he can have her all day boxing day or come round again for a bit before she goes to bed? That way he'll get to see her on xmas day for a while.

 

[Lexi's Mummy]

He doesnt pay any interest at xmas jut like any other day lol, but if he did i would stil have her xmas day and would arrange something for him a differnt day.. xmas eve or boxing. If he wanted to see her open presents then he could do that by watching her open his x

 

[Becky]

Jacob doesn't see his dad but if all changes between now and them he can come and see him on boxing day! I don't want him to ruin our family christmas! x

 

[Blah11]

My mum and dad are divorced. We always did and still do christmas eve and day with mum, boxing day and the 27th with dad.

IMO splitting the day would be silly.

 

[Becky]

Me again sorry!

Last year me and Jacobs dad were still on speaking terms and I took Jacob round there after we had opened our presents at home and it kinda ruined the day I felt like I missed out on time with my family so I wouldnt do it like that again x

 

[honey08]

not even sure but im going to my mams at xmas in another town so garys no chance he came see him boxing day !

 

[ladyjayne]

not a single parent but my OH has a daughter from another relationship and we have two xmas's for her, she gets xmas day with her mum and then we drive (200 miles) overnight and have her on boxing day for our xmas and a few days after. We also get new years eve most years.
As much as we would love to have her on xmas day I think its important she gets to have that time with her mum, after all she is her main carer and for me christmas is never the same if your not at home. x

 

[jazmine18]

mine is made quite easy because sophias dad is a muslim, he doesnt celebrate it, so its just like any other day to him, i still make him buy us xmas prezzies though! lol

 

[brando]

My mum and dad are divorced. We always did and still do christmas eve and day with mum, boxing day and the 27th with dad.

IMO splitting the day would be silly.

Why is it silly?

I get my one t-time on xmas day n she spends xmas night with me, she opens some of her presents when she come in then the rest box boxing day morning( my xmas day with her) since i'm never allowed her on xmas morning

 

[Blah11]

My mum and dad are divorced. We always did and still do christmas eve and day with mum, boxing day and the 27th with dad.

IMO splitting the day would be silly.

Why is it silly?

I get my one t-time on xmas day n she spends xmas night with me, she opens some of her presents when she come in then the rest box boxing day morning( my xmas day with her) since i'm never allowed her on xmas morning

I just think its pointless to split an already really busy day and can be exhausting for a LO with all the excitement.. quite overwhelming. TBH when I was younger all I wanted to do was play with my new toys and I'd of been a bit miffed if I had to leave it all mid way through the day to go to my dads. I always liked going to his on boxing day so I could have christmas day II all over again.

 

[AppleBlossom]

I would rather do xmas day with me and my family, boxing day with his. But I'm sure he'll spit his dummy out at that one

 

[helen1234]

rosies dad would come see her xmas day morning i would have her xmas day and sometimes she'd go for tea xmas evening and then stay and come home boxing day night.
now she goes to her dads wknd before xmas and the the wknd after xmas day depending when xmas falls, she goes away every yr with my inlaws day after boxing day till day before new yr eve, it her choice now.

i felt really sorry for paul that he didnt see rosie open her presents on xmas day so i said he could come as long as he behaved i was sinlge at the time. it only happened while she was really young after that it was late teatime xmas day or boxing day

 

[Laura--x]

Well i told oh today that i was having her christmas day and he could have her boxing day.. i said to him if he wanted to come and see her boxing day he could..


He wasnt happy and told me his family deserve to see her christmas day. I couldnt be arsed to argue so i just said we'll arrange it all closer to the time.. and he said yeah but hes definately seeing her christmas day.

Grr!! What would yo do? Stick to your guns and me keep her christmas day or let him half her for half?

 

[insomnimama]

Laura maybe you could get Christmas morning (presents etc) and have a mid-day meal with her and your family, and then your ex OH could pick her up early afternoon and have an evening meal with his family. Not all ex OH's are so interested- try to make it work even though it feels less than ideal.

 

[starbucks101]

I never went to my dads for xmas day at the earliest i went on the 27th but ususally later than that. My mum wouldnt allow it, i dont think my dad would of dared ask for me on christmas day, and i wouldnt of wanted to go anyway, christmas has always been a huge family event on my mums side of the family. Luckily Em's dad doesnt want anything to do with her, but if he did there would be know way he'd see her christmas day or boxing day as we are in kent every year.

 

[pinkish_angel]

Last year my lo's dad came round xmas morning for an hour to watch her open her pressies b4 shooting off to the pub with his new girlfriend. He actually mentioned christmas day yesterday and said 'whats going on xmas day?' He asked if he could have her christmas eve and bring her back xmas day... hmmmm NOOO WAY! Thats the best part, getting ready for santa to come. I then kinda acted like I didnt want him round this year (well, things are different now.. I have a new man too). I dont want him ruining my xmas day by him coming round. I kno thats selfish but so what. He makes no effort any other day. For example, I doubt the importance of seeeing his daughter new years eve will have the same effect when the pubs calling his name. I'll be the one stuck home not able to go out. He is pretty selfish too so we can both play at that game. He doesnt even pay any money for her yet he is a manager and everytime he comes round to see her he has new clothes on (named clothes at that) etc. He is that patronising he gave me £3.00 yesterday and said its all he can afford. So... the thought of me welcoming him into my home xmas day is not appealing. For one it means we will have to get up extra early cuz we are going out for lunch.. but it also means my man wont be able to stay over really cuz them 2 meeting like that would be pretty awkward. I said he is welcome to have her boxing day or christmas eve till about 7pm but his face said it all. so I really dunno whats gonna happen tbh xx

 

[babybump2010]

I used to have christmas day with my mum and boxing day with my dad. Dad always used to ring christmas morning tho and picked me up early boxing day. I had christmas morning with dad one year but not till i was about 17!! I used to love having to christmas days tho and was always excited about boxing day as well as xmas day!!