?!?!? Sleep please?!?!

[Ema]

Ok well i always try to look at the good side's of things. And im trying not to moan about getting no sleep. But i cant do it any more. Im absolutely exhausted. Ive been getting 3-5hrs sleep for the past 5 + months and i just cant do it. Its not even 3-5 straight its broken. Im up and down like a yo-yo. Jacob wont settle with OH at night and kyle does try but he just wont settle he screams and screams until i come in then he'll stop

I cant even catch up in the day as im working. Not that he naps anyway! And when OH is off he does take him but OH works 6 days a week! My mum did take him for a night but he screamed blue murder because i wasnt there and she persisted but she is the grandma its not her job to look after him. I dont want her looking after him she's raised me so her job is done. I dont mind the odd night but i could never let her have him every weekend etc.

Last night he was up at 12pm, 1.15am, 2.30am wide awake at 4 went to sleep at 6 to get up at 6.30am and he is still awake now! Becuase he doesnt get much in the day i cant offer him water. So i have to feed him but its becoming a joke. He goes hours and hours in the day without eating but wont at night Or he is just awake?? He has about 2 x30mins nap in the day if that some days. And is constantly on the go. He just wants to play play play. And im exhausted.

Im going into work at 12 and im exhausted but i got a meeting to go to then i have to come back and start again! He is now in his own cot but it makes no difference. I have tried leaving him to it in the night but it breaks my heart to let him cry so i have to go see. He's only a baby. But im so tired.....

Anyway sorry for moaning. I think i just need to get a grip and get on with it. As much as i moan it aint going to change it. Im just tired.....sorry XxX

 

[princessellie]

awww hun, it sounds so hard, i dont know what i would do if leyley was up that much can you not get a few days off work and catch up on sleep? u dont want to get yourself ill from no sleep, jacob would be much worse off then, id come and help u if i lived closer

 

[danni2609]

god you poor thing hopefully u will have a good toddler instead

 

[Ema]

cant take time off work only just returned after maternity. ill just have to suck it up. it will almost kill me but nothing else can do. sorry to moan jusat needed to get it out xx

 

[nessajane]

sorry hun i have no advice but it must be awful for you i hope things start to improve for you soon x x

 

[thelilbump]

x

 

[polo_princess]

Em i feel for you hun i really do

Will he settle with anyone else apart from you? Your mum or Kyles mum? Couldnt get them to watch him for a few hours on a weekend, afternoon/night whatever just so you can grab a couple of hours kip

 

[Ema]

He wont settle with ANYONE! bar kyle but he works. My mum will have him for an hour or so then he screams blue murder. If kyle is in the room he is fine or if i am but thats it. But for some reason wont settle with kyle at nights XxX

 

[polo_princess]

Sounds like you better just lock him in the cupboard for an hour then

Is there anything that does make him sleep for a long time? Going out in the buggy ... blah blah?

 

[Whisper]

It sounds like you are dealing with a lot, not sure if i could cope with that and be at home, let alone go to work!

I was going to ask what is his routine (does he have a routine?), what times does he eat, sleep etc?

I find that the more Amelia sleeps during the day and the more she eats during the day the better she will be at night time.

 

[princessellie]

have u tried swaddling him? is the room dark? i know leyla has slept sooo much better since i started keeping it pitch black in there, i also got her a music thing, u know that plays lullabies, it just attaches to the side of the cot and puts pictures up onto the ceiling, i played that whenever i was settling her and now i can just put it on and she associates it with going to sleep, i only put it on when she's going to sleep and it has helped so much...maybe try those hun, they really helped us getting leyla to sleep through

x

 

[princessellie]

Sounds like you better just lock him in the cupboard for an hour then

LMAO dont do that

 

[Ema]

Sounds like you better just lock him in the cupboard for an hour then

Is there anything that does make him sleep for a long time? Going out in the buggy ... blah blah?

dont think i havent thought about it

He wont nap in the day unless i take him for walks so i go out at 11 and 3 to get him to have a nap most of time it will work othertimes it wont he sleeps for about 30mins each time MAX even if i keep it moving he will wake after 30mins and just sit there wide awake. He's just a very cheeky monkey XxX

 

[Ema]

It sounds like you are dealing with a lot, not sure if i could cope with that and be at home, let alone go to work!

I was going to ask what is his routine (does he have a routine?), what times does he eat, sleep etc?

I find that the more Amelia sleeps during the day and the more she eats during the day the better she will be at night time.

He wont nap unless i take him out so we have a set rountine. He gets up he has breakfast then bottle But he only takes 3oz max at a time dont know why. then we play at 11pm we got for a walk or out to try get him to nap most of the time he will bu only for 30mins max! then we have lunch and another bottle about 3oz no matter how much i try he will never take any more then at 2ish i try another bottle sometimes he takes it other times he does then 3 we go out again for another walk etc to get him to nap then we come home have tea and try a lil bottle. then we play and daddy comes home. Then we have bath try another bottle. Sometimes he takes it sometimes he doesnt then its off to bed at 8pm he wont go any later. I now dreamfeed him at 9.30ish as he used to be up at 10pm then 12pm etc etc but now he'll go straight to 12 and then the nightmare begins. If im in work ( i work OH day off, or my mum will have him for a few hours) they keep this rountine.

XxxX

 

[ryder]

hmm if he can go hours in the day without feed then I would try and persist doing that in the night and get him off the night feeds.

Once Jasmine didnt have feeds in the night she was loads better in terms of sleep quality... Feeding a reflux baby in the night is not good for them... And TBH at his age he likely doesnt need night feeds.

Must be hard working and all...

 

[Ema]

have u tried swaddling him? is the room dark? i know leyla has slept sooo much better since i started keeping it pitch black in there, i also got her a music thing, u know that plays lullabies, it just attaches to the side of the cot and puts pictures up onto the ceiling, i played that whenever i was settling her and now i can just put it on and she associates it with going to sleep, i only put it on when she's going to sleep and it has helped so much...maybe try those hun, they really helped us getting leyla to sleep through

x

Thanks hun, tried swaddling he hates it as he likes his arms to be out. He is always in a pitch dark room And we had to move all his toys to end of cot as he would try playing with them when he was awake and then get fustrated and cry/groan at them

Thanks tho XxxX

 

[Ema]

hmm if he can go hours in the day without feed then I would try and persist doing that in the night and get him off the night feeds.

Once Jasmine didnt have feeds in the night she was loads better in terms of sleep quality... Feeding a reflux baby in the night is not good for them... And TBH at his age he likely doesnt need night feeds.

Must be hard working and all...

See i said to piedtrition i was going to stop nights feeds and he told me this was the worst thing to do, As he doesnt eat enough in the day due to his reflux that i had to continue night feeding him

but then i speak to people and they say he doesnt need them .

I have tried stopping them giving him water etc but nothing works.....think ill just have to be more hard.

Would it be ok to water down milk?? So giving him 3oz but with only 1 scoop of milk instead of 3?? and then gradually pull them out that way or is that bad?? XxX

 

[princessellie]

u should try half swaddling him, u do it under their arms, so they have their arms free to wave around but still feel secure

x

 

[Whisper]

hmm sounds like he is being a pickle, does he eat a lot of solid foods?
Do you think you could up the amount of solids he has?

If Amelia hasn't had much to eat, then i will bulk up one of her fav foods (fruit puree) and mix it with baby rice, and i keep feeding her until she refuses.

I expect you have already thought of this but is the milk not the right temperature for him when he gets to 3oz or does it make no difference?
Could you try giving him a bottle in a dark quiet room?
Trying to get Amelia to feed during the day is a nightmare she is too busy trying to catch the cats or watch the tv or generally just be nosey and look all around lol

It does seem that once he is feeding more during the day he will sleep better at night.

Another question does he have a dummy?

 

[nikky0907]

Did you start him on solids?

Maybe it will be easier for him to cut night feeds then, I know Lola started sleeping through after her first baby cereal meals.

I know how hard the clingy stages are, I can't leave her with anyone!