smileygurl85
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Please No judgement on the method that we've chosen to employ. You do not know our baby. After 2 months of careful consideration and 4 other methods we determined that we needed to go cold turkey so to speak.
We began Weissbluths - full extinction method of sleep training at 7 months. (That was 4 weeks ago!) I'm really not sure whether it's working. We started with the Ferber method but he would get so worked up when we went in that it seemed detrimental. So we switched to full extinction.
However our issue is not with bedtime - it is with his middle of the night wakings. He still has them. Some nights more than other. He goes to sleep between 7-8pm every night with little to no fuss but then he wakes up at 10, 1, 3 and then is up for the day at 5-5:30.
He cries for varying lengths of time every single freaking time! Anywhere from 15 minute to over an hour. If we go to him he definitely doesn't calm down unless we hold him until the morning - which is frankly unsustainable for us.
But I feel horrible just ignoring him until 5-5:30am. When I wake up in the middle of the night I want comfort. I know he does too. But how many time am I realistically supposed to go to him. I didn't sleep throughout my pregnancy and now I haven't really slept since he was born.
I'm a bitch to my husband and a worse mother on account of it. And I hate feeling like this. It's actually making me dislike the baby and is cementing in my mind that I NEVER want more children!!! Clearly something has to change.
Can anyone help me figure out if/when to go to him in the middle of the night?! Also - any words of encouragement would be nice. (Please no stupid comments like, see a shrink (already done) or that letting my baby cry is traumatizing him - trust me its worse for me because come the morning I'm the one who remembers it while he's all smiley and happygolucky.)
We began Weissbluths - full extinction method of sleep training at 7 months. (That was 4 weeks ago!) I'm really not sure whether it's working. We started with the Ferber method but he would get so worked up when we went in that it seemed detrimental. So we switched to full extinction.
However our issue is not with bedtime - it is with his middle of the night wakings. He still has them. Some nights more than other. He goes to sleep between 7-8pm every night with little to no fuss but then he wakes up at 10, 1, 3 and then is up for the day at 5-5:30.
He cries for varying lengths of time every single freaking time! Anywhere from 15 minute to over an hour. If we go to him he definitely doesn't calm down unless we hold him until the morning - which is frankly unsustainable for us.
But I feel horrible just ignoring him until 5-5:30am. When I wake up in the middle of the night I want comfort. I know he does too. But how many time am I realistically supposed to go to him. I didn't sleep throughout my pregnancy and now I haven't really slept since he was born.
I'm a bitch to my husband and a worse mother on account of it. And I hate feeling like this. It's actually making me dislike the baby and is cementing in my mind that I NEVER want more children!!! Clearly something has to change.
Can anyone help me figure out if/when to go to him in the middle of the night?! Also - any words of encouragement would be nice. (Please no stupid comments like, see a shrink (already done) or that letting my baby cry is traumatizing him - trust me its worse for me because come the morning I'm the one who remembers it while he's all smiley and happygolucky.)