Ok so my OH used to help ALOT and I was so thankful, but now he never does anything! All he does is sleep, video games, smoke cigarettes, and hangout with his friend who also lives with us. They are always playing video games in our room in our bed so I can't even enjoy my own room whenever I want! He has probably fed her 3 times within the last 2 weeks and changed her 4 times at most! He sleeps all day and I am up with her all night and day. I am exhausted. Today I got upset at something my brother said to me so I ran down to my room with Jayden and put her in her crib and just cried. He comes down a few minutes later to see if I am ok, which I think is sweet. I ask him if he can take her so I can take a nap as I am exhausted. He says "sure baby get some sleep" and I am so happy he actually said yes for once without arguing. So I lay down trying to calm myself enough to fall asleep...5 minutes later he says "hey baby I am going to put her in her crib (which is RIGHT next to my bed) so I can go smoke a cigarette" ARE YOU KIDDING ME!!! What kind of break is that!? She is there in his arms waking up to eat and he tries to put her with me. How am I supposed to get a nap with a hungry crying baby next to me just so he can smoke. I ended up taking a 10 minute nap. He finally agreed after arguing with me that he would go feed her. Right when she is done eating I get handed her back so he can take a shower before work. oh and he was suppose to be done smoking by July 2010 but noooo. He got really close once, but then his friend moved in and now he is worse then he was over the summer. He keeps saying he is trying, but hes not. He lasted 2 months with just having 1 a day and now he is up to 4-5 a day just because Jesse lives here. He needs to be a father and help me! And early I asked him to take her so I can eat and relax and he says "fine, but hurry up I want a cigarette" I start fnding food and then I hear "stop dealing with your dogs and hurry up and eat my shoulder hurts" HE HAD ER FOR 15 MINUTES!!!!!!! HE NEVER DOES ANYTHING! When I ask him to help he gives me an attitude and when I tell him that he just get more mad at me. He doesn't listen. I don't know how much more I can take. I am always tired and miserable and he knows it. I also asked him to wash the bottles and he said he would later...he just went to work and wont be home until late and NONE of the bottles are clean. He had 4 hours to clean them but instead what does he do, play video games. He always says "you need to get used to doing things on your own for when I go back to work" (today is his first day back) but that doesn't mean he cant help me. I mean YOUR HOME SO HELP ME!!! I need sleep too!!!! WOW THAT WAS REALLY LONG. I am so sorry. Most of you probably didn't even read it all, but if you did.... What would you do in this situation and what advice do you have for me?