Rozie_1985
Mummy To Joel
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i would find a new midwife and make a complaint shouldn't be in her job if she is making you feel like that. Massive hugs xxx
Ladies.. sorry I need to vent a bit!
I have just got back from my first midwife appointment and I have come away feeling more anxious than when I went in.
I am 10 weeks tomorrow and have had problems since conceiving as I have a sub chronic hemorrhage and was spotting. I had a scan last Wednesday and everything was ok and saw a baby with a heartbeat, measuring fine. Since the scan my only symptom, breast tenderness, has now faded to nothing so I asked the midwife if this was normal for around this time and all she said was 'you will have to wait until your 12 week scan to find out'!
I was hoping she would be a bit more sympathetic and try and put my mind at ease but she has actually made me feel as though I am going to go to my scan in two weeks to find baby with no heartbeat. She also said to take a pregnancy test.... what!!??? If I did that and the line was fainter what good would that do other than make me worry more!!
On top of all that she has told me that I will more than likely get diabetes as I am 37 and have a BMI of 30 and wants me to take a blood test, saying if I make it to 28 weeks she will do it then!
AND she has referred me to a consultant saying that I will have trouble carrying the baby to term because I had a colposcopy loop excision in 2006 for an abnormal smear so I will need to have my cervix checked.
All in all, I feel doomed. It's taken us 5 years of failed IVF to get this BFP, which was a natural surprise after being told we had less than 1 per cent chance so I have been naturally anxious since finding out, all I need is a midwife who will help put me at ease... not make me bloody worse!!
Anyway, thanks for reading xx