Some people...

Discussion in 'Long Term Trying To Conceive' started by rachelle1975, Oct 13, 2008.

  1. rachelle1975

    rachelle1975 And then there were 3!!

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    ... are quite stupid!

    A girl at work overheard me talking on the phone to DH about IVF and when i got off the phone she said... "are you sure you are having sex at the right time of the month?".

    My dad told my godmother at the weekend we were being referred to IVF and they both told me if we just 'relax' it will happen (yeah, that will magically make his count increase by 1000% - NOT!)

    One of my best mates came round yesterday with her baby and first off, asked me if i hated seeing babies ?? WTF and second told me that she was surprised i was being so positive about IVF working when it might not as her friend had 9 goes before success.

    Arrrrrgghhhh:hissy:

    It has finally hit me that we have to have ICSI IVF and all of a sudden i really want to be a mum. I guess it's not helped by being in limbo waiting to hear back from the clinic, but i feel all lost and crappy today. Bum.

    I think i need a lie down in a quiet room with a cold compress over my eyes and a bar of chocolate in my hand:blush:

    Sorry for being a whinge bag!!

    :hug:
     
  2. Jayden'sMummy

    Jayden'sMummy Jayden and Macie-Leigh xx

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    your not being a whinge bag, your just fed up of people being insensitive which you totally are right to be upset over. keep positive babeee xx
     
  3. princess_t

    princess_t Proud mom of 1

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    you not whiging. i agree wid rachel. hope everting works out for you hun
     
  4. natthecat

    natthecat 2 years TTC #1

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    It's so not a whinge..

    my mom said to me, just let it happen Natalie, if it's meant to be it's meant to be and I was like, yeh thanks mom, thats really no help to me! lol

    then she asked me if I was timing it right and I told her that at one point me and OH was BD'ing :sex: every 2 days for nearly 3 months!

    In the end, I snapped and asid, I'm not being funny mother but we have been trying for 3 years now so, yeh, I pretty much think I know about the timings, it's just not happening!

    People think they are being helpful when in actual fact they are stating the blooming obvious and making you feel inadequate. I've now got to the stage that when anyone asks, I pass them my journal! lol!
     
  5. DaisyDuke

    DaisyDuke Matilda Tasya's mum :)

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    I can't beleive these people are saying these things, i agree what is wrong with them. Hope u feel more positive soon. XXX
     
  6. Beckic

    Beckic TTC no 1

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    aaaarrrrgghhhhhh - I am soooo angry for you! I know its difficult for people to know what to say - but where do they get this crap from??? :hissy:
     
  7. maz

    maz TTC #1 since Oct 2004

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    I hate the old - it's all in your head, just relax crap!!

    Ignore them and listen to your cyber friends. We won't tell you stupid things like that. We might disagree with the bar of chocolate though and suggest a glass of wine instead!!
    :hug:
     
  8. loopylew

    loopylew Well-Known Member

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    i had the same argument with my Consultant when he said i was stressing too much and not "relaxing", ive posted before about insensitive comments, it pisses me off so much, peple think we're stupid!
     
  9. Farie

    Farie Well-Known Member

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    Oh chick, big huge :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:
    Thinking of you and will have a proper catch up soon :friends:
     
  10. vickie83

    vickie83 Mama to 2 little ladybugs

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  11. FJL

    FJL Heartbroken after m/c

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    Fuck this annoys me!

    1. Anyone who says 'relax' and says that thats all they did to fall pg, had it happen for them straight away before they even had time to feel the feelings of stress and worry.

    2. Do they think we like paying IVF specialists and doctors big $$$ for nothing? Geez, we're all SO stupid...we should just listen the super fertile people who know it all...relax, get pg and not waste our money on Drs....:rolleyes:

    3. Us girls going through IF know more about TTC than ANY fertile person EVER will because we have tried everything to get to the point of treatment.

    4. We have had a PROFESSIONAL tell us that we have next to no chance of conceiving naturally, what possibly makes everyone think they know more than our Dr?

    Anyone that suggests anything to me now I say "Are you a Dr? Do you claim to propose to know more and instill a better plan than my highly qualified FS?" Shuts them up pretty quickly.
     
  12. loopylew

    loopylew Well-Known Member

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    I might try that!
     
  13. kristy87

    kristy87 Well-Known Member

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    OR the one i get constantly - just get drunk and have sex - it happened that way for me!!!
     
  14. rachelle1975

    rachelle1975 And then there were 3!!

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    Thank you ladies! my wobble is over and i'm feeling mucho better! xxxx
     

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