Someone please help.

[Pensivedore]

The plan was for me and DH to TTC from October. But I really don't think I want to.

In the past my miscarriages haven't stopped me from TTC- made me a paranoid wreck in pregnancy but never put the slammers on to trying and getting pregnant.

This time it is totally different. I guess you could say we have had a rough year. Another miscarriage at the start of the year and DH was in a bad car accident not long afterwards (I count my lucky stars everyday that he is OK) and I don't know....theres something in the back of my mind saying "don't do it, don't do it" like something else is waiting to come and bite us on the backside.

DH is adamant though and we have gone to bed on an argument tonight which we hardly ever do.

Has anyone else had the same? How did you overcome it?

Thanks if you can hel.

 

[Bubsta]

Oh Hun, I'm sorry you are having such a rough time. I didn't want to read and run. I not sure what to suggest. One thing is though, you can't do this for someone else. You have to be comfortable and ready to do this. It makes it so hard that you are not in the same place. I guess you need to ask yourself...why do you feel like this? Is it because you are not emotionally ready after the miscarriage? or is it because you have an underlying fear that something else terrible could go wrong? How would you feel if you accidentally got pregnant right now? Do you think you would be scared but overjoyed? Maybe there is your answer?
Keep the lines of communication open with DH and make sure he understands WHY you feel the way you feel.... I really hope you guys can talk calmly with each other and try and understand how the other feels. Hang in there sweets. I'm sure it will work itself out. xx

 

[runnergrl]

i am so sorry you are feeling this way, but you are feeling it for a reason. You husband needs to respect your wishes though, and wait until you are ready. I am in the opposite predicament.. i am ready to start trying again now, and my husband is not.. i wish I had more advice for you i just know, for the sake of argument and for your marriage, it is best to try when BOTH parties are for sure ready...

As for getting you there? I dont know... maybe going to counseling will help? do you WANT to be ready or do you think you are done having kids? thats a choice you will have to make and a tough one.. You will do what is right for you.. Take your time and really think (and pray) about it.. Best of luck!