I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I had a miscarriage five days ago now, and I am scared to death to resume having sex.
I don't know from personal experience, but I wouldn't think sex should hurt. Do you think maybe it is because you weren't very interested because of what you just went through? Maybe your body wasn't relaxing very well. I know if I am
not in the mood, things down there just don't feel very good. Know what I mean?
I have to say, for me personally, it will be very hard- emotionally- to have sex again. I am much more nervous about it this time than I was after having a vaginal delivery.
Definitely talk to your doctor about it,
but maybe next time you should wait for a while until you have had ample time to heal emotionally, physically and mentally.
Again, I am so sorry for your loss. Please don't hesitate to contact me anytime if you would like to talk.