Ofireland
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My husband and I got pregnant about a year earlier than expected. He is involved in a training program at work, and will be transferring across states to his next rotation within 1 week of my due date. This is a 13 hour drive and would involve me switching OBs at the last minute or possibly traveling days postpartum. Additionally, I am experiencing Pelvic Girdle Pain, requiring me to see the chiropractor every couple weeks during my pregnancy. I am not thrilled with the birthing center in my home city (they overcharge my insurance and are not very friendly), and it is almost an hour away. The chiro, who is often booked, is 30 minutes away.
Now, it just so happens that my mom lives in a smaller city 3 minutes away from a fantastic birthing center and 5 minutes away from a great chiropractor with lots of availability. I have visited both and am very happy with them. She also lives 12 hours away from my husband, unfortunately. I have decided to stay with her for my prenatal care, and have been traveling back and forth between visits. Toward the end of my pregnancy, when it gets uncomfortable to drive and when my prenatal appointments are closer together, I plan to stay with her full time. That way I can have the baby somewhere I feel comfortable and not have to worry about moving at the last minute or going to a brand new midwife.
To me this solution makes a lot of sense, but is it weird? For some reason I have been being faced with judgement from people on the decision when I explain it. Today the chiro technician flat out asked me, "Doesn't your husband care?" after interrogating me about my situation. I can't tell if she's rude or is putting voice to what everyone is silently thinking. As far as my husband goes, of course he's disappointed to not be able to share some of the pregnancy moments, but he's going to fly out for the gender scan ultrasound and I have been giving him daily updates and staying with him between prenatal appointments. I'm about to leave this weekend to stay with him for two weeks before my next appointment, then I'll likely stay with him for another three before my gender scan. It's not ideal traveling back and forth, but it seems better than the alternative... Not sure why everyone thinks it's so odd. Is my logic being flawed by hormones or what?
Now, it just so happens that my mom lives in a smaller city 3 minutes away from a fantastic birthing center and 5 minutes away from a great chiropractor with lots of availability. I have visited both and am very happy with them. She also lives 12 hours away from my husband, unfortunately. I have decided to stay with her for my prenatal care, and have been traveling back and forth between visits. Toward the end of my pregnancy, when it gets uncomfortable to drive and when my prenatal appointments are closer together, I plan to stay with her full time. That way I can have the baby somewhere I feel comfortable and not have to worry about moving at the last minute or going to a brand new midwife.
To me this solution makes a lot of sense, but is it weird? For some reason I have been being faced with judgement from people on the decision when I explain it. Today the chiro technician flat out asked me, "Doesn't your husband care?" after interrogating me about my situation. I can't tell if she's rude or is putting voice to what everyone is silently thinking. As far as my husband goes, of course he's disappointed to not be able to share some of the pregnancy moments, but he's going to fly out for the gender scan ultrasound and I have been giving him daily updates and staying with him between prenatal appointments. I'm about to leave this weekend to stay with him for two weeks before my next appointment, then I'll likely stay with him for another three before my gender scan. It's not ideal traveling back and forth, but it seems better than the alternative... Not sure why everyone thinks it's so odd. Is my logic being flawed by hormones or what?