split 6 months still no better

[shanka]

hi ladies
just thought i would have a rant about the x!! we have been split up now for 6 months and i muct admit it aint gettin easier, my parents went awaya couple of weeks ago and i was left looking after there business 4 the week and he offered 2 have LO 4 the week, which i thought would b good 4 them cus normally he can only spare his sat afternoons 2 have him, the LO is 17 months and anybody knows at this age they become a handful at times!!
my parents went away on the tuesday mornin i came back home on the afternoon as he had the LO at home so he wasnt out of his routine, he said u will have 2 take him with u, and let him sleep at the pub with u!!! i cudnt believe what he had said just because he wasnt willing to spend time playin with the LO, he just wanted 2 sit n watch tv

we got in to a row he then told me he no longer has 2 lie to me cus we aint 2gether!! i just laughed at him cus if i hdnt i would of killed him

and now he said he aint supporting his som finanically because he helps out around the house, he has cut the grass twice n put a shelf up wow!! sometimes i just wish he would leave us alone and get on with his life as he does nothing with the LO when he has him! the only thing that stops me is that want him 2 have both parents in his life, i suppose its just something i have got to live with and just hope things get better

sorry didnt mean 2 go on just gets me down how some people can b like this

 

[shaunanicole]

Shame on him for missing out on LO and not being there for him.

 

[LittleMadam]

Hi!

I can appreciate you want your son to have two parents but what's the point if FOB is worthless. After all, this will be your son's role model. Maybe, you'll both be better off without him involved at all. (Just an idea!)

As for FOB threatening to stop helping out financially, perhaps, you should make things more official. Go through the CSA if you're not already doing so.

Whatever happens, all the best with you and LO.

XX

 

[Laura2919]

I dont see the point in him being in his childs life.. If tv comes before him!
Go through CSA for money! Legally he has to pay whether or not he sees his child.. Bloody hate some men I tell ya!

 

[scottishgal89]

i agree with the other girls with going to csa.
im a bit confused why he still 'helps' you around the house but i suppose every situation is different.
if im being honest though i do find this a bit weird. if your both in the same house your lo will get confused and i would keep it seperate. especially if hes useless and acting like this?
i would cut contact with him and have a set day and time he sees lo and thats it. you dont have any other reason to talk to him and he certainly shouldnt be in your house.

this is just my opinion and i dont want to sound harsh, suppose the way you do things just leaves me a bit gobsmacked cause my ex is such an ass hes not been allowed near me or lo for months
but really i think its best for you and lo if you get out of that kind of arrangement

 

[shanka]

thanks ladies really appreciate all your comments. i have told him now he aint stopping here anymore and is having on a sat daytime thats it! im gonna phone csa in the morn maybe then he will start taking me more serious! the thing is i aint the type tht is an easy push over just a big heart and try 2 do things 4 everyone b4 putting myself 1st!! but i told him straight the weekend and i aint doin it with him no more

 

[scottishgal89]

well done you!!!
its best for you and your lo, just remember that
your doing the right thing
xxx

 

[Laura2919]

Well done. Stick to it..
Its your life and you have to make the best of it!

 

[lou_w34]

WOW! Father of the year he isnt! lol
How is cutting the grass and putting up a shelf 'contributing' to his sons upkeep? How does he think his son eats??
What a loser!

Good luck with the csa