Still broody even though we've finished?

[apple_20]

I have two beautiful children a nearly 3 year old boy and 8 month old girl.

After my first I got broody straight away which was okay because we knew we would have another soon enough. We finally had our second in November and I felt like out family was complete. I was so satisfied I thought I wouldn't feel like I need another.

Until now (or the last few months) I keep getting weird feelings that there is another baby. This is hard to explain but basically I'll be thinking right he's sorted, she's sorted then I look around for the next one! I also think Its sinking in that I will never have the exciting and scary bits of being pregnant again.

Logically we are completely finished. I don't want three children. Two is a great number for usso what is this broody thing! Will it pass soon enough?

Anyone else finished with making babies but broody?

 

[CaptainMummy]

I am absolutely done. I am single and dont ever want another (3 is more than enough for me!) but I still find myself thinking 'ohh I would love to be pregnant again!' and getting a bit emotional that I will never experience it again. I see tiny babies and a little part of me is jealous because I know I will never have my own squishy newborn again.

So yes, I do get broody but I am 200% done

 

[superfrizbee]

I'm rather like you, except I'm now veering heavily more towards 3 than done! I think id I have 3 I will still be broody for pregnancy and a lovely little newborn, but I think at that point head will overtake heart.

 

[MumToEva]

I'm desparately broody, but my husband doesn't want any more. Hoping it settles soon!

 

[justplay91]

I worry about this! I was soooo broody after my son was born that we got pregnant when he was only 7 months old! I really, really hope I feel contentedly done after this baby is born.

 

[apple_20]

So I'm not alone!

What I worry about is what if I had three then it happened again? Maybe it's biological and brooding as has nothing to do with how many children you want?

I end up with 15!

 

[catty]

haha im the same! last time i got broody a week after my sin was born. a week!
there now 11 months apart. I know 100% that no.3 would be our last if I do decide to act on it. mainly financial but also spacewise and id like to have 1-2-1 time which I think id stretch myself too thin if I had more than 3!

 

[HoneyBee144]

We always said we'd only have 2 but since my second has been born I've felt differently. It's hard to describe as part of me knows we should stop at 2, it makes sense but whenever I think of the future I think of a third. Its not a conscious thought, I just see a third and I just have a strong feeling we'll have a third...like its already a full gone conclusion. It doesn't make any sense as we've agreed 2 and my husband has already told me he definitely doesn't want another, and I'm ok with it but my gut instinct still tells me we'll have a third.

I'm perfectly happy with my 2 boys and if that's all we have then I'm more than happy with that. I also worry about what if the feeling didn't go away after a third...suddenly I understand how people end up with 15+ kids

At the minute I'm trying to decide if I actually want another baby/child or if I just don't want mine to grow up!

 

[Taurus8484]

I would LOVE another one but hubby says no.

So just soaking up as much I can of my DS2 before he grows...

 

[hanni]

I think really maternal women will always be slightly broody. My nan is in her 60s, has 5 children and would have another baby tomorrow if she could. Biologically we're suppose to just love having babies and have as many as possible.
Stalking for hope beause I could have 100 babies and not feel done 🙈

 

[mumatmadhouse]

I said I was done after 3. Then 4, then 5, lol! We just had baby number 6 and I am already broody even after a traumatic birth and the thought of not having any more makes me tear up. But I feel that I would be tempting fate to ask for more now. I am blessed to have 6 healthy kids.

 

[zebbed89]

I am also done! But I completely would love to be pregnant again the excitement and thrill of it I think is what Makes me want to do it again and that sense of achievement after giving birth is like nothing in this world but as much as I love my two I don't want another baby. I've had two complicated pregnancies and I'm grateful that me and both babies came through it ok! It doesn't help with those feelings when hubby keeps talking about a third though! Xx

 

[apple_20]

Hmmm this doesn't bode well.

If I keep reminding myself the reasons for having just two it helps.

Two fit in a car easily
We would have to move
to a bigger house if we had three.
More time off work and less money with three.
I have one of each (which I love)
I am slowly getting my body back
Soon I'll be able to leave the children with my parents so we can go for a meal out!


Yeah two rule.

Damn hormones, good job I have the copper coil!

 

[dan-o]

I've just had my third baby, lost another 4 on the journey to concieve him, then had a hard pregnancy, bled for 15 weeks nearly lost him at 18, then my waters went preterm and I had a cock up of a birth and a retained placenta! Also I'm 38 and a half and hubby has suggested getting the snip... To be honest it's a miracle we have 3 children!

Oh and we've also run out of bedrooms, seats in the car.. Spare arms... Blah blah blah...

But I STILL can't shake the broody feeling, I'd have 10!! hoping it passes!!

 

[Kirsty3051]

I'm pregnant with our second now. There will only be a 10 month age gap if he arrives on/around his due date. I feel done but my husband wants at least 2 more

 

[dom85]

I've been through phases of mega broodiness to feeling that I'd only like one. We have just had our second and all the way through the pregnancy we weren't sure about another but as soon as he was born OH said he wanted another and I was so glad because I really wasn't in the head space of that pregnancy being the last. I don't feel especially broody, but I am soaking up every minute with my baby while he's so small because my oldest will be 6 soon and he's most definitely past the little kid stage now and it's gone so so quickly.

 

[Cattia]

I have three now and I would still love to go through it all again. When I hear of ladies being pregnant I get a little jealous because I just love the excitement of it all. There is a very small age gap between my oldest two but almost four years between the younger ones. I know that we won't have any more because I always wanted three and I don't actually want or think I could cope with four, but I still feel sad that I won't get to experience the whole thing again.

 

[apple_20]

Found a (temporary) cure.

Not sleeping
For 9 months.

Seriously bad last night up every 40 mins! And awake from 3-5am

Cant say I'll miss that

 

[Cattia]

Found a (temporary) cure.

Not sleeping
For 9 months.

Seriously bad last night up every 40 mins! And awake from 3-5am

Cant say I'll miss that

Ahhhh yes but my third is an amazing sleeper. Don't let that put you off.....

Just kidding. I'm sorry your sleeping is so crappy. My DS was like that. Painful! But it will pass eventually.

 

[minties]

I'm always broody for pregnancy and babies, but not at all for children. Sadly babies do turn into children! I keep reminding myself of this ;-)