Farmgirlalee
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Okay ladies-
I need some advice. My SO and I aren't telling anyone that we are expecting yet. I want to get closer to the end of my first trimester or until morning sickness makes it too hard to hide.
One of the reasons we are delaying is because I have had two first trimester losses before so I am anxious not to jump the gun and make everyone feel bad.
The next reason is one of my sisters just found out a few months ago that she is infertile. She was thinking of having children with her SO and was getting tested to see if it was an option when she found out that she can't.
Then my oldest sister tells us that she is expecting her fourth child about a month ago and then today she lost the baby.
So I figure I am waiting until at least after New Years, but I feel bad asking my sisters to be happy for me so recent after their own bad news. I know of course that they will be happy for me, that's not the issue, but I hate feeling like our own happiness is going to rub salt in their wounds. Although of course they are going to find out eventually, but how long would you wait to give them time to get over their own grief? I'm wondering if I should wait even towards the end of January to tell?
I need some advice. My SO and I aren't telling anyone that we are expecting yet. I want to get closer to the end of my first trimester or until morning sickness makes it too hard to hide.
One of the reasons we are delaying is because I have had two first trimester losses before so I am anxious not to jump the gun and make everyone feel bad.
The next reason is one of my sisters just found out a few months ago that she is infertile. She was thinking of having children with her SO and was getting tested to see if it was an option when she found out that she can't.
Then my oldest sister tells us that she is expecting her fourth child about a month ago and then today she lost the baby.
So I figure I am waiting until at least after New Years, but I feel bad asking my sisters to be happy for me so recent after their own bad news. I know of course that they will be happy for me, that's not the issue, but I hate feeling like our own happiness is going to rub salt in their wounds. Although of course they are going to find out eventually, but how long would you wait to give them time to get over their own grief? I'm wondering if I should wait even towards the end of January to tell?