Suggestions needed! Pregnant while nursing almost 3 yo!

[Hope83]

Hello Ladies!
I haven't been on this part of the forum in a long time but here I am with a bit of a tricky situation...

Thanks in advance for reading

A little background: I've bfed my first for 22 month and weaned him without issues when I was pregnant with #2 at about 9 weeks pregnant. #1 didn't seem bothered by it and I was relieved to have my boobs back for a few months prior to #2's arrival

Now on to my current situation: my youngest will turn 3 in October and she's still very much enjoying her "milky" as she calls it. She doesn't sleep thru the night and will only go back to sleep when she can suck on mommy. So far it hasn't bothered me too much as I figured she was my last and we would eventually grow out of this night waking habit but here I am pregnant with #3 and I would really like for her to be done nursing now

Parts of me feels awful for trying to push her of the breast as she loves it so much but the other part of me is just not enjoying it much anymore. My nipples are sore and I could really use a few hours of uninterrupted sleep

I've never left my children crying or upset, so I can't imagine how I would go about not giving in to her milk demand in the middle of the night?!

She sleeps in her own bed but comes over to our bed when she wakes up.
She doesn't want to deal with daddy in the middle of the night as he can't provide milky

I don't have the energy to spend a few nights traumatizing ourselves by denying her the milk.
I am not sure if she would actually lose interest on her own terms once the milk changes to colostrum

Basically I'm blaming myself for not be more firm during our journey with setting clear boundaries and letting her use me as a pacifier. It doesn't seem fair to now force her off just because it's not working for me anymore...
I'm so torn about this whole situation!

I'm very sorry for the Long story, I'm not even sure that I'm making sense.
If you can see my dilemma and have some experience to share, I'd greatly appreciate it and would like to hear it!

TIA

 

[Marumi]

I was also nursing an older toddler when I got pregnant with my youngest. He would still wake once in the early morning to suck. When I found out I was pregnant I started to night wean him by telling him he can have it later and to go back to sleep and cuddle. It worked after a little and instead I nursed him in the morning as promised. After 14 weeks his nursing greatlt decreased due to me having less milk. I guess that would have been the best cut off point. You could try to wait until your milk supply decreases and reduce nursing sessions. I found it easiest to try and postpone it.

I did not wean him however and in the third trimester my milk supply increased again and he was crazier than ever about nursing. He even said "the baby is making more milky I can smell it" So I would suggest trying to wean before that lol. I am currently tandem feeding, my oldest will be five and I am nursing him once a day only. I hope his interest will de rease but he still loves it a lot and I don't want him to be jealous either.

That said, he has helped me with a lot of milk issues...engorgement, blocked ducts, oversupply, keeping the supply up, whatever I need, he is happy to help

 

[Hope83]

Thank you so much for your reply

I have a feeling I'll be in the same boat if miss the natural cut off date and end up tandem nursing

I've been trying to suggest water/ sippy cup with milk or cuddles but she's insisting on milky. Cute little strong willed child

I see that you're living in Frankfurt! I'm originally from Germany

 

[Jingles23]

There's a book. I think it's called Milkies when the sun comes up. It's to read to your child. And it's about how the Milkies go to sleep at night and they can have Milkies again when the sun comes up. Might help encourage her in the right direction?

 

[Hope83]

There's a book. I think it's called Milkies when the sun comes up. It's to read to your child. And it's about how the Milkies go to sleep at night and they can have Milkies again when the sun comes up. Might help encourage her in the right direction?

That's sounds interesting. Will see if I can find that book!
Thank you