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[jmandrews]

Thank you!!!

 

[Wilsey]

Beautiful family!!!!!!!! x

 

[Wilsey]

So we had a family dinner the other night and my soon to be sister in law was telling my mother in law not to play with her tired 9 month old son (it was 9pm and they hadn't put him down in a portacot). She sent her this message today.

William and Theo have two very different sets of parents. You are involved very much with William and his daily routine. But with Theo its very different. I know you want to protect and enjoy your grandson, but you need to respect and listen when we tell you to do something in terms of Theo.
We let him play and crawl and climb independently, we want him to learn his limitations and learn to play independently overall. This is the way we've decided to parent. I'm not saying you can't ever play with him, just more letting him do his own thing without so much interference, and if we say to leave him alone, leave him alone.
I can understand how difficult it is to learn to be a grandparent, to learn the boundaries etc. especially with the different families.

What do you ladies think?

 

[jmandrews]

I feel bad for ur mother in law. What's wrong with her playing with her grandchild. Ido t understand. He can learn independence but geez he needs to learn to play with others too. Also why the heck was he up so late. I don't think it was very mature of her to send a message. She could have been nicer and approached her. I feel like that probably hurt her feelings. She probably didn't realize he was doing anything wrong.

 

[wantanerd]

Let grandparents play with the kid! Or he should have been in bed! Yes, its good to encourage alone time and independence but not when your grandparents are there. They are supposed to be the entertainment!

 

[josephine3]

I can kinda relate to what she means, i kno my parents definitely treat lo differently to me,, and wrap her up in cotton wool a lot more than i woul,, but hey they want to protect her. Also she gets food there i would say was unheathy, and they spoil her more and play with her more than me! But hey, thats what grandparents are for!
I know i aways got cake and chocolate at mine hehe

 

[skeet9924]

I think that was a little harsh.. Especially as a text.. She didnt even have the decency to say it to her face or atleast a phone call.. Modern technogy makes people so brave. I think if the grandparent was interfering with discipline or something then it would be called for.. But I think it's very important for grandparents to play and bond with their grandchildren .. I get the need for independent time but not when you are at a social gathering.. That's when they need to learn their social skills

 

[Wilsey]

I think that was a little harsh.. Especially as a text.. She didnt even have the decency to say it to her face or atleast a phone call.. Modern technogy makes people so brave. I think if the grandparent was interfering with discipline or something then it would be called for.. But I think it's very important for grandparents to play and bond with their grandchildren .. I get the need for independent time but not when you are at a social gathering.. That's when they need to learn their social skills

This is how I feel. Sometimes social settings mean routine or normal rules go out the window. My MIL is gutted. Neither of them drive and she gives them rides everywhere and helps them a lot. I think you have to right to say how you want your kid to be dealt with, but a quiet word face to face is better. And saying in a nicer way!

 

[likeaustralia]

There are times when I've wanted to tell my MIL and even my own mom to back off, but they see him so infrequently that I try to let them just enjoy their time with him. I don't know how I'd feel if this was a regular thing though, I guess.

 

[Wilsey]

There are times when I've wanted to tell my MIL and even my own mom to back off, but they see him so infrequently that I try to let them just enjoy their time with him. I don't know how I'd feel if this was a regular thing though, I guess.

Totally. I think if they saw my kid like twice a week I would probably say something. But again, I'd say it politely and to their face. But they probably have him stay with them maybe twice in a whole month. So the other 28-29 days he's with us and follows our routine etc. I don't think those two days will make much difference.

Plus, in a social gathering, you kind of have to let things slide. I mean, we're all going to their wedding in April and I'm not going to tell the DJ to turn the music down because my new baby wants to sleep. You know?

 

[likeaustralia]

Hah, I wouldn't tell them to turn it down, but I'd totally use it as excuse to leave early. I don't like weddings.

 

[skeet9924]

as much as babies need routine they also do need to learn to be flexable in order to cope with real life as they get older. Carson sees my parents atleast 2 times a week and he sees my fil 2-3 times a week and my mil atleast once a week. they are both pretty respectful and try to follow my routine but I am also very flexable. My biggest thing is to ensure naps at certain times...other then that they can play and socialize and do whatever. I can't imagine how hurt you mil is.

 

[rosabelle]

I think a text was the total wrong way about it.
If you have an issue, esspecially with a family member, say it to their face!

We have learnt to let go of small things since LO stays with my in laws during the week while im working..
I mean she sleep so well there, eats so well there.. so i kinda think as long as she isnt learning naughty things then i just need to let go a little..
My SIL who is only 12 pretends to smack things which i have asked her not to do so LO doesnt copy her, which she was starting to do.. so things like that i ave brought up but in the big picture she is spending quality time with family and i am so grateful that i dont have to put her in child care so i dont think i can be so picky..

On another note... we had a scan yesterday and are having 2 healthy identical girls!!
My feelings were right all along
and they found no more markers for downs despite the high risk..
they are growing perfectly
I will have a scan every 2 weeks from now untill 28 weeks to monitor for twin to twin transfusion as they share a placenta but so far so good! eeeek!

 

[jmandrews]

Aw yay!!! Identical twins!!! Eek! So exciting! I am identical I love having a twin sister. Can't wait to here more about them as they grow. Glad try are healthy.

Right now I am 3DPO so I will be testing next week. I went to my family Dr. Yesterday to have my foot looked at. I found out I strained a tendon that runs along the top of my foot ouch! But while I was there I had him take a look at my belly button because it has never fully gone back to normal. He said I have a umbilical hernia and will need to have a very simple surgery to fix it. He suggested that I have it done before having more children because it can get bigger. Oops well now I could be pregnant and will have to wait to have the surgery if I am. I wish I had known. He said I will be ok regardless.

 

[Wilsey]

Congrats on your identical twin girls!! So glad they are healthy

Oh no, I've never heard of that jm. Not sure if it is something you can get twice, but at least you'll have finished having babies when you get it fixed. Assuming you're only having two?! Nawww sorry to hear about your foot - got the same thing. I should probably get it checked out.

So I had a nightmare morning this morning. I put a few things in the car but decided I would take my handbag when I left the house to take William to daycare. Almost left he house without my keys. Put my bag down to find them. Left and then missed the last step and sprained (or did something to my foot - it's also across the top jm!!). Luckily I didn't drop William!! Limped the car and put Wills in, got in and realised I forgot my bag. Then remembered I had given my house key to my MIL so couldn't get back in to get it. :doh: it had my lunch and swipe card for work. Luckily had my phone/wallet with me. Worst. Morning. Ever.

So yeah, I also have a sore foot. And I wanted to go to the zoo tomorrow...can't imagine I'll be walking on this anytime soon!!

 

[Wilsey]

How do I only have 16 weeks until my due date?! It is going by SO fast!

 

[jmandrews]

Oh no! Sorry for your horrible day. Hope ur foot feels better soon. My dr suggested I wear tennis shoes and he wants be to take a anti-inflammatory. I haven't yet because I am not sure if u can if u are preg. And since I don't know yet I don't want to risk it. Hope ur day is better tomorrow!
Eek!!! Only 16 weeks! Wow! Time is flying!

 

[rosabelle]

thanks ladies super excited...

Gosh must be the week for hurting feet! last week i was in hospital cause i thought i snapped my ankle.. turns out its just badly sprained but had a few days off work and crutches (which only lasted a day cause they are sooooo annoying)
Back at work and still hobbling around but glad its only sprained..

Ohh good luck for testing JM!!

16 weeks wilsey!? crazy hey!
Well when i think about it they are going to induce me at 37 IF i get that far so really im half way!

 

[Wilsey]

OMG Rosa we're practically due at the same time! Crazy!

Can't wait for the rest of you ladies (if you're planning it) to get pregnant with your second

 

[armywife11]

Aw yay!!! Identical twins!!! Eek! So exciting! I am identical I love having a twin sister. Can't wait to here more about them as they grow. Glad try are healthy.

Right now I am 3DPO so I will be testing next week. I went to my family Dr. Yesterday to have my foot looked at. I found out I strained a tendon that runs along the top of my foot ouch! But while I was there I had him take a look at my belly button because it has never fully gone back to normal. He said I have a umbilical hernia and will need to have a very simple surgery to fix it. He suggested that I have it done before having more children because it can get bigger. Oops well now I could be pregnant and will have to wait to have the surgery if I am. I wish I had known. He said I will be ok regardless.

Fingers crossed. --- My girlfriend had that with her last two pregnancies, she didn't know what it was till the last one, it did get bigger but no real issues with it. Still had the short surgery with great results.