Telling the father ..!?

[SimplyDevine]

Hey guys! This is my first ever forum, so I hope I'm in the right section and whatnot
My name is Mikayla. I'm 19 years old, after missing my period for 12 days I thought I'd better muster up the courage and take a test. Well, the results were positive!
I'm the type of person who makes the best out of any situation, so I'm trying not to be negative about the whole situation, from my personal calculations I'm roughly 6 weeks along.
Now, here's the big deal, the father and I have been together 6 months. We have our own apartment. We both have full-time jobs. The father is 28, not that it matters, but still

Ergh, telling him.. It's going to be a bad experience.

I know my OH is going to freak out and I am so scared to tell him.

On top of all this, he's just gotten a job four hours away and is leaving in two weeks :'(

Please help..!

ps, my mother, on the other hand, is super excited. She can't wait for her grand-baby. So I have support in that area..

I strongly believe that this is all going to go downhill the minute I tell him.
I won't give up my child, and if loosing him means that, then so be it. But the thought breaks my heart.

Any advice is welcomed..!

Thanks in advance! xo

 

[ClairAye]

I'm not so sure, my OH knew both times that I was testing. I think the best thing to do is sit him down and tell him face-to-face. It's great that your mum is so supportive though! Good luck!

Congratulations also! I'm Clair, 19, I have a son called Jason who is 2 in 2 weeks and a daughter called Lily who is 4.5 months old

 

[allie_j]

At least your mum is supportive! I'm glad you have a support network in place. I would say just sit him down face to face and tell him simply that you're pregnant. Give him a little time to get his head around things but I'm sure it'll be okay. If he loves you as much as you love him you'll make it work. Good luck!

 

[Rickles]

TBH at 28 - he should be able to handle it... you are in an established relationship after all.

I would sit him down and be honest - yes it wasn't planned, but you really know it will work out for the best and want his support and involvement... xx

 

[x__amour]

Welcome to BnB and congratulations!
I'm Shannon, I have a 3 year old named Victoria "Tori" & a 2 week named Bryson.

TBH at 28 - he should be able to handle it... you are in an established relationship after all.

I agree. He's a big boy. He should know that sex can equal babies. I would just sit down with your OH and tell him. He's an adult and should handle it as so.

Best of luck to you!

 

[Hoping4Four]

Congrats on your pregnancy

I was 17 when I had my first baby, and my DH was 19. He freaked out a bit at first, understandably, but once it had sunk in and he realised he was going to be a dad he was happy about it. It took a few weeks for him to fully come around, but once he saw the scan pic that was it.. He already loved his little girl.

As PPs have said, he should be able to handle the news and hopefully be supportive! He might need some time to adjust to the idea of being a father but that's totally normal.

Best of luck to you!

 

[Mommy1414]

Hey, I also found out at 12dpo I was pregnant and it was a big shock and weirdly, we also have the same name, mines spelt different though! My DH is 12 years older than me and he never really wanted kids.. When I told him, he was speechless and not in a happy way!! It was the first couple of weeks that were the hardest but he did come around after the 12 week scan.. After the 20 week scan when we found out we were having a little girl ,something with him just clicked, it's seeing the little feet on the screen that made it all real, in a good way..

Our baby is now nearly 3 months old and he is an amazing daddy to her, he has surprised everybody that knows him, even family! So when you do tell him, expect him to be in shock and say some stupid things.. But know that from my experience, it got better as the pregnancy went on and now he's a brilliant daddy who is crazy about his little girl! Good luck and congrats!! x x

 

[HeatherLTBee]

Good luck lady.
I have come to find in my life that if I let go, God will handle everything.
Just worry about that precious bundle.

xox

 

[xcxox]

just tell him if he gets mad & leaves, your baby didn't even deserve him in their life