Terrified of SIL's possible BFP's

[PinkPeony]

Thanks Hun. It was so brutal. Now my goal I life is to avoid them at all costs which is going to be tough.

 

[sugarpuff]

Ugh I feel crap, my sister just sent me a photo of her shiny positive pregnancy test on Tuesday. I've spent the last 8 months listening to her talk about how stressful ttc is (she got pregnant first cycle with her firstborn, so expected the same this time) and now I have to deal with watching her belly grow for the next 8 months and she lives right across the road from me so I can't avoid her we started ttc whilst she was still pregnant with her now two year old. Just ugh..

 

[Kittymommy]

Ugh I feel crap, my sister just sent me a photo of her shiny positive pregnancy test on Tuesday. I've spent the last 8 months listening to her talk about how stressful ttc is (she got pregnant first cycle with her firstborn, so expected the same this time) and now I have to deal with watching her belly grow for the next 8 months and she lives right across the road from me so I can't avoid her we started ttc whilst she was still pregnant with her now two year old. Just ugh..

That's terrible you have to go through that. Why would she show you the pee stick? That's always the hardest way to find out, because if your like me all you see is negatives. Well I wish you nothing but strength for the next couple of months and a bfp of your own.

 

[popchick75]

Sometimes you just have to take yourself out of the situation...regardless if your family member/friend gets it or not. My best friend got pregnant around our 7 year of trying mark. I told her how happy i was for her (which i totally was) and then sort of distanced myself for a while from her. She completely got it and didn't hold it against me that i had to have some space while she was pregnant. The thing is, a true friend will understand why you have to do it and not get mad.

 

[goldfishy]

We've been trying for nearly 2 years and when my bro in law got married summer 2011, right around the time we started ttc, his new wife didn't work and just wanted to get preggers. Every month she'd be in tears when she got her af and I'd console her. Well they got preggers within the year and she is due in 4 weeks. To top it off, we all live together and it's been the hardest 8 months! We are moving into our new house tmrw so I won't have to see her as often but I can't deny I feel insanely jealous!

Don't get me wrong, I can't wait until the baby is born (so I can steal it!) but I will be more at ease in my own place. We had started looking for a house when they announced the bfp so it doesn't look like I wanted to move cos of her.

My sil and bro will also start trying for their first in July and I know I'll be happy but will be fighting to stop tears. Very hard.

Wishing you all baby dust.

 

[ScaredToHope]

After ttc for 6 years myself, my SIL who was fully aware of my situation, called me crying bc they had been ttc for a month and she'd just found out her friend was pregnant. I was so upset at her saying that "she knew I'd understand how she felt" because she had only one bfn whereas I'd have what seemed like a million. She got her bfp about 3 months later and is expecting any day now. I'm excited for them and my new little nephew but I can't help but feel crushing sadness at yet another bfn for me.
The only thing that has saved me is being able to distance myself occasionally to cry it out and to stay busy..

 

[tigerlilly]

My SIL became pg within a few months of TTC, we'd already been trying a year and she knew we were trying, however she was inherently cruel to us about being pg, with statements like 'now that I'm pg' whilst looking at me or going on about she can't believe she having the first grandchild! We'd also had a mc and not one of DH's family asked us for over a yr how things were going. All she kept saying was 'when I'm pg I won't have to work and I'll get a house, she didn't she got a 2 bed flat! surviving that period was the hardest thing I've ever done!

Fast forward we now have a 5 and a 1/2 month old little boy conceived on our 24th cycle ( dh poor morphology)and he's amazing. Yes, when he was born all she would do was change the subject to her having her second one or what MIL bought her baby, she's a troll and all me, me, me, me.

She now pg with her second a little girl and is now bragging about having the first granddaughter, yawnnnnnn. This time I don't care

Sending lots of love, luck and baby dust to all you wonderful and amazing ladies

Ps my MIL cried when we told her we were pg because she knew how much this baby was wanted! Did she cry when SIL had the first grandchild, nope. Being the first baby doesn't make them any more special in our family our lo is proof of that.