Terrified to feel happy.

[mammag]

With my m/c last month, the day before I started to bleed I felt really good, I cleaned out the computer room and was generally in a good mood. Now this month, I am unexpectedly pregnant again, and so afraid. But what really sucks is when I hear an upbeat song, or just want to feel good, I'm immediately stifled by my illogical fear that a good mood comes before a miscarriage. Shit I'm screwed up.

 

[SabrinaKat]

Do you know the expression, 'hope springs eternal'? We have to have some hope amongst our worries otherwise we'd do nothing and just be depressed all the time! I was so incredibly excited when I did a pregnancy test after two years trying post-mc and it was positive, then immediately got worried. It's normal, really, for us ladies who have lost to be almost superstitious and that is how we protect ourselves, but try to take it one day at a time -- it can happen, and hopefully, this time, it will be your sticky!

best wishes

 

[msb5]

I had a mc last july, and i found out last week that i was pregnant and im so scared that something may go wrong. Trying to take one day at a time. I told my husband i didn't want to tell our family and friends till i was 20 wk.

 

[srrhc]

Hey ladies. I recently had a miscarriage too. The cycle before that a chemical. I have been so sad and worried that I'll never be able to maintain a pregnancy. My doctor acts like it is nothing so I'm getting a new doctor that will show at least some concern. I know miscarriages happen but it seems like my doctor would at least want to try me out on something??? Anyways...my husband and I are going to try again and not give up. I hope I get another BFP in April, but I feel like I'd be in the same boat as you...worried about everything. Hopefully this time it will work out for all of us.

 

[mammag]

Me too Srr. So sorry for your losses.

 

[Mackerel]

I have been feeling exactly the same. I had a miscarriage in January, and got pregnant straight away. I am now 7W5d and have been afraid to enjoy my pregnancy in fear that I will M/c again.

I went for an early scan last friday and everything seemed to be fine in terms of size and heard a heartbeat. This has provided me with some reassurance - I dont know if this would be an option for you to help ease your mind.

After a loss I think its difficult to remove the assoication of the previous m/c - Try to take each day at a time. Miscarriages are surprisingly common, and its very likely that you will go on to have a healthy and happy pregnancy.

xx