Terrified

[rockabillymom]

I recently split with my OH last saturday. He was acting really weird and has been ever since. He says he doesnt care about anything right now just our daughter and that he is a miserable human being (not because of me just because that is how he is I guess). I recently told him after a lot of fighting I was going to file for child support. His response was "really? why? I told you I would give you all the money you wanted. What if I cant pay for some reason?"...I told him that was his fault he was the one that tore apart our family. I was told by a police officer recently that until we figure out custody I should just let him have supervised visits but I feel so bad not letting my LO spend the day with her daddy. I hate the idea of her going back and forth between us and I know i cant go a whole 24 hours without seeing her... she is only 2 monthes old. Im confused and havent the slightest of what to do. I just want us to work things out but he is insistant that it just cant happen that way... any advice?

 

[jen1604]

I don't think at 2 months old I would have let my LOs be away from me for a whole day. Do you think he would be able to take her for a couple of hours a few times a week while she's so little to ease you all into it?

 

[Leah_xx]

First off
Gracelynn is 6.5 months old and I will only let her daddy take her for like 3hrs a day for like 3 days.
I dont trust his family and him.
I am going to prolly be going to court here soon for child support because i was getting $100 from him a month and he said he wont be able to give it to me anymore.
Hun you got to do what you think is best. Your her mother you know whats best.

 

[lal]

Don't feel bad not letting him take her for a day at a time, she is only 2 months old! You have to think about her right now, not feel sorry for him. My son is 4 months old, and his father has been around nearly every day to see him, I let him take him for a couple of hours at a time on the weekends (just started that this month). I told him, this is not like your divorced friends with 5 and 6 year old kids, he is a baby and needs to be with me 99% of the time. We are sloooowly working towards more time. No overnights until at least a year, maybe longer. What's funny is that his dad was (angrily) insisting that he'd have him overnight at 3 months old while I was pregnant, and now that he's here and he sees how our son looks for me and gets upset without me after 2-3 hours, he is totally okay with the slowly adding time. It will work out, just don't get so caught up in "being fair" that you miss sight of what's best for the baby.

 

[rockabillymom]

He asks me every weekend if he can keep her overnight and I have stood my ground about saying no. I refuse to be away from my daughter for an entire weekend. he gets he for 10 hours and sat and sun while im working and I feel like that should be plenty. He just keeps messing with my emotions and I hate it.

 

[Marlarky]

My FOB does this too he makes me feel bad if I dont let him get Aaron without me. And he makes me feel bad if I dont let his parents see Aaron, but they dont let me over to their house so they want Aaron alone and I have been doing it but now tht I am single, theres no more of that until we go to court for custody. And Im filing soon I think!!