terrified .....

[ellie]

... hi girls, there seems to be a lot of anxiety around at the moment, not sure why but i'm afraid i need to add mine to it as well ...
i had a mc over a year ago but for many reasons we decided to not try again until now. well this is the week i am due to ovulate and we have both been very excited about finally trying again and have been feeling much more positive about the outcome. however this weekend - for some reason - i have just been feeling frozen with fear about mc'ing again - it was so devastating in all sorts of ways, I am not sure I am strong enough to go through that again. I still want to try but it has really hit me this weekend and I'm not sure why .... the other day I was looking at my diary and counting down when a baby might be due and feeling excited and happy .... today I couldn't even look at the calendar without thinking about when things might go wrong ....
Am I losing it?? or is this common? Why am I sabotaging things in my head before I have even had the chance to conceive this month? Sorry to witter on, but I am wondering if it's just me being unecessarily negative / depressed thinking? what's going on???

 

[Barneyboo]

Firstly I am so sorry for your loss! And it is completely normal to feel this way, All I can say is that we are here for you anytime you need to talk or just need a .

I think about it all the time after my m/c... before during and after! sad but true BUT each month goes by I do feel I am getting stronger and ever closer to that sticky .

x x x x

 

[becky77]

Firstly sorry for your loss, i would think that because you did not start ttc again straight away then you probably, put it more to the back of your mind and now your ttc again it has brought all the feelings of your m/c to the front of your mind again, and now you are about to ov its like ok i want this but i know how it feels when bad thing happen so deep breath .
I am sure you will be fine ,good luck honey hope it all goes well

xx

 

[susan_1981]

I had a MMC at the end of December and we started trying again straight away. I'm not feeling any anxiety about it at the moment but I know when I get pregnant again, that is when it will start. I'm sure it's only natural what you are feeling xxx

 

[Omi]

Im with all of the above, hun. It seems you may not have digested the mc totally at the time, as mentioned above..and now those felings have come back.

Try to work your way through it, hun..you will be surprised once you do, that you actually can go on and be exited as before about ttc. I know i am, but of course everybody's worried about mc, whether its your 1st pg or your 5th. Its only natural to worry about something so precious to you!

All the best, hun!

Hugs, Omi xxx

 

[AP]

its so not out of the ordinary,to feel like that. I went through a horrid phase where I was trying but kept pushing my man away as I was terrified something like that would happen again. However leave your fears aside now!!! It's not going to help you concieve, and you'll be asking yourself "what if" too many times when you finally do get a bean there. I know how you're feeling,only when I stopped fretting I finally concieved again.xxxxxxx

 

[ellie]

just wanted to say thank you all ... you are all right, I think I did push it away at the time then didn't have to think about it for months, it worries me that I obviously didn't deal with it properly at the time .... but you are right, I need to try and think that this time it will be different and get on with it... Thank you all for your wise words and support

 

[AP]

you can do it chock, we all do, in the end. Xxxxxxx