The best and The worst

[Jkelmum]

As we get a lot of girls in here that are unsure of what they wanna do when they discover they are pregnant and feel very scared and alone I think it would be a good thing for teen mothers to write the worst thing for them about being a teen mum and the best thing.​

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  The Best
  Seeing my babies first smile knowing that i will have this little man to share my life Serina27
  
  For me, the best thing about being a mum is the closeness. I love having a little person that relies on me for everything. I love the smiles that only I get, the hugs that only I get, and even the paddies only I get! Because I'm her mum!toriaaaaTRASH
  
  Seeing how clever and beautiful my little girl is and knowing that I created her and knowing that nothing will ever make me prouder and happier than she does.(Apart from obviously if I ever have another child) jen1604
  
  Having someone who I love unconditionally and would die for, who is so clever and makes me smile Bexy_22
  
  I'l also say the closeness. I love that I am the person she is closest to and vice versa.
  I love that I'll be there for every step she makes and that one smile or snuggle with her is all I need for my day to be complete.Nicky0907
  
  Knowing that I brought that little person into the world and being able to watch him grow and start to notice things around him. And listening to all the little noises he makes!!Sophie1205
  
  Knowing that I brought this little boy into the world and he loves me and relies on me.aidensxmomma
  
  The utter love you feel when you gaze at your baby the feel of the softness of their cheeks and the wonderful baby smell.Dizzynic
  
  Seeing your baby for the first time and knowing that you are ALL they need. The smile on their face when you walk in the door. It's heartmelting. Gabrielle
  
  Holding her little hands and how proud I feel when she finds her thumb, lifts her head - any little things! Also the way she clings to me sometimes and will only settle on me 'cause Im her momHeather91
  
  I can be totally stressed out. Doing all the things that have to be done whilst trying to stop him eating the nearest penny. He can take as many temper tantrums..I can feel close to screaming or crying, then he looks up and smiles. That smile makes EVERYTHING worthwhile. Then you realise all those other things aren't important. It can be done when he's sleeping. I love making him smile. xarlenex
  
  having a bond with them that no one could ever brake, beeing the most important person in there life and them in yours, there smile, there laugh, when they learn new things, Feeling love like you've never felt before!Zarababy1
  
  

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  The worst
  For me it was the reality that my friends saw me differently and not just as serina anymore but serina the slag Serina27
  
  I've changed, but people around me haven't I've had to grow up ALOT, but they haven't. It can be quite frustrating to have to jump ahead of everyone. If that makes sense? My wants have changed. I no longer want to go out with people for a drink, or stay out all night etc... My friends still want those things, and unfortunately, as much as they still love me and want to be around, our interests just aren't the same anymore. We've drifted so much. It's horrible. Not just friends though, Rich hasn't had to grow up like I have, he relies on me to do the growing up. That can be so frustrating too!toriaaaaTRASH
  
  -No matter how hard it gets with the teething and the colic and any other illnesses,when its just you and the baby and your OH is at work there is nothing you can do apart from deal with it!Even if you've only had a couple of hours sleep in the last week and you feel ill yourself,you can't give your baby to someone else because theyre your child and your responsibility.
  - Losing your identity.I worked before and it was really hard going from being a 'someone' smartly dressed and important at work to being covered in baby dribble 24/7,only being mummy and having no adult conversation all day!! jen1604
  
  Not having my old life or time to myself Bexy_22
  
  it could be losing my independence, saying goodbye to the life I thought I'd have and the stresses of finishing my education while taking care of a baby.Nicky0907
  
  Not being able to do things I used to. Like I used to wash, dry, and straighten my hair everyday, and put make up on. But I dont have time to do that anymore. Thats about it really, is just not having time to do things I used to but it really doesnt bother me that much because Leo's so worth it. x Sophie1205
  
  I lost a lot of friends because we have very different interests and concerns. They are concerned about their latest relationship and I'm concerned with how to help my son feel better when he's teething.aidensxmomma
  
  Lack of sleep, lack of independance. Your mates stop calling cos youre knee deep in bottles, dirty nappies and have a nasty whiff of baby sick! Moneys also a real issue theres never enough of it just when youve saved enough for your hair done or that new top baby grows out of vests or babygros and you have to scrap your stuff and buy the baby clothes insteadDizzynic
  
  Trying to find time to fit all of your life in. Somedays are better then others, and not going to lie......somedays you can't even get a bite to eat or a shower.....but girls its all worth it! Children are amazing.....HUGSGabrielle
  
  The sleep deprivation can be difficult and when she cries in the night for hours and there's absolutely nothing I can do to settle her Me and my friends are no longer on the same wavelength either. We don't really have anything in common any more.Heather91
  
  Somethings have to be put on hold, like my trip to Africa. But it can still be done, just not when originally planned.xarlenex
  
  beeing so scared of loosing that little person, worrying your not going to do the best you can!Zarababy1

 

[Serene123]

The worst:
I've changed, but people around me haven't I've had to grow up ALOT, but they haven't. It can be quite frustrating to have to jump ahead of everyone. If that makes sense? My wants have changed. I no longer want to go out with people for a drink, or stay out all night etc... My friends still want those things, and unfortunately, as much as they still love me and want to be around, our interests just aren't the same anymore. We've drifted so much. It's horrible. Not just friends though, Rich hasn't had to grow up like I have, he relies on me to do the growing up. That can be so frustrating too!

The best:
For me, the best thing about being a mum is the closeness. I love having a little person that relies on me for everything. I love the smiles that only I get, the hugs that only I get, and even the paddies only I get! Because I'm her mum!

 

[jen1604]

The best:
Seeing how clever and beautiful my little girl is and knowing that I created her and knowing that nothing will ever make me prouder and happier than she does.(Apart from obviously if I ever have another child)

The worst:
-No matter how hard it gets with the teething and the colic and any other illnesses,when its just you and the baby and your OH is at work there is nothing you can do apart from deal with it!Even if you've only had a couple of hours sleep in the last week and you feel ill yourself,you can't give your baby to someone else because theyre your child and your responsibility.
-(I know Ive put two,just use one if you like) Losing your identity.I worked before and it was really hard going from being a 'someone' smartly dressed and important at work to being covered in baby dribble 24/7,only being mummy and having no adult conversation all day!!
xx

 

[AppleBlossom]

The best- Having someone who I love unconditionally and would die for, who is so clever and makes me smile

The worst- Not having my old life or time to myself

 

[Jkelmum]

Great replies so far xxx

 

[nikky0907]

The best thing about being a mom : I'l also say the closeness. I love that I am the person she is closest to and vice versa.
I love that I'll be there for every step she makes and that one smile or snuggle with her is all I need for my day to be complete.


Worse bit : it could be losing my independence, saying goodbye to the life I thought I'd have and the stresses of finishing my education while taking care of a baby.

 

[Sophie1205]

The best thing - Knowing that I brought that little person into the world and being able to watch him grow and start to notice things around him. And listening to all the little noises he makes!!

The worst thing - Not being able to do things I used to. Like I used to wash, dry, and straighten my hair everyday, and put make up on. But I dont have time to do that anymore. Thats about it really, is just not having time to do things I used to but it really doesnt bother me that much because Leo's so worth it.
x

 

[aidensxmomma]

Best: Knowing that I brought this little boy into the world and he loves me and relies on me.

Worst: I lost a lot of friends because we have very different interests and concerns. They are concerned about their latest relationship and I'm concerned with how to help my son feel better when he's teething.

 

[dizzynic]

Not a teen mum now but had my first at 19 scary scary and very eyeopening but also i wouldnt change it for the world.

Best bit : The utter love you feel when you gaze at your baby the feel of the softness of their cheeks and the wonderful baby smell.

The worst: Lack of sleep, lack of independance. Your mates stop calling cos youre knee deep in bottles, dirty nappies and have a nasty whiff of baby sick! Moneys also a real issue theres never enough of it just when youve saved enough for your hair done or that new top baby grows out of vests or babygros and you have to scrap your stuff and buy the baby clothes instead.

 

[Gabrielle]

We had our first baby at the age of 18. We've continued to grow our family and counldnt be happier being a young married, little family!

Best thing~...Seeing your baby for the first time and knowing that you are ALL they need. The smile on their face when you walk in the door. It's heartmelting.

Worst Thing~ Trying to find time to fit all of your life in. Somedays are better then others, and not going to lie......somedays you can't even get a bite to eat or a shower.....but girls its all worth it! Children are amazing.....HUGS

 

[Jkelmum]

Thanks for replyin i will update the first post tomorrow xx

 

[heather91]

Best: Holding her little hands and how proud I feel when she finds her thumb, lifts her head - any little things! Also the way she clings to me sometimes and will only settle on me 'cause Im her mom.

Worst: The sleep deprivation can be difficult and when she cries in the night for hours and there's absolutely nothing I can do to settle her Me and my friends are no longer on the same wavelength either. We don't really have anything in common any more.

 

[xarlenex]

The Best: I can be totally stressed out. Doing all the things that have to be done whilst trying to stop him eating the nearest penny. He can take as many temper tantrums..I can feel close to screaming or crying, then he looks up and smiles. That smile makes EVERYTHING worthwhile. Then you realise all those other things aren't important. It can be done when he's sleeping. I love making him smile.

The Worst: Somethings have to be put on hold, like my trip to Africa. But it can still be done, just not when originally planned.

 

[Zarababy1]

Im not a teen mum but i was 20 when i had charlie so not far off still young...

Best thing - having a bond with them that no one could ever brake, beeing the most important person in there life and them in yours, there smile, there laugh, when they learn new things, Feeling love like you've never felt before!

Worst thing - beeing so scared of loosing that little person, worrying your not going to do the best you can!

 

[Jkelmum]

Updated to here what a great list we have got together xx

 

[MoonMuffin]

I'm 19, so was in college when I found out I was pregnant, so not quite as tough as being in high school, but I still had to leave school.

Best:
The overwhelming love you have for your baby, and that smile! There is nothing more amazing then your baby's smile! Even if your having the worst day, when your baby smiles and is so happy to see you it just melts your heart and makes everything ok because you know that you made your baby smile, you make them happy and that just feels so good.

Worst:
Lack of sleep, and having to get up at 6-7 in the morning, especially when before you were sleeping to 1pm. When your sick, but your OH is at work and no one's around to help you out and all you want to do is rest, but you can't. Missing out on college, knowing that you totally took advantage of going. And finally being so alone. All your friends are away at school and you don't know any other moms because the mothers groups around are all age 30+
But I swear that smile makes it all worth while!

 

[xBlackBeautyx]

This is such a nice post! I got goosebumps just reading it.