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Sorry I've been away, Decemberists, have been busy! I promise to catch up soon.
Gaia and FSB, I'm excited you want to join the facebook group! Can't wait to see your little ones!! PM me your facebook info and I'll get you added.
Gaia and FSB, I'm excited you want to join the facebook group! Can't wait to see your little ones!! PM me your facebook info and I'll get you added.
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No, I did not, Gaia 
let me try messaging you instead.
Ok, Munchkin is in bed early tonight, so it's time to catch up:
Anneliese -- love your ultrasound photo!
How neat that you found out it's probably a boy. We found out probably a boy early on, too (and, like you, I thought it was a boy). I'm sorry it's not what you were hoping for, but boys are fun. 
Can't believe you are 17 weeks!! How are you feeling??
Pusscat -- Sounds like you and E are doing well! I'm glad she is still sleeping so well for you.
You asked about 
-- we have been having some, but not back to normal. It definitely feels different from before. I think it's because I'm dry compared to before. We're not in the habit of using lubricant, but I think it would probably help. Anyway, I'm guessing things will be even closer to normal when Munchkin is sleeping in his own room. He's never interrupted us so far, but it's different having him in there.
Smawfl -- sounds like Alexia is growing so well!
I'm sorry that goes along with extra night feedings and fussiness, though. I hope her sleep goes back to normal soon for you. It seems like she started sleeping through pretty early, so I bet she will get through it soon and learn how to sleep well again. I'm sure the teething isn't helping, either. Poor both of you!
You always have such fun activities planned! I think signing is such a great thing. My friend's son who had a speech delay really benefited from being able to express himself through signing. I am on the fence about whether we will do it with Munchkin, since he is bilingual already (although A probably is too, right?). We will probably teach him at least a few basic signs. Should start doing that soon!
Gaia -- I've been thinking of you since we've been having our first diaper rash experience. We've been using a cloth-friendly cream (CJ's BUTTer) and trying to give him some time to air out during changes (which he loves -- I don't know about yours). Also trying to change him more frequently. We'd been leaving it a little too long, I think, in order to be sure that he was done, so trying to do less of that. Has the diaper rash situation improved for you?
I hope you are getting lots more smiles now. Munchkin was smiley from early on but he's become even more so in the past few weeks. I thought it was just a matter of learning how to do it and then they'd do it as much as they were going to, but apparently not! So I bet he will be more generous with his smiles soon, if he's not already. 6-10 weeks or so was a challenging time for us, so I hope you are holding up okay. I'm sorry he has been cranky, hope he isn't getting sick. We thought Munchkin might be a couple weeks ago but it turned out to just be a random congested day, knock on wood.
Mini -- have you scheduled the SA yet? I agree, it's weird that they won't test both of you.
Personally I would not tell very many people, but telling a friend or two you can trust to keep their mouths shut might be nice. I told two friends before we started TTC, and it was good to have their support. They were both pregnant at the time so they were pretty sensitive to TTC issues and the need for privacy and patience.
Hanyou -- thank you for sharing your birth story
it sounds like it was very quick and went VERY smoothly! Well done for only getting a first degree tear with a big baby and an epidural. 
It sounds like he's been a handful, but he's so cute and I'm glad he rewards your efforts with smiles.
DS -- sounds like your little man is keeping you on your toes, but has been lots of fun too! I love that squealing phase. Munchkin is just starting to do that, but I've seen older babies at baby group do it. Our group facilitator calls it the "pterodactyl phase." 
FSB -- Can't wait to see your boy!! Hope you are doing well!
We are doing well over here. Munchkin has changed so much in the past few weeks! He definitely does not seem like a newborn anymore. It's a really fun time. He's getting so much better at interacting with both people and things, and so much stronger physically.
His sleep has been variable...he was sleeping 7 hours consistently for a couple weeks about a month ago, then it was 5-6 for a while, and now it's 4-5. And that's just the one long stretch. Usually he wakes up three times between 8 PM bedtime and 6:30 AM wake up time, and sometimes more. He almost always needs to eat, and usually eats quite a lot, although once every few days he'll just need shushing and rocking. It would be nice if he went back to the other schedule, but it doesn't bother me that much, and I'm confident that he'll learn to sleep more when he's ready.
I've been trying a naptime routine for the past few days to try to make it easier for him to fall asleep for naps, which has always been a challenge -- often it takes an hour or more beyond the point when he's clearly sleepy. I think the routine has helped a lot already. It's been nice to see him happier during the day and to spend less time trying to help him sleep.
We're waiting to hear back about daycare. There's a possibility we might get a spot in February. That will be a huge transition. I leave him with DH or my mother for 2-3 hours every couple of days, for work things or so I can get some exercise, but if we get the half day schedule I'm hoping for I can leave him up to 6 hours at daycare. I hate thinking about it, but hopefully it will just mean some added flexibility, since I always have the option of leaving him for less than the full time. And it would be nice to rely less on DH and my mother when scheduling things at work. (I should still be able to work from home and with flexible hours much of the time.)
Overall, things are really good -- I am enjoying Munchkin so much! I don't think I really disliked the newborn stage while it was going on, but I can see why people sometimes want to get it over with and get on to the part we're at now.
let me try messaging you instead.Ok, Munchkin is in bed early tonight, so it's time to catch up:
Anneliese -- love your ultrasound photo!
How neat that you found out it's probably a boy. We found out probably a boy early on, too (and, like you, I thought it was a boy). I'm sorry it's not what you were hoping for, but boys are fun. Can't believe you are 17 weeks!! How are you feeling??Pusscat -- Sounds like you and E are doing well! I'm glad she is still sleeping so well for you.
You asked about -- we have been having some, but not back to normal. It definitely feels different from before. I think it's because I'm dry compared to before. We're not in the habit of using lubricant, but I think it would probably help. Anyway, I'm guessing things will be even closer to normal when Munchkin is sleeping in his own room. He's never interrupted us so far, but it's different having him in there.Smawfl -- sounds like Alexia is growing so well!
I'm sorry that goes along with extra night feedings and fussiness, though. I hope her sleep goes back to normal soon for you. It seems like she started sleeping through pretty early, so I bet she will get through it soon and learn how to sleep well again. I'm sure the teething isn't helping, either. Poor both of you! You always have such fun activities planned! I think signing is such a great thing. My friend's son who had a speech delay really benefited from being able to express himself through signing. I am on the fence about whether we will do it with Munchkin, since he is bilingual already (although A probably is too, right?). We will probably teach him at least a few basic signs. Should start doing that soon!
Gaia -- I've been thinking of you since we've been having our first diaper rash experience. We've been using a cloth-friendly cream (CJ's BUTTer) and trying to give him some time to air out during changes (which he loves -- I don't know about yours). Also trying to change him more frequently. We'd been leaving it a little too long, I think, in order to be sure that he was done, so trying to do less of that. Has the diaper rash situation improved for you?
I hope you are getting lots more smiles now.
Munchkin was smiley from early on but he's become even more so in the past few weeks. I thought it was just a matter of learning how to do it and then they'd do it as much as they were going to, but apparently not! So I bet he will be more generous with his smiles soon, if he's not already. 6-10 weeks or so was a challenging time for us, so I hope you are holding up okay. I'm sorry he has been cranky, hope he isn't getting sick. We thought Munchkin might be a couple weeks ago but it turned out to just be a random congested day, knock on wood.Mini -- have you scheduled the SA yet? I agree, it's weird that they won't test both of you.
Personally I would not tell very many people, but telling a friend or two you can trust to keep their mouths shut might be nice. I told two friends before we started TTC, and it was good to have their support. They were both pregnant at the time so they were pretty sensitive to TTC issues and the need for privacy and patience.Hanyou -- thank you for sharing your birth story
it sounds like it was very quick and went VERY smoothly! Well done for only getting a first degree tear with a big baby and an epidural. It sounds like he's been a handful, but he's so cute and I'm glad he rewards your efforts with smiles. DS -- sounds like your little man is keeping you on your toes, but has been lots of fun too!
I love that squealing phase. Munchkin is just starting to do that, but I've seen older babies at baby group do it. Our group facilitator calls it the "pterodactyl phase." FSB --
Can't wait to see your boy!! Hope you are doing well!We are doing well over here. Munchkin has changed so much in the past few weeks! He definitely does not seem like a newborn anymore. It's a really fun time.
He's getting so much better at interacting with both people and things, and so much stronger physically.His sleep has been variable...he was sleeping 7 hours consistently for a couple weeks about a month ago, then it was 5-6 for a while, and now it's 4-5. And that's just the one long stretch. Usually he wakes up three times between 8 PM bedtime and 6:30 AM wake up time, and sometimes more. He almost always needs to eat, and usually eats quite a lot, although once every few days he'll just need shushing and rocking. It would be nice if he went back to the other schedule, but it doesn't bother me that much, and I'm confident that he'll learn to sleep more when he's ready.
I've been trying a naptime routine for the past few days to try to make it easier for him to fall asleep for naps, which has always been a challenge -- often it takes an hour or more beyond the point when he's clearly sleepy. I think the routine has helped a lot already. It's been nice to see him happier during the day and to spend less time trying to help him sleep.
We're waiting to hear back about daycare. There's a possibility we might get a spot in February. That will be a huge transition. I leave him with DH or my mother for 2-3 hours every couple of days, for work things or so I can get some exercise, but if we get the half day schedule I'm hoping for I can leave him up to 6 hours at daycare.
I hate thinking about it, but hopefully it will just mean some added flexibility, since I always have the option of leaving him for less than the full time. And it would be nice to rely less on DH and my mother when scheduling things at work. (I should still be able to work from home and with flexible hours much of the time.)Overall, things are really good -- I am enjoying Munchkin so much!
I don't think I really disliked the newborn stage while it was going on, but I can see why people sometimes want to get it over with and get on to the part we're at now.
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Thanks SE. I don't feel 'disappointed' at all anymore. In fact, since I'm convinced it's a boy anyway, I've become very attached to the idea and I would honestly feel a little disappointed if I were told it was a girl at my next ultrasound. It would kind of be like I'm losing a baby because I've already become so attached to a baby boy. Our appointment is next Wednesday, which also happens to be our anniversary, so it will be extra special if we can get the sex confirmation then.
And I'd love to join the Facebook group too, but I just want to make sure it's private from the public? And if I join will people on my friend's list see that I joined the group?
And I'd love to join the Facebook group too, but I just want to make sure it's private from the public? And if I join will people on my friend's list see that I joined the group?
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oh, and here's a belly shot at 13 and 17 weeks. I wanted to try to take one every week to see the progression, but I always forget, so looks like I'll manage one every month. (oh and sorry for the cluttered bookcase in the background 
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https://i47.tinypic.com/29binep.jpg
(oh and sorry for the cluttered bookcase in the background )https://i47.tinypic.com/29binep.jpg
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Seaweed - Emilia loves nappy-off time! In the evening it's often the only thing that will calm her down if she's getting grumpy. I think that's the main reason she enjoyed baby massage so much as it was 45 minutes of naked freedom!
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Lovely little bump Anneliese
Totally hidden you say . . . Where do I sign up? Auntie mini needs to meet the babies!
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Little nudists, eh? Naked time must be a lot less suspenseful for mama though with a girl baby...
Can't wait to add everyone to the facebook group! Will PM you, Anneliese and Mini. Anneliese, you look fantastic!
Can't wait to add everyone to the facebook group! Will PM you, Anneliese and Mini. Anneliese, you look fantastic!
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Little nudists, eh? Naked time must be a lot less suspenseful for mama though with a girl baby...
Can't wait to add everyone to the facebook group! Will PM you, Anneliese and Mini. Anneliese, you look fantastic!
Suspenseful lol...........my little man can't go 2mins without peeing so there is no suspense involved, I already know we are gonna get wet
Sure does help with the diaper rash though.Are any of you ladies having PP complications? Looks like I'm probably going to have to have surgery on my rectum
! I had a 4th degree tear and really bad hemerroids and apparently I also have internal hemerroids as well as external ones. I have been having so many problems back there with bleeding and severe pain while going to the restroom and then a couple days after. It hurts so bad and nothing has helped. I am having to go to a colorectal surgeon tom.
It's so frustrating
and apparently I am the only one on this forum........of course. Enough of the moan lol.Little man has also started sticking his tongue out at me lol. He's so funny. I just wish he would smile and not look so perplexed every time I put a camera in front of him lol. Well I better jump on housework while I can!
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DS you aren't alone! I had a hemerrhoid for the first time in my life during third Tri. And pushing made them so so much worse! I have a prescription for a foam I'm going to try...I really hope it doesn't come to something more serious like surgery, eeek!
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Hi Ladies
Pusscat - glad you enjoyed Sign, sounds fun and definitely helpful if they can communicate before talking!
Seaweed - I hope she goes back to sleeping better. Seems like it's alternate good and bad nights at the moment, last night wasnt too bad with only one waking. I'm not sure if she's too cold perhaps? I've just put a hot water bottle in her cot and sleeping bag to warm it up a little before she gets in, hopefully it will help a little.
Yes Alexia is bilingual - trying to attempt trilingual with my very basic knowledge of French... So far I go as far as saying "Sophie La Giraffe" in a French accent when I give her the Sophie giraffee teething toy!
What nap time routine are you using?
Hope you get the daycare slot you want!
Anneliese - How lovely that your scan is on your anniversary! Love the bump pics!!
Mini - how are you doing? When will your tests start? Looking forward to seeing you over in the FB group!
DS0910 - sorry you are having to have surgery
I was worried I would have problems in that area as very early PP I had issues and was in a lot of pain but thankfully cleared up with a change in diet, plenty of water and lots of prune juice! While pregnant I really suffered with constipation and if I dont get my daily glass of prune juice I have issues. Hope surgery goes well
Pusscat - glad you enjoyed Sign, sounds fun and definitely helpful if they can communicate before talking!
Seaweed - I hope she goes back to sleeping better. Seems like it's alternate good and bad nights at the moment, last night wasnt too bad with only one waking. I'm not sure if she's too cold perhaps? I've just put a hot water bottle in her cot and sleeping bag to warm it up a little before she gets in, hopefully it will help a little.
Yes Alexia is bilingual - trying to attempt trilingual with my very basic knowledge of French... So far I go as far as saying "Sophie La Giraffe" in a French accent when I give her the Sophie giraffee teething toy!
What nap time routine are you using?
Hope you get the daycare slot you want!
Anneliese - How lovely that your scan is on your anniversary! Love the bump pics!!
Mini - how are you doing? When will your tests start? Looking forward to seeing you over in the FB group!
DS0910 - sorry you are having to have surgery
I was worried I would have problems in that area as very early PP I had issues and was in a lot of pain but thankfully cleared up with a change in diet, plenty of water and lots of prune juice! While pregnant I really suffered with constipation and if I dont get my daily glass of prune juice I have issues. Hope surgery goes well
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Definitely give it a try! I used to hate the taste if it but used to it now.doesn't look very visually appealing though but does the trick!
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Oh no DS, I'm sorry about the hemorrhoids! That's awful. I hope it went well today with the surgeon. Any updates? And Gaia, I'm sorry you're having that issue too!
Happily, the only thing I've noticed in the way of postpartum issues so far is that my hair is falling out in gobs...not attractive. Poor Munchkin is losing all his hair too, so at least misery has company (although it looks cuter on him!). DH and I have also racked up a few parenting injuries while carrying around our rather large LO. DH pinched a nerve in his hand and I did something weird to my shoulder. But nothing requiring surgery (yet)!
For naptime, we first go around turning out the lights and shutting the blinds, and I sing him "Twinkle Twinkle" with added verses about how it's time for Munchkin's nap and he's a very sleepy boy. Then he nurses either to sleep or almost, then I put him in his bouncy chair and he sleeps there. At the moment, it sometimes takes a couple iterations before he is asleep...but I'm hoping and envisioning that if we do it consistently for a week or two it will be lights out, singing, nursing, sleep, which is roughly how it is now at bedtime.
What routines is everyone else using?
How cool that you are speaking to her in French! We talked about trying three languages but DH decided he isn't quite committed enough. But Munchkin will still learn a few phrases at least. Probably the same in sign language!
I hope it went well today with the surgeon. Any updates? And Gaia, I'm sorry you're having that issue too!Happily, the only thing I've noticed in the way of postpartum issues so far is that my hair is falling out in gobs...not attractive. Poor Munchkin is losing all his hair too, so at least misery has company (although it looks cuter on him!). DH and I have also racked up a few parenting injuries while carrying around our rather large LO. DH pinched a nerve in his hand and I did something weird to my shoulder. But nothing requiring surgery (yet)!
For naptime, we first go around turning out the lights and shutting the blinds, and I sing him "Twinkle Twinkle" with added verses about how it's time for Munchkin's nap and he's a very sleepy boy.
Then he nurses either to sleep or almost, then I put him in his bouncy chair and he sleeps there. At the moment, it sometimes takes a couple iterations before he is asleep...but I'm hoping and envisioning that if we do it consistently for a week or two it will be lights out, singing, nursing, sleep, which is roughly how it is now at bedtime.What routines is everyone else using?
How cool that you are speaking to her in French!
We talked about trying three languages but DH decided he isn't quite committed enough. But Munchkin will still learn a few phrases at least. Probably the same in sign language!
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No routines really. Sometimes I swaddle and nurse him and get him to nap in his crib, other times just gang with him on the couch when he naps, other times he naps while we are out and about...
Bedtime he goes at the same time as us right now, around 9-10 since he sleeps with me. We usually watch something on Netflix in bed while I nurse him and he falls asleep. Then I go to sleep.
I think around 3-4 months I'll see if he can get into a nap routine and might start transitioning him to his crib for the first part of the night. Especially if he starts needing to go to sleep earlier than 10, which I hear happens around then.
I actually don't want him in his room that young but if he's in the cosleeper in our room I think he wakes easily from our voices/movements. If he's beside me it doesn't seem to wake him though...
Bedtime he goes at the same time as us right now, around 9-10 since he sleeps with me. We usually watch something on Netflix in bed while I nurse him and he falls asleep. Then I go to sleep.
I think around 3-4 months I'll see if he can get into a nap routine and might start transitioning him to his crib for the first part of the night. Especially if he starts needing to go to sleep earlier than 10, which I hear happens around then.
I actually don't want him in his room that young but if he's in the cosleeper in our room I think he wakes easily from our voices/movements. If he's beside me it doesn't seem to wake him though...
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Well turns out it wasn't hemorrhoids, it's a fissure which is a tear. Mine is constantly tearing and creating scar tissue so the Dr says it will never heal on it's own at this point as I have a lot of scar tissue (which is what we mistook for hemorrhoids) so it is surgery Friday morning
As for our routine, I think he is still a little young to have a dead set routine but I try to stick as close to one as I can (since his sleep has been so screwed the past couple days night time is just whatever).
Usually wakes at 6 or 7
nap hopefully 2 hours at 10 or 11
nap hopefully 2 hours around 2 or 3
bed at 8 or 9
The naps can be an hour or two later or earlier but that is the general idea of what I'm trying to do. Sometimes he throws in an extra nap, or sleeps 3 hours instead of two ect..........
Was starting to work like a charm until about two days ago
As for our routine, I think he is still a little young to have a dead set routine but I try to stick as close to one as I can (since his sleep has been so screwed the past couple days night time is just whatever).
Usually wakes at 6 or 7
nap hopefully 2 hours at 10 or 11
nap hopefully 2 hours around 2 or 3
bed at 8 or 9
The naps can be an hour or two later or earlier but that is the general idea of what I'm trying to do. Sometimes he throws in an extra nap, or sleeps 3 hours instead of two ect..........
Was starting to work like a charm until about two days ago
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Not sure if anyone is reading this still but I don't want to say anything on facebook (I know its a private group but I'd probably post in the wrong place and accidently out myself so if you could not mention it there I'd be grateful!!!)
Check out my ticker!!!
Its been a while in the making and feels a bit surreal now! DH asked me 3 times to stop winding him up when I told him . . . just praying it sticks!
(Oh and its unofficial until later as when I came to take a test I realised they were all past their expiry date as its been so long! I took our usual attitude to best before dates and assumed they were unlikely to produce false positives because they were 2 months off!)
Check out my ticker!!!
Its been a while in the making and feels a bit surreal now! DH asked me 3 times to stop winding him up when I told him . . . just praying it sticks!
(Oh and its unofficial until later as when I came to take a test I realised they were all past their expiry date as its been so long! I took our usual attitude to best before dates and assumed they were unlikely to produce false positives because they were 2 months off!)
