the devils child when back from nans.

[mum2b2009]

anyone else's LO the same? he's good as gold at my mum but when he comes home nothing i can do is right! he has tempers screams shouts and crys...it can last a few days too. any ideas why?

 

[Blob]

Yip Tabs used to be like that (still is sometimes)... When she's at my MIL all she does it play with her and does anything she wants. Then when she comes back she wants me to do nothing else but concentrate on her. She has now calmed down but it's been a long process but they just have to figure out for themselves that grans is for a treat and there are different rules

 

[OmarsMum]

No advise, Omar is an angel around my parents, he can spend a whole day at my mum's without a single whine. At home he's always testing our patience & if he doesn't get his way he will either whine non stop or he will have a meltdown.

 

[Tiff]

Claire is the same.

Blob hit the nail on the head, they need to learn that when they are with their grandparents its a treat and not the same for when they are at home. Both my MIL and my parents remark on how easy going of a child she is to look after and tend to not believe me when I'm fed up with her tantrums.

I also believe that they test their boundaries far harder with their primary caregivers. Its a normal behaviour (so I've read) and shows that they are comfortable in their home environments.

Little solace for me though. Claire spent 3 hours with my parents yesterday and its been endless tantrums for me today. Sigh.

 

[DanielleM]

My 7 year old was exactly the same. It does get easier the older they get and understand more. Evan stayed at his nan's Fri night and has been the same as usual the rest of the weekend. x

 

[mrsraggle]

This reminds me of this funny blog post. I love this woman!

 

[oliviarose]

My DD who is 8 is still like this. She comes home with such an attitude. She feels that she can back chat with you and argue with you. She thinks that she can get away with murder!!!

I haven't experienced it with LO yet though. But he doesn't really go around if I aren't there. He usually has a couple of hours alone there from me being at work to picking them both up.

 

[Lulu]

My LO is like this at times, esp when he's been to MILs (she looks after him every Wednesday afternoon). I put it down to the combination of neither my MIL or SIL will say No to LO. So he gets to do as he pleases and when he comes home I have the cheek to discipline him and he doesn't like it.

Also my ILs don't talk to LO in a normal voice, they use a high pitched squeaky tone which gets him hyper. They seem to think that letting him run riot close to bedtime is a good thing as 'he's just letting off steam'. When actually he is getting over-tired and is close to a meltdown, which happens just after I pick him up every Wednesday and inform him it's bedtime. (I love Wednesday evenings )

 

[Sovereign]

Charlie is exactly the same. Stayed at my mums sat night and yesterday afternoon he did nothing but cry, scream and tantrum x

 

[smokey]

I learnt very quickly that grandparents lie, they arnt always as well behaved with them as they make out because they want us to think they can handle them fine.
It isnt always a case of angel for them devil for us.
They do tend to spoil them rotten though because they know at the end of the day they can just hand them back, somtimes it feels like its the kids and gtandparents against us

 

[Tiff]

I know Claire is an angel for my parents. But that's because they do EVERYTHING with her from the second she steps foot in the door until its time to go. Their house is like this mini child oasis: Backyard has huge homemade sandbox, pool, kiddie pool and my dad likes to stash toys and treats all over the place so its like an easter hunt every time they come over.

Downstairs inside the house has one hallway completely covered in chalkboard paint, more toys than the eye can see and all the stuff for crafts. They scour consignment shops everytime they're out for Little People stuff for cheap.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining. I love that they're so committed to having fun with her. But I can't give her that undivided attention all day/every day that they give to her for the couple of hours she's there.

She spends FAR more time with my MIL, and while my MIL has a similar set up for Claire at her place I'm more inclined to believe that she glosses over the fact that Claire acts up while there.

 

[colsy]

How funny you should ask this today - I've been wondering exactly the same thing about my LO all day. He spent the weekend at his grandma's. He absolutely loves it, and so does she. But god help us for the day we get back home. He's been a total pain in the bum all day today (for both me and OH). Having said all of that, I've got no advice, sorry!