The first step is acknowledging....

[CapitalChick]

Ok...I'm acknowledging. I'm jealous.
A friend of mine (not my best friend, just more like a really good friendly acquaintance) confided in me some months ago that she was TTC...I was so excited because we had just started trying too. We realized we had similar cycles and had been TTC for the same amount of time. She got pregnant really quickly and, of course, I didn't.

For reasons I won't go into, I see her almost every day (or at the very least, a couple times a week). Our schedules just work that way. She's into maternity clothes now, neauseated and....well....she's just pregnant.

I've informed my hubby that I'm going to have to change around my routine a bit to avoid her. I cannot handle it. Every few times I see her I end up having a bit of a meltdown afterwards, where I cry and feel awful all night.
There is no other way to put this. I'm jealous. I don't wish her badly at all. I just want so badly to be where she is right now.

I admit it. I'm jealous.

 

[*babydust*]

when you want something so badly that someone else has,its totally understandable to be jelous.in fact,im the same.my friend got pregnant in the first month! im with you on feeling awful and crying at night.. hope you get your BFP soon.

 

[jo27]

It's prefectly understandable. People deal with things in different ways and if that's what you've gotta do to get through it then there's nothing wrong with that

 

[Arcanegirl]

Its a perfectly normal feeling to have, i would be the same even to strangers.
Where i work i see alot of pg women and babies and i cant help but stare a little wishing it were me.

 

[polo_princess]

Oh hunni im sorry your feeling like that, i guess its just a natural reaction, try not to avoid your friend though, no matter how hard it is, after all pregnant or not she's still your friend

 

[Sinead]

((((hugs))))) I know exactly how you feel. My Sister-in-law has just announced that she is pregnant. I spent the whole of Christmas Eve in tears. What made things worse was she hadn't had it confirmed, but when I was 2 weeks late, and dh told his mother she had such a go at us for thinking it and told me that I wasn't pregnant and was just imagining it. I had to bite my tongue over Christmas

 

[faith_may]

 

[miel]

don't feel bad ! i am jealous too

 

[Iwantone!!!]

aawww hunni it must be hard u will have ur bfp soon babesxxxxxxx

 

[dakini]

I think we all feel that way. I am jealous and there's no one I know right now that's pg...they've all just had their babies. It's hard, but we'll all get there soon.

 

[poppy]

It is really hard when you want a baby really badly and your friend is pregnant or has a baby.

My best friend has a one year old girl and every time we go out for coffee, she takes me around the baby clothes and stuff. I had a miscarriage in November after a couple of months ttc. I had a break in December and am beginning to think of trying again soon. Even though I am really happy for my friend, I do sometimes feel a little sad when I see her as it reminds me that I would have been three months pregnant if I hadn't miscarried. I suppose us ttcers just have to pick ourselves up and keep positive.

Good luck hun!

 

[diva4180]

 

[Mervs Mum]

My DH's friends wife fell pregnant after 1 month of trying just before xmas and I was jealous.....very much so. The she had a mc and I felt terrible. I dont think there is anything unusual about it.