The Good Points...

[~ Vicky ~]

Okay, since today seems to be the day every one is on a huge downer, I thought i'd lighten the mood a little.

Surely, there are some good points to being a single mummy? Deep down I know there are some for all of us, so come on, lets name them!

For me ;

1 - I have my own independence back - something I didn't have much of in my relationship

2 - Most of the big 'important' decisions to make ie. names are my call so no arguments and I get my way everytime.

3 - I will be the one to witness all the firsts - smile, laugh, steps, words etc

4 - I won't have to 'share' my baby as much (which is selfish but we all want to be the sole protector)

5 - Apart from the minority of jerks, i'm getting huge respect for doing this on my own

6 - It will always be me my baby comes to for comfort.

 

[ella170]

they are good points which i didn't think of. i also i think being a single mum, like many other negative things, can be a blessing in disguise..a huge motivator for wanting to work hard so you can give your child everything (don't have to rely on OH)

 

[lauren-kate]

I'm the only person in the world who can pick up on every single signal he gives, and know exactly what he wants. x

 

[brownhairedmom]

1. I can talk whomever I like without being interrogated
2. I get to pick the names!
3. I get the bed allllllllllllll to myself and can hog all the blankets without anyone complaining
4. I won't have anyone fighting me on if the baby should play with guns/video games...we had very different parenting ideals
5. I can go get whatever I want for lunch without having to have a 1/2 hour debate on where to go
6. I no longer have the "what do you want to do tonight?" "I don't know, what do you want to do tonight?" conversation
7. I can flirt with whoever I please and can't get in trouble

 

[~ Vicky ~]

I'm the only person in the world who can pick up on every single signal he gives, and know exactly what he wants. x

Aww that's a good one!

Love yours Rae, especially about the bed and flirting

Another one.. for now I can think of myself first for a change, rather than think 'Oh Gav won't like that.. '

 

[nikky0907]

Oh God I can think tons!

Actually it doesn't bother me being a single mom.

Love Rae's reasons...

Not being in a commited relationshipn is a huge plus for me!
Flirting!
Being in control (I like not having to justify to anybody)
No disagreements about things and then compromising to something I don't like.
Hugs and kisses for myself (selfish )
Being her biggest support.
Just me and her!
I'll be the person closest to her,knowing every single little thing about her,me and her sharing a bond that nobody ever will.

Of course there are little worries but all in all,I'm satisfied!

 

[leeanne]

The best point is that you all did not stick in a loveless, controlling, physically abusive relationship. The other best point is your child, irregardless if their father is around or not, will know what a healthy, loving relationship is.

It's far better to teach a child love when not in an unhealthy environment.

The other best point is that you are now giving yourself that chance to meet your true love!