oh how I have to contribute towards this thread lol!
Hmmm my ex, when I first met him around 8 years back off a dating site, I thought he looked like a lassie dog, but I thought hey I would give him a chance
We had a coffee, I thought he was a bit wet as he forgot where he parked his car and his mother and sister kept ringing, but still I thought he was sweet as he blushed a few times having not had a girlfriend before.
He went home long drive back to where he lived up north, logged on MSN that night I said I had a nice time today what did you think of me his reply was "I thought you were overweight" which hit me like a bomb. Anyway any self respecting woman probably wouldn't of saw this twat from that point onwards, but because I had a low self esteem I did the deadly mistake and saw him again and again.
What followed was constant put downs about my weight, digs whenever I ate, starving me when I came over to visit, idiotic exercise routines, I almost lost my life walking by a cliff top whilst he was trying to walk my weight off, and his reply was "I am only doing it cos I care about your health - yeah right" He proposed to me, as he wanted me to move in with him, we ordered the engagement ring, he talked to his mum, she put a stop to the engagement, he laughed about it, backing out of it, I had to pay for the ring, he made a joke of I was the only women he knew that would pay for my own engagement ring.
When I went over to stay with him, sometimes he would expect me to pay for my own food and gas and electric, he would stay on his computer most of the time throughout my stay, esp a couple of Christmasses ago, was the worst one I ever had, I stayed downstairs getting drunk on bacardi and coke whilst he buggered off upstairs on his games the entire Christmas.
So at this point I had - had enough, I broke up with him for 6 months, he kept pestering me, saying he missed me, his sister said he was depressed, so I gave in and saw him last summer, I was doing fine without him, anyway one thing lead to another and it ended up that he would keep coming down for sex, would make excuses why he can't go out, can't afford it, I got pregnant, I was told I couldn't have babies, he said that I should terminate as he couldn't afford the maintainance. I didn't he didn't speak to me in 3 months because of that decision, he makes a comeback, says he will support us, when really he just wanted sex, was getting to the point where I was in tears whilst he was humping me in bed, he wouldn't leave me alone, or respect the fact that I didn't want to have sex feeling non too great pregnant, he never talked about the baby, never bought anything for her, because I was gonna take the decision of leaving him off the certificate he suddenly decides he wants to be in the baby's life. He has taken paternity leave off next week, but has no intention of seeing the birth or me, he said he would see me the week after and spend a few days, I told him I do not want him to stay with me, he can get a hotel, he said sod that ill bring my airbed, this was only this morning, he has no respect for me, on his paternty leave he will probably take his mother out on holiday like he always does, one day this twat will get what he is owed. Recently too he has decided to take someone out, so much for not affording to look after a child, why didn't I see this earlier, why did I leave it too late to work out what a 1st class prat mind fu**er this guy is.
Anyway shall have my phone switched off now until after the birth, I am not taking anymore guilt hassle till I am ready to face it, with professional help I think
have we got the same ex 
guessing there situation wil end up simarlar to mine..
